Writer: Pearl
Finalized: Su Zihou
In today's materialistic and emotional era, everywhere is full of temptations. There are fewer and fewer couples who can grow old together. There are not a few divorced for various reasons, and the most annoying It is undoubtedly an extramarital affair. Do these people who transcend the moral line and treat unfaithful feelings about how much harm they will cause to their parents, spouses, and children?
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Hao Hao's parents divorced, he looks like a different person.
Hao Hao’s father had a close relationship with a female colleague in the company, and was caught by Hao Hao’s mother. On the night of
, my mother roared hysterically. At first, my father kept confessing his mistakes. However, the mother refused to forgive and the two quarreled. After the word "divorce" blurted out, the fierce quarrel closed the door with a "clam" At the end of the sound, the mother sat on the ground and cried with a headache, hiss and her lungs were filled with despair of marriage.
The pictures in the text are all from the Internet. The pictures and texts have nothing to do with
, but Haohao heard everything clearly through the doorkeeper of the room. After his father left, he came out and hugged his mother tightly, and the mother and son cried together.
After the divorce of his parents, his mother became depressed and unhappy. Haohao, who was originally cheerful, lively and very talkative, became taciturn and extremely indifferent after one night. The key is that this incident somehow spread to the ears of neighbors in the neighborhood. There was a lot of discussion about his father's derailment behind him. Even the little friends who used to play together coldly mocked him. How much psychological pressure does he have to bear at the age of ten?
Whether the parents’ marriage is happy or not, the children can be sensitively detected, and paper cannot contain the fire. If the parent’s divorce is caused by one party’s derailment, the children will suffer really great harm.
What kind of harm will the parents' derailment cause to their children?
1, personality defects
After parents cheat, their children will become inferior, sensitive, and rebellious. They are afraid of the gossip of the people around them, care about the eyes of others, and will develop hostility and resentment towards the wrong party, and will not obey the parent’s discipline and become Rebellious. Due to the incompleteness and unhappiness of the family in childhood, children will gradually close themselves, become disliked to communicate, become more and more withdrawn and out of group.
2. Loss of happiness
The integrity and harmony of the family is the biggest source of happiness for children. Once one of the parents derails, it will undoubtedly make the children realize that the parents are not in harmony, the marriage is unhappy, the family is no longer complete, and the child has no sense of security and belonging. .
3, affect children's mate choice, marriage and love
If one parent cheats, the children lose expectation and hope for love, they will treat feelings as child's play, and they may play with feelings when they grow up, pedaling on two boats, etc., do not believe that there is true love in the world , She has a very indifferent attitude towards marriage, preferring to be single instead of getting married.
4. Learning has plummeted.
Suddenly encounter family changes. Children’s hearts are unacceptable. They will think wildly. They are unable to concentrate on their studies because of their lack of self-control. Their grades have declined. The family quarrels and the misfortune of their parents’ marriages make them. If they become tired of learning, if there is no timely guidance, the child will even fall for himself and produce revenge.
Whenever a celebrity couple broke the news about cheating, fans were spitting over who was right and who was wrong. In fact, shouldn't the child of the person concerned be the most concerned? What happened to the children who were divorced by their parents?
What happened to the child whose parents cheated?
1, precocity
At a young age, you have to bear the pressure of public opinion. No matter how parents conceal the facts, sensitive children can perceive and see through. The young ones regard their parents’ cheating as a stain, in a delicate and fragile growth environment , Learned to cover up his emotions prematurely, and camouflaged his innocent and childish heart to incomparably mature.
2, growing up with resentment
children will blame the misfortune of the family, their own discrimination, and gossip to the derailed parent. The pain in their hearts can never be erased. When they meet, they are either indifferent, selfish, or irritable and unforgivable. .
3,Don't dare to love
If children are hit and hurt by their parents' marriage during childhood, they will often cringe and fear when they face their own relationship problems when they grow up. They cannot establish a close relationship with their spouse, and in their relationships Be cautious and suspicious, for fear of repeating the tragic marriage of your parents.
All in all, for children, the family is everything to them. Parental derailment is an indelible shadow and pain for them. I hope that every married person will remember that behind every word and deed you have Staring with a pair of clear and immature eyes, don't take the happiness of the child as the price of your desire to vent.
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