Vicious mother-in-law of the Republic of China: After the daughter-in-law gave birth, let her feed her son and grandson drink rice soup, who is she

There is a Chinese saying, "Daughter-in-law becomes a mother-in-law for many years." In one sentence, it describes the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as well as the comparison of the way they get along and their status in the small society of family. In modern society, people have gradually realized the balanced relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but this has been achieved by the sacrifices and shouts of generations of women.

Su Xuelin was born on March 26, 1897. For Chinese women, this will be one of the legendary women who will change their destiny. However, Su Xuelin was able to achieve later achievements, but it relied on her own struggle of "one cry, two troubles, three jumps" and the "charity" of her brothers.

In the world where men are still inferior to women during the Republic of China, only a very small number of young people who have been influenced by Western ideas have the heart to change their own destiny, and these people are just a drop in the barn of the common people. Not only the poor, but also the grown-ups of the big families are still "duty" observing the traditional "virtue" left by their ancestors.

Su Xuelin, like almost all traditional late Qing women, cannot "read". But she does have books to read, that is, the "Four Books for Women" and other books that teach women to obey the "three obediences and four virtues". Su Xuelin didn't know what she meant when she was a child, but under the force of her grandmother, she remembered them all.

However, after school, she would secretly take their textbooks to study, or read popular novels such as the "Four Great Classics". These books made her realize that all people are born with equal rights. Has an extremely strong desire to fight.

Fortunately, her new-educated father and uncle kept persuading her grandmother, and she was able to go to elementary school for half a year. In 1914, it coincided with the enrollment of the Elementary Women's Normal School in Anqing Province. Su Xuelin couldn't afford to study, and was severely scolded and beaten by her grandmother. The girl who was only 17 years old thought of suicide to fight.

was her mother who took her back at Iguchi, and under the pressure from the patriarch, she sent her to school. This was the birth of a generation of "female" educators and "female" writers. Perhaps because of these experiences when she was young, Su Xuelin always had a strong sense of irony and criticism when she wrote about her family affairs.

She loves the parents who sent herself to school, but she complains and reprimands her grandmother without mercy. In her biographies, the mother Du Shi is a well-known lady who was cultivated in accordance with the traditional rules of "three obediences and four virtues", so gentleness, tolerance, and filial piety are the "beautiful qualities" of them.

But at this time, Su Xuelin's grandmother finally became a mother-in-law. She put the oppression she had suffered in Su's house for many years on her daughter-in-law. Men are accustomed to this kind of experience of women. In their view, the torture and abuse of mother-in-law to daughter-in-law is just inheriting the legacy of their ancestors.

"Is a good daughter-in-law, so I should endure all the pain and beatings, and wait until the day when I become a mother-in-law." The reason why Du's mother-in-law has a high status in the Su family is because she gave birth to more than a dozen children to the Su family. This child is the "main hero" of the Su family.

So even if it was her own son who came to persuade, the old lady of the Su family had to show her power and beat her son out. This son is Su Xuelin's father. In Su Xuelin's memory, her mother had given birth to several children to the Su family, but the treatment has not been improved.

Her mother cannot sleep in the same room as her husband according to her wishes, but must sleep with the old lady, hit the floor, and always wait for the old lady to sleep. Old lady Su likes to massage every day. Although the Su family can hire a dedicated master, the old lady must let Du come, and Du's fingers and hair can't stop. Z1z

also had to let Du do all the hard work at home. The old lady would rather let the servants invited by Hua Yinzi eat, drink, and have fun, and let Du wash clothes in the cold. And Su Xuelin learned from her elders that she had an older brother who died young. The year when

's mother Du was just married, she had been living with her husband for a month, and she was asked by the old lady to wait in her room. From that day on, Du began to shop in the old lady's room. Later, Du gave birth to a child, still a big fat boy, and it happened that his mother-in-law also gave birth to a child.

This is a great event of double happiness for the Su family, but the mother-in-law is getting older and does not have milk, so she asked Du to feed her baby.Du Shi fed his little uncle, so he had no milk to feed his child, so he had to feed his child rice soup.

The baby’s stomach can stand this, the old lady knows it’s not good, but if she finds that Du is feeding Du’s own child with milk, she will beat and scold Du, and then yell that she’s really pitiful and the daughter-in-law wants to starve her to death. Child! Even her son couldn't stand it and persuaded his mother.

But as long as her son came to persuade her once, Mrs. Su would be even more angry and attack Du Shi more heavily. Thus, Du's first child died so early. After seeing her, Mrs. Su was even more proud, and put the hat of "killing" her own son on Du's head, beating Du's "ominous".

Su Xuelin wrote all this after graduating from school, which caused an uproar in the society. But even though she fought fiercely for her destiny, she eventually couldn't escape the shackles of the traditional family. Su Xuelin's only marriage was due to her parents' orders. This time she still fought, but in 1925 she was taken back by her family and forced to finish the marriage.

In 1927, the relationship between Su Xuelin and Zhang Baoling broke down. After the two divorced, Su Xuelin never had any emotional affairs. She dedicated her life to literary research, and everyone thanked her for all her efforts for the liberation of Chinese women and the progress of Chinese literature.