It is this kind of woman who can truly control her marriage

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There is a saying: marry a chicken with a chicken, marry a dog with a dog.

means that many women, what kind of husband they find, what kind of marriage they have to live with.

But in fact, a woman can control her marriage.

01 Only a woman with an opinion can truly control marriage.

I often hear people say: When you marry someone else, you must be good, obedient, diligent, and a good wife.

So many women believe that their status in marriage is obtained by being good, diligent, and obedient.

In fact, the reality is quite the opposite. Those well-behaved, obedient, and diligent women not only have not gained the corresponding family status, but have become increasingly lacking in status.

At home, they have no right to speak, no right to decide, everything is up to the husband, and they are like a nanny, taking care of a man and a family.

has to say that the marriage has become like this, it is actually a kind of sadness.

is a kind of woman, but they can really control their marriage, they live happily and sweetly in their marriage.

And this kind of woman is a woman with a strong opinion. They never let themselves be a nanny in marriage, nor will they become a role that the husband can talk about, but a real mistress.

and such a person is an independent person.

Zhang Meng is a very opinionated person. In marriage, she will never give priority to her husband in everything, let alone be a good wife, but an opinionated person.

No matter what is going on in the family, she chooses to work with her husband to find a solution instead of what the husband says.

In her marriage, she will not choose to compromise and wronged herself, but she will speak out if she has an idea, and will do it in a very assertive way no matter what it is. What is important for

is that she is very confident and respects herself. She always cares about her own feelings. Under her influence, her husband also respects her and cares about her and even puts her first.

In fact, in a marriage, once a woman has no opinion and listens to her husband, she will gradually lose control of the marriage and will gradually lose her position in the marriage.

But those women who are really independent, have their own ideas in marriage, they will respect their own feelings, and will not always wrong themselves.

02 A woman who has no opinion will only become an accessory in marriage

Actually, this is how people get along. The more you have no opinion, the more the other person looks down on you. The more you follow each other, the more the other person will be , And even treat you more exaggeratedly.

And if a woman always has her own opinion in marriage and has her own ideas when she encounters everything, then in marriage, not only will she not always feel wronged, but she can truly control her marriage.

In reality, there are many women who are always constrained by their previous thoughts. They always think that what they should be as women and what they should be as women.

So in marriage, they respect their husbands, and they regard them as heaven, which leads to their lack of dignity in their marriages.

Zhang Ning is such a woman. When her parents were educating her when she was young, they always told her to be good and obedient. She always said that a girl should be like a girl.

therefore, since childhood, his parents forbid Zhang Ning to climb trees, and Zhang Ning was forbidden to do any unlady behavior.

Later, Zhang Ning was obedient and became the lady his parents wanted.

But Zhang Ning like this has many problems in her marriage. After

got married, Zhang Ning wanted to be a wife and would treat her husband and mother-in-law very well, so regardless of her husband's blame or her mother-in-law's accusations, Zhang Ning did not speak, and treated them as always.

But Zhang Ning is like this, they go too far, and even they exaggerate to start pointing at Zhang Ning, always looking forward to holding Zhang Ning.

In marriage, Zhang Ning has no right to speak. The husband says what he says. Even if Zhang Ning has an idea, no one takes it seriously.

So Zhang Ning really became an accessory of her husband in the marriage.

In fact, in a marriage, once a woman is too obedient, too talkative, and has no opinion, she will be despised, and this will also affect a woman's status in the marriage.

allows a woman to have no rights in marriage, and some just cooperate.

have to say that such a marriage is really too sad for a woman.

03 Women who have opinions are the masters of marriage

But those who are really independent will never be like this. They have their own ideas when they encounter anything, and they have their own opinions when they encounter anything, not because of their husbands. Change in one or two sentences, and will not give up your ideas because of your husband.

For them, marriage is equal, and two people maintain a family together, so they will never just listen to their husbands without their own judgment, and will not blindly cooperate with their husbands without themselves Thoughts.

Wang Hong is a very assertive person.

After she married her husband, she would communicate with her husband once they met her, never just listen to her husband, and never make her own decisions.

Under such communication, slowly the husband felt that no matter what happened, the two should make decisions together, so no matter what the husband had, he would discuss with Wang Hong.

Wang Hong gradually gained more and more status in marriage, and her husband respected her more and more.

Especially sometimes, when her mother-in-law makes things difficult for Wang Hong, she will not blindly bear it, but will make it clear to her mother-in-law.

Gradually her mother-in-law discovered that Wang Hong was not very bullying. The important thing was that Wang Hong was too thoughtful and began to learn to respect Wang Hong.

In fact, marriage is like this. Only one woman takes herself more and more seriously, and only one woman respects herself more and more and respects her own ideas.

Only a man will respect us gradually, and will learn to make two people equal in marriage.

04 For the rest of your life, be an independent woman

For the rest of your life, be an independent woman! Don't always suppress your thoughts and listen to your husband.

Because only when we have our own opinions and ideas, they will understand us and learn to respect us.

So, for the rest of your life, learn to be an independent person!

Don’t be afraid to make the wrong decision. Everyone is growing. Making mistakes is inevitable. As long as we give ourselves opportunities to grow, we can do better and better. The point of

is that no one is born to make a decision, and no one makes a perfect decision. We are all groping forward.

So don't be afraid of making mistakes, bravely tell the other person what you think, and be brave to be yourself, in order to truly control the marriage.

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