文|Xueluowuchen
The ultimate goal of two people who truly love each other is to get married and have children, and stay together for the rest of their lives. Most people have such a desire, but few can go to the end.
This is also not to blame for the two people's feelings are not strong enough, love is not pure enough. There are too many uncontrollable factors in reality, and too many things are unpredictable. We panicked from the beginning to the end.
people will also change, the look of anticipation of love at the age of eighteen will definitely be different from that of the twenty-eight.
So, to be able to go to the end, not only rely on the love you love me. There are many things that need two people to study together and encourage together.
Actually, in love, two people can reach the end with three points.
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First: Action is always more important than love.
There are many people who worry about this question every day: I really love him, how can we get to the end?
Before asking this question, we should first ask ourselves and consider the value of this question. Why do you love each other and the other is willing to go with you, so that two people can have a future?
The promise made under the wind and snow is no longer enough to support two people in living in this era. Although the promise is good, the material is the driving force and foundation for the two people to go on. Although
said that love is a bit cheap, it is reality after all. If
is only talking about a relationship that is not for the purpose of marriage, then there is no need to consider the issue of financial independence. But as long as two people want to get married, they must face the turmoil of reality and learn to create sweetness in the chai, rice, oil and salt.
In the adult world, feelings will no longer be as ignorant and impulsive as they were in youth, and most people will begin to weigh the pros and cons.
At this time, love is not the most important thing, because each other has given youth and love to others. Only when the advantages outweigh the disadvantages is a favorable situation.
So, stop taking loving each other as a motivation and slogan to go on. Only when you take action and everything is done will you have the capital to be with the other party.
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Second: rely on each other and support each other
Imagine such a scene.
One day, you are upset by various things at work, and you want to immediately quit this unhappy job. But when you look at your deflated wallet and balance, you gritted your teeth, as if nothing happened, continue to work.
But if at this time, your boyfriend transfers you a sum of money and says to you: "Don't work, I'll support you."
You at this time will definitely feel very happy. I feel that there is dependence in life. This will stabilize your mind and allow you to continue to work hard, and it will also help promote the relationship between the two people.
Women all need a sense of security, want to be understood, want to rely on. But conversely, these things you should pay attention to when getting along are still applicable to the other person.
They will also encounter unsatisfactory places at work, things that cannot be solved in life, and moments that need comfort.
The emergence of these situations is like an opportunity. If you make good use of it, the other party will definitely love you more and more and strengthen the confidence to go on.
There is never a phenomenon where only one party pays and one party asks for it, nor does one party be taken care of while the other party is always alone. Such feelings will definitely not be happy.
lean on each other and support them to move forward. In this way, even if one party is tired and the pace is inconsistent, he can adjust in time. When the feelings of two people are enough to resist all kinds of irresistible factors, the chance of going to the end is greater.
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Third: In the relationship, you must learn to be independent
. Any good love will definitely bring about one plus one greater than two, instead of causing two people to die together and become more backward.
Being independent, whether in feelings or in daily life, is something we should learn.
Even if two people can finally get together, can it be guaranteed that they will not spend a period of time, only their own old age? What's more, the non-independent character also affects the happiness of two people.
, for example, you are utterly exhaustedThe plan is very important, but the other party always sends messages to disturb you. You are busy in reply, but the other party doesn't believe it, guessing if you did something to sorry him. The contradiction arising from
at this time has risen to another level. Two people are likely to have a big quarrel because of this. The quarrel in this situation may face a break in emotion.
We should know that cuteness and lack of independence are two completely different concepts. Appropriate clinging will improve the relationship between two people, and the lack of independence is like a "giant baby".
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As mentioned above, a love that will not break up requires "3 elements", and one is indispensable.
Life has always been to have one's own life first, and then to own other things.
All things other than our own life should be the existence that makes our lives icing on the cake, rather than becoming a resistance on the road of life.
The feelings that stumbling, but still will not disperse, are truly pure and strong feelings. Relying on the contribution of one party is not very useful. Two people should encourage each other and work together for the future.
In the face of love, whenever we give our heartfelt heart, who doesn't want to have a lasting result, we can stay together forever from now on, and we will never be separated forever.
However, caring is chaotic. The more you value a love, the more you will be frightened, and even don't know what to do, so that this relationship can go on steadily.
If you are the same, I hope you can come to understand some knowledge of adult psychology.
in this set of adult psychology books is all about love. From different perspectives of love, it will teach you how to love and be loved, how to properly handle the relationship between two people, and so on.
can be said that this is a set of books to teach you how to love. Only when you really understand anything can you be confident in your heart, avoid detours and achieve success, even in love.
hope that after reading this set of books, you can add more flowers to your love and make the two people get along more and more harmoniously.
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