Compassion is actually a very rare quality.
Only when you can feel the pain of others can you feel sympathy.
Compassion for women is much easier than for men.
Because women’s feelings are more delicate and emotional, coupled with instinctive motherhood, it is easy to sympathize with the weak.
Compassion is valuable, but it is not good if it is overflowing.
Especially when choosing your own marriage, if you are with each other out of sympathy, you must be hurt in the end.
Aunt Liang, 58 years old, has been living alone after her divorce, and her daughter and relatives are not in this city.
At a park celebration, she met 32-year-old Xiao Zhou.
Xiao Zhou is so dirty that he hasn't eaten for 4 days.
He asked Aunt Liang for help, hoping she could help him find a job in a restaurant.
Aunt Liang learned that Xiao Zhou had lost her mother in 8 months, and left home at the age of 11 to wander around.
Out of sympathy, she spent money to arrange food and accommodation for him, and found a job for him. When
comes and goes, the two people have more intersections.
One day, Xiao Zhou kneeled down on one knee and proposed to Aunt Liang in the crowd. This act completely stunned Aunt Liang.
She did not expect that this man 26 years younger than herself would fall in love with herself and hope to marry herself.
She was very resistant at first, saying that she wanted to help this poor man just out of kindness.
But Xiao Zhou often ignores the eyes of others, holding her in his arms and saying that he loves her.
So, Aunt Liang slowly accepted him, and the two broke through the barriers to getting married. Z2z
was only 3 months after marriage, Aunt Liang decided to separate. The reason for
is that she felt that Xiao Zhou regretted it.
because he often said in front of him: My friends said that I have found a 58-year-old wife and cannot have children. I should find someone about my age.
Aunt Liang felt very uncomfortable after hearing these words.
In her opinion, she does not hesitate to be an enemy of her family and insists on marrying Xiao Zhou. The only support is Xiao Zhou's love for herself.
Now, this love is no longer firm.
Then, she doesn't need to insist anymore.
But after Aunt Liang moved away, Xiao Zhou regretted it, begged, and repeatedly stated that he had never changed his mind.
Finally, Aunt Liang still couldn't bear to see Xiao Zhou alone and helpless, and decided to get back together.
In my opinion, Aunt Liang's two decisions were not rational enough.
For the first time, she decided to marry Xiao Zhou.
is obviously more sympathetic to Xiao Zhou.
Before she retired, she was an employee of a state-owned enterprise. She was educated and knowledgeable.
And Xiao Zhou had never read books, and started to wander at a very young age, without any special skills.
The life experiences of the two are completely different. Before
was proposed, she never thought that she would have any emotional entanglements with this man.
said in her own words: I can give birth to him at my age, I just look at him poor and want to help him.
For the second time, she decided to get back with Xiao Zhou.
obviously felt that Xiao Zhou had some regrets after getting married, but she still couldn't bear to refuse each other's bitter pleading.
When Xiao Zhou was asked why he would look for a 58-year-old wife, he said: She washes and cooks for me, treats me as a child, and is very good to me. A woman my age disliked me because of bad conditions and refused to marry me.
In fact, these words have already indicated Xiao Zhou's purpose. He couldn't find anyone his age, so he set aside and found an older woman to take care of himself.
Aunt Liang knew that the other party had a plan, but she was still moved by his pitiful, helpless, and unloved, and she felt compassionate.
Compassion is valuable, but the overflow of compassion can easily make people lose their minds and make wrong decisions.
I really don’t know waiting for Aunt Liang to get olderWhen I am older, or when I am sick in bed, will I get the same sympathy and care from Xiao Zhou?
Women still don't put themselves in such a passive position.
Today’s topic: Do you think you can marry each other because of sympathy? Are you a sympathetic person? Welcome to leave a message!
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* About the author: Shan Yuejun, emotional original author, willing to listen, good at writing, I hope my words can warm your heart.
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