is in love, no matter which party it is, he hopes to be recognized and blessed by both parents, but sometimes it is his parents who oppose it. Why do parents interfere with their children's love? In fact, the main reason is that in the eyes of your parents, you will never grow up. You have experienced or seen many misfortunes for most of your life. They are reluctant to let you go, and they don't want these misfortunes to happen to you.
Of course, many lovers can also understand this behavior of their parents, and they will also make changes and work hard to get their parents' blessings. But sometimes, some parents' excessive or even bizarre interference behavior not only ends a relationship, but even triggers a tragedy.
My daughter fell in love with a gangster and was anxious for a single mother. 17 years ago, there was such a case in Beijing: a daughter fell in love, and a single mother was uneasy. She actually "tested" her future son-in-law in person, but the result was a killing. When a daughter is in love, why does her mother strongly oppose her, and why does her boyfriend embark on the criminal path of murder?
In March 2003, Chen Jing, a junior girl who was studying at a university in Beijing, reported to the police that her mother Chen Haiyan was missing. Although the police did a lot of investigations, they still could not find Chen Haiyan. It was not until 4 years later that the police accidentally solved the case: Chen Haiyan had been killed, and the murderer was Chen Jing’s ex-boyfriend, Yan Zhuo. With Yan Zhuo's arrival, the truth also surfaced.
In 1985, because of her husband's derailment, Chen Haiyan was so desperate that she resolutely divorced the other party and lived alone with her 3-year-old Chen Jing. Although life is tight, Chen Haiyan never treats her daughter badly. Fortunately, Chen Jing was also more upbeat, and she didn't worry her mother much about studying. However, perhaps because of her own misfortune, as her daughter grew up, Chen Haiyan said the most, "You must keep your eyes open when you get married, and you must choose carefully when you find a boyfriend."
In 2000, Chen Jing was successfully admitted to university. . Taking advantage of the holidays, Chen Jing went to Beidaihe alone with a group. No one thought that an extremely ordinary trip completely changed the fate of the mother and daughter.
On the way to the destination, Chen Jing met Yan Zhuo, who traveled by the same person. Yan Zhuo is 20 years old and claims to be the manager of a computer company in Zhongguancun. On the beach in Beidaihe that night, Yan Zhuo also pointed to the sky full of stars and told Chen Jing: "I will love you for ten thousand years."
The conversation and romance of the other party caused Chen Jing, who had not been involved in the world, to be deeply involved. She felt that this was something she could trust. A lifelong man, so the two quickly determined their relationship. After returning from the trip, the sensitive Chen Haiyan noticed something was wrong with her daughter, and after repeated questions, Chen Jing revealed her love affairs. Chen Haiyan was very nervous after hearing this:
"Where is he from? Where does he live? Do you know the details of the other party?" The series of questions from
's mother made Chen Jing a little disgusted: "I am not young anymore. It is me who associates with someone. Just leave it alone.” Because of this incident, the atmosphere at home was a bit embarrassing, so Chen Jing simply moved to the school to be quiet.
But the more disgusted her daughter, the more worried Chen Haiyan, she decided to see this young man first. A few days after the cold war between the mother and daughter, Chen Haiyan asked her daughter to take her boyfriend home for dinner. That night, Yan Zhuo brought a fruit basket to Chen Jing’s home. During the meal, Chen Haiyan knocked on the side and began to "interrogate" the man. Yan Zhuo didn’t mind and introduced himself: “I was born and raised in Beijing, but because my family is poor, I just finished high school. I joined a job, and now I have a computer repair company with my friends in Zhongguancun, with a monthly income of more than 6000.” Yan Zhuo never went to college, and Chen Haiyan felt that she was not worthy of her daughter. Fortunately, the salary was acceptable and barely acceptable.
After eating this meal, Chen Jing was a little happy, because she found that her mother no longer nagging, she felt that her mother had recognized each other, and her relationship with Yan Zhuo also improved. However, on a weekend in October, Chen Haiyan told her daughter seriously, where is Yan Zhuo’s manager. He was just helping friends install computers and had no stable income. After his parents were laid off in the early years, they were still working outside to earn money. The money is used by his son, and Yan Zhuo is a typical gnawing old family.
Only then did the daughter realize that the mother had gone to investigate secretly. However, the mother's bitterness did not change her daughter's mind. Chen Jing once again confronted her mother: "I just like him, now is not the future, no one can separate us!"
daughter's reactionIt made Chen Haiyan a little surprised, but she had to stop this relationship, so Chen Haiyan found Yan Zhuo again and wanted to go to the other party to quit. But Yan Zhuo didn't listen at all, and got closer to Chen Jing instead. In this way, the two sides spent several months in a stalemate.
In order to test her future son-in-law, single mothers "tested her son-in-law"
During the 2001 Spring Festival, Chen Haiyan confided her concerns about her daughter when chatting with friends. A friend persuaded her, “As long as the other party treats your daughter sincerely, it’s okay to be poor. Your ex-husband is not poor. What will happen in the end?” Chen Haiyan said that Yan Zhuoyao is also a man with a heart. Wouldn't the daughter be as strenuous as herself in the future? The friend replied half-jokingly, you can find a pretty girl to explore his bottom to see if the other person is a gentleman.
The speaker has no intention and the listener is interested. Chen Haiyan thinks this is a good way, but who wants to test it? After thinking about it, Chen Haiyan has a candidate, yes, she is herself...
After the Spring Festival, Chen Haiyan once again invited Yan Zhuo to be a guest at home. This time Chen Haiyan was quite enthusiastic, and Yan Zhuo was a little flattered. But after coming down several times, Yan Zhuo became accustomed to it. He often came to Chen's house. The three of them ate together and watched TV. Sometimes, Yan Zhuo simply lived at home. Chen Jing was also very happy about her mother's changes. She felt that her mother had figured it out and accepted this "future son-in-law", and all this was Chen Haiyan's plan.
In August 2002, Chen Jing and a few classmates were going to Tianjin for two days. Although his girlfriend was not at home, but Yan Zhuo, who was already used to eating meals, went to Chen Jing’s home after get off work. At this time, Chen Haiyan had already prepared the food. , It's just that there is half a bottle of liquor on the dinner table.
Chen Haiyan smiled and told the other party that the wine was left over during dinner at the previous unit. Since it is opened, don't waste it, and drink it tonight.
Yan Zhuo had no objection. At dinner, after a few glasses of white wine, Chen Haiyan began to lament that she was suffering. When it came to the emotional part, she lay on Yan Zhuo’s shoulder and wept. Yan Zhuo didn’t evade through Jiujin. , The two had a relationship.
The next day, after waking up, Yan Zhuo felt that he had no face to see Chen Jing anymore, so he hurriedly fled from Chen's house. But Chen Jing didn't know what happened during this period. When she got home, she took Yan Zhuo home as usual. However, the atmosphere at the dinner table made Chen Jing aware of the strangeness. And after that, Yan Zhuo also began to find all kinds of reasons to shirk, and stopped going to the Chen family for dinner.
Chen Jing felt that Yan Zhuo had someone else in his heart, so she asked her mother to complain. Chen Haiyan said that she would go to Yan Zhuo to talk to herself. The next day, Chen Haiyan saw Yan Zhuo and said sharply:
"I just wanted to test you. I didn't expect you to be this kind of person. Now there are two ways for you. Either you break up with my daughter, and I'll be it. It never happened; either I will sue you for rape and let you spend the rest of your life in jail." In desperation, Yan Zhuo had to compromise, and the relationship between Chen Jing and Yan Zhuo was in jeopardy.
In November 2002, a frustrated Chen Jing asked Yan Zhuo to break up, and the other party acquiesced. Chen Haiyan took the opportunity to introduce a cadre's son to her daughter, perhaps out of revenge, and Chen Jing was with the other party soon.
But Yan Zhuo didn't know everything. He also planned to go to the door and propose to Chen Jing when the two sides calmed down. However, this is all his wishful thinking.
The single mother issued an order to chase away guests, and the future son-in-law moved to kill
One day in December, Yan Zhuo came to Chen's house, but only Chen Haiyan was at home. At this time, Chen Haiyan was proud of the spring breeze. Yan Zhuo didn’t pay attention to Yan Zhuo at all. Yan Zhuo knelt and begged for a while, but Chen Haiyan remained unmoved and said: “It will disappear forever, or call the police.”
February 20, 2003, even though it has already A few months have passed, but Yan Zhuo still remembers Chen Jing. He drunk and ran to Chen's house that day, and he wanted to see Chen Jing for whatever he said. But Chen Haiyan scolded Yan Zhuo again.
Thinking about being threatened by each other during this period of time, and being unable to be with the one he loves, Yan Zhuo was furious, and immediately rushed to pinch Chen Haiyan’s neck, and cursed: "You sinister woman, All my things are ruined, I will kill you!" After a few minutes, Chen Haiyan stopped breathing. Yan Zhuo was so scared that his mind went blank, but after calming down, he decided to dispose of the corpse.
Afterwards, he used a kitchen knife to dismember the body and put it into several bags.After the show, he took away Chen Haiyan's ID card, bank card, and account book in an attempt to create the illusion that Chen Haiyan had run away from home.
Chen Jing came home from school and found that her mother's documents were gone. She really thought she ran away from home. However, more than ten days later, Chen Jing thought the more things went wrong, and went to the police station to report to the police, but Chen Haiyan was still unable to find her like a dead world.
And Yan Zhuo, after escaping that day, he threw the body part into the old road of Yongding River (the old road) and hid at home for several days. He was relieved when he saw that the police hadn't come to the door for a long time. However, just 4 years later, a friend of Yan Zhuo was arrested for theft. In order to make merit, he reported the murder of Yan Zhuo to the police. It turned out that after the murder, Yan Zhuo often suffered from insomnia and could only rely on alcohol to paralyze himself. When drinking with a friend, Yan Zhuo accidentally said "I killed my mother-in-law and buried it in Yongding River..."
In this way, the police followed the vine and found out that Yan Zhuo had had a feud with Chen Haiyan, who had been missing for many years, and there was a possibility of revenge and murder, so they launched a detailed investigation. As expected, Yan Zhuo was the murderer of Chen Haiyan. On December 23, 2008, the Beijing Intermediate People's Court sentenced Yan Zhuo to death for intentional homicide, suspended for 2 years.
Both parents hope that their children's marriage can be happy and successful. But this cannot be an excuse for forcibly interfering in their children's love. Parents should think more from the perspective of their children, and children should also understand the concerns of their parents. Only when both parties find a balance together can they truly solve the problem.
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