fan letter:
Hello, brother Kai, my husband and I have known each other for seven years, and we have been in a long-distance relationship for more than three years. Later, I dropped out of school for him, and he gave up his career for me, so we Live together.
was really good at the beginning. He was never reluctant to lose his temper with me. He would save money every year in order to come to my birthday, every time he came by train.
In the first year we lived together, he said to me.
When he first took me to see my parents back to his house, we were 18 years old. During the Chinese New Year, we would treat guests in rural areas. He asked me to eat. His parents and relatives were there. Z1z others asked him to drink, but I wouldn’t let it. I threw the bowl in front of his parents that day and left.
Later, he still coaxed me. The next year we started to fight because of a little incident. He irritated me that night, and then I became angry. He coaxed me and couldn’t coax me. Z1z I turned on the air conditioner to be cold , Let him blow all night, clothes and pants did not let him wear , the next day he caught a cold, and then we had a cold war for a week.
We often quarrel in front of our parents. I humiliated at my house. I called him poor in front of my parents. Sometimes he would borrow money from friends, but his friends are good, but he only As soon as I borrowed money, I would quarrel with him, because I dislike borrowing money.
My husband likes to eat light, I like spicy, I like to take pictures, he doesn't like it, I like to listen to music, and he likes to play games.
When the two of us often quarreled because of disagreement when eating, we could end up being noisy.
We just got engaged this year. In May, our family wanted one hundred thousand beauties, but his family could only give out thirty-six thousand. What kind of concept do you think? My parents disagreed directly at the time, but I have to marry!
his cousin asked him to hang out during the Chinese New Year at his house last year. I disagree. He was scolded in front of people in their village. His relatives and neighbors saw him, but he still went, so I ran to his second aunt. Go to bed at home and live with his cousin all night.
Later he came to his aunt's house to look for me at night, and I made trouble at his aunt's house again, and then he said that I had made his face ashamed.
To be honest, seven years ago he was never reluctant to attack me. I told him that there are not many girls in who love you like I do. I don’t want your house or your car, or your money, just want you to treat me better. Is it that difficult? .
He jokingly told me two days ago that you asked me to treat you like before. I have always treated you well, but you think about the past you were also very gentle and generous, and now, you were at my house last year What happened! Z3z
, have you forgotten? Actually, all my troubles are just hoping that he can treat me as well as before. As long as there is something that makes me unhappy, must make trouble.
I often use the little gift given by his family to tell me, as long as he makes me unhappy. I hope these thirty thousand and six make me worthy of marriage!
Why is it so difficult to go back to the beginning? When I first met the club, I asked him to accompany me on shopping and traveling. He would accompany me. When
first met, he would take the initiative to take pictures with me, but now he doesn’t want to take pictures, and he doesn’t want to go where he wants to play. I feel it fades when I get engaged!
Is it really me who is too much, so now all the money is in charge of me, his friends will come over to play with us once a year, but as long as my husband pays, I feel unhappy because I don’t Like his friends.
Maybe you will think that a girl like me will leave sooner or later, even if I treat him nicely, you will feel that you shouldn’t fight in front of your parents, right, I’m not very demanding, only hopes to return to what I just met That meeting, that meeting is really good, he has no temper.
Kai Zi replied: Hello girl
, have you ever thought that you are still immature.
You don't even know how to get along well with others, and he can't even give out the 100,000 wedding gift your family needs.
Now you, neither of you can meet each other's requirements, are you sure you are really suitable for marriage?
You said, you want to go back to the meeting you just met, it was very good at that time, he had no temper.
What you mean by this is that hopes that all the tempers you have made to him, the dislikes you have said to him,He should treat all the injuries he has caused as having never happened before, and write them off?
I don’t ask you if this is possible, I just want to ask you, why?
Why can't you humiliate him, torture him, or fight with him?
because you are a girl?
Of course, I’m discussing this with you now and there may be no results, you just do it because you feel that you lose your temper for granted, so why not come and analyze with you.
I guess, you must have been a girl who was not taken seriously since you were a child.
Your living environment makes you extremely insecure throughout the growth process, so you will do it.
Your work is to get him more attention and more love, so you will scold him in front of everyone.
The reason why you show no affection in front of others, I believe, is probably the way your family treated you when you were young.
Because you have been treated in a rough way since you were young, you don't know how to express your emotions correctly, and you don't know what way you should use for correct communication.
You will only treat the person you love in a familiar way, because in your understanding, this is the way to express love.
I tell you these things now, maybe no one has ever told you when you grow up so old.
What is love?
Love means understanding and respecting him. What is hatred? It is to dislike him and hurt him.
I asked you earlier, do you think you are a girl, so you can lose your temper casually?
may be a girl who fell in love at a very young age, has a low level of education, and has limited thinking and vision. You will think: "Yes, I am a female, and he will let me."
, When you use the female advantage to gain the initiative in the relationship between the sexes, once your female advantage is absent, everything you do to him now may get doubled revenge.
What is called a female advantage, that is, you are young now, you may be beautiful, especially you have fertility value.
But one day you get old and Zixue is gone. After a few children have given birth, your roles will start to change.
How much do you dislike him now, you will be disliked and hurt accordingly in the future.
So girl, there is no turning back in this world. If everything that has happened can be erased and recreated, then this world will no longer exist.
You want to go back in time, I am not a god, and I don't have a time machine, I can't do it.
I can only tell you, cherish it, cherish this man, cherish your female advantage, and don't squander it.
also, the sense of security is not given to you by others. You can only rely on yourself. How does the sense of security come from? relies on knowledge, experience, hard work, and self-growth.
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