Maugham describes the relationship between women and love in his novel "The Moon and Sixpence":
"A woman marries a man who makes sense, and she has no intention of having any other people for the time being. Feelings, so as long as they get along for a certain period of time, she will have feelings for him, and think that this is love.
In fact, it is a kind of complex: including satisfaction with a stable life, pride in family property, and being The joy that people need, and the pride in starting a family."
believes that women who have not experienced love or been tempered in marriage do not like this statement. Or it can be said that they do not believe that this is their true self.
In the hearts of women, love is related to fairy tales. The extent of this correlation is different for each woman. But at least, it is completely out of genuine feelings and has nothing to do with others.
In this world, when you first look at something, you will feel that it is vulgar, or even too mundane. However, the years are passing forward, and the human heart is constantly filled with something, which allows us to understand our own heart more comprehensively.
At this time, when you look at the views that you did not want to admit, you will tacitly agree that they are right.
Love is longing, but it's not something you must do.
Maugham's "Blade" tells the story of a young talent Larry, who put aside his success in the eyes of the world, and turned to pursue spiritual wealth.
However, the protagonist I want to talk about today is the story of Larry’s first girlfriend, Isabel.
Isabel is a beautiful girl with a tall figure and a sunny and lively atmosphere. She seems to always have a lot of lively things to say and endless interesting things to do. A girl like
is undoubtedly likable. She is never lonely by her side. There are always people who like to be with her or love her silently.
Although she knows that she is likable, she is still a dedicated girl. She loves her fiance Larry passionately and exclusively.
Larry is also a beautiful person. Although he doesn't like to talk, he always has a temperament that makes you feel that this boy is very charming.
Isabel and Larry are talented, their marriage is only one thing apart.
Larry came back from the battlefield and became a hero in the eyes of many girls, but this hero was extraordinarily idle. It stands to reason that a young man like him should have a lot of ambitions, but after he comes back, he doesn't want to do any work, even if it is a career that can see the future at a glance, he has no interest.
Isabel is a gentle girl. She has never had a frontal conflict with him because of this. In her opinion, maybe he had a heartache in those days when he had never participated, and he needs to calm down.
Just, she knows that she is just comforting herself by thinking this way, so she can stop her mother and uncle.
Her uncle is a very capable and capable person. He ranks among the nobles by his ability and is very wealthy. He had no children, so he cared very much about the marriage of his niece, who had no father.
For Isabel, the elders did not like their fiancé, and once encouraged her to break up with him.
Isabel finally broke up with Larry, and the two talked candidly about the present and the future. In fact, both people want to get married, but the condition for Isabel to get married is that Larry must have a stable job, so that their income and future life are guaranteed.
But Larry didn't like the kind of aristocratic life that Isabel needed. He could also make money, but he could not support the expense of a lady. He hoped Isabel would live a life of spiritual prosperity with him. The values of
are very different, neither of them persuaded anyone, and finally broke up peacefully, still good friends.
In fact, for Isabel, she is a very smart woman. She knows what she wants and what kind of marriage life she hopes to have in the future. Z7z will make it clear to her boyfriend at the very beginning, instead of putting all her hopes on changing him after marriage.
Love and marriage are like this. You love someone very much and want to spend your life with him, but it is undeniable that you don’t have to be him, although you may have been like this oncethink.
Don’t try to transform men, don’t be superstitious about love
Many women’s infatuation is that they believe in the power of love too much. They believed that they could change a man, so they thought, just get married, and if you don't, just have a baby.
In the end, having been busy all his life, I have to admit that this man really doesn't get in and cannot reform.
In fact, they were wrong at the beginning. Women who always want to change men often fail in the end. When they complained about men, they always forgot to blame themselves. From the beginning of having that unrealistic idea, they were already on the wrong road.
Good love is mutual fulfillment and companionship. There is nothing wrong with Isabel thinking about living a prosperous and comfortable life, and there is nothing wrong with Larry's pursuit of abundance in the spiritual world, but two people can no longer walk the same way.
Because for two people, what they are after is a necessity in life. On the contrary, love must know how to give way at this time.
Isabel finally married Gray, the son of a rich businessman. Gray has always admired her, and the hard work and hard work of this man also meets Isabel's expectations.
However, deep in Isabel's heart, Larry has a position that no one can replace. But she was very clever to put him quietly in her heart and turned to love her husband.
Isabel and Gray have always been a happy pair. Gray relies on the resources around him to make herself richer. Isabel also takes care of everything behind him properly and takes good care of their children.
just, she can still think of Larry, and sometimes even blame herself for being too cruel. If you are true love, why can't you give up the life you want for him?
But when she thought that Larry was the same, and refused to give up her yearning for her, she felt relieved.
When Isabel meets Larry again, she finds that her heart is still touched by this man. Even if her husband is by her side, she can't control her greed for him.
If she said that she was only a girl's feelings and yearning for him at the beginning, but now it is the naked erotic desire of a woman.
But she didn't allow herself to make mistakes. She passed this lust to her husband. Although she knew her inner yearning, she would always know exactly what she wanted.
Finally, Larry traveled completely far away, leaving the place she was familiar with. She thought that she had let go of this man, but when she knew that she was going to lose him completely, she was still very touched.
But these are just secrets deep in her heart.
She has always been a good wife to her husband. She helped him through the hardest years of his life when he was in trouble, supported his career, sang and sang her husband, accompanied him for the rest of her life.
is written at the end:
For women, marriage is the most important choice in life.
Many women will go the wrong way at this fork, because they don't know what they want at first, they just feel that this man treats them well, and they are greedy for this feeling of being noticed.
However, the further the road goes, the clearer and clearer the road that the two of them had to go forward. Sometimes, it's not that the other party is unwilling to complete, but the path you have to take, which is too far from his complete range.
Women who live well must not be obsessed with love and men. They know exactly what kind of life they want and what kind of man they need. Women like
are not confused in front of marriage. They are cruel and decide their own way.
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