Some people say that marriage is the belonging of love. When love is strong, marriage is a matter of course. But for a pair of evening lovers, Ms. Tang and Mr. Liang, who came to mediate today, their love has always been difficult to achieve. They both had a marriage, and they met after divorce. Ms. Tang said that she is forty-nine years old this year, and his wife, Mr. Liang, is sixty-nine years old. Now they have been in love for eight years. So where does the trust crisis come from for lovers who have been together for eight years?
The two elderly people have the same expectations for marriage, but their mutual distrust is always like a thorn in the chest. If it is not pulled out, it is difficult to enter into marriage comfortably with each other. Ms. Tang said that as early as the first year of their love, she had mentioned marriage to Mr. Liang.
But Mr. Liang never said a word or explained. His silence showed that he had reservations about entering marriage from the beginning. It was his ambiguous attitude that made their emotional road very bumpy. At the beginning of the relationship, she attracted the misunderstanding of Mr. Liang's family.
Ms. Tang told us that after she established a relationship with Mr. Liang that year, Mr. Liang invited her back home for the Spring Festival. In her opinion, Mr. Liang must have communicated with her family about her affairs, so she agreed. At the time, she went there with the intention of living together, so she didn't care much about some things. When she returned to her family in the second grade, she took away two pieces of sponge cake. Unexpectedly, when she came back, she was scolded by Mr. Liang's family, saying that she was here to cheat to eat and drink, because she wanted to cheat Mr. Liang’s property. Makes her very uncomfortable.
, in her opinion, it was all Mr. Liang’s fault and failed to communicate well with family members in time. Mr. Liang also admitted that he did not communicate much at the time, but he was also disappointed. At that time, I was thinking of giving my wife a chance to improve the relationship with the family, but I didn't expect to have a quarrel with my mother in the end.
Regarding the conflict with Liang's family, Ms. Tang didn't care much, because marriage was originally a matter of two people. But what made her unbearable was that her husband was also guarded against her. Every day the money for buying vegetables was paid on the same day, and giving more to less depended on what kind of food Mr. Liang wanted to eat, which made her very uncomfortable. What made her even more angry was that once she was buying vegetables at a high price, and she did not expect that after Mr. Liang knew about it, he would scold her in front of everyone on the street, blaming her for not making money and spending so much.
Mr. Liang explained that he is a person who likes to bargain when buying vegetables, and he is still a bit unacceptable about buying expensive things. For his cursing remarks, he apologized to Ms. Tang at the scene. He knew that what he had said was a bit too much and did not show enough respect for Ms. Tang. Ms.
Tang said that Mr. Liang’s attitude towards her about buying vegetables made her take a deep breath. But it was not enough to shake the feelings between the two. But what happened next made her passionate heart seem to be poured with cold water. When they went to buy a house in 2012, she asked: Can I add my name? But Mr. Liang's attitude was very firm and could not be added. Afterwards, Ms. Tang did not entangle much.
When she was about to buy a car, she said again: I can’t add a name to a house, so can I add my name to a car? Mr. Liang: You want beauty, but you want a house and money. These two incidents chilled Ms. Tang again. And Mr. Liang explained that this is normal. At that time, he was not a husband and wife, and he would not necessarily be his wife in the future, so why should he add Ms. Tang's name.
In addition, he mentioned that he also gave in afterwards. He deliberately added Ms. Tang's name to a set of properties under his name to prove his sincerity to live together. Ms. Tang also recognized Mr. Liang's practice, but an incident once again affected Mr. Liang's idea of getting married. One week after adding the name
, because of a quarrel, Ms. Tang actually said that she would leave him, and also asked for 50,000 yuan in economic compensation. This incident moved Mr. Liang's mind. In his opinion, Ms. Tang did not come to live her life sincerely, but to cheat money. This made him very uncomfortable, and the idea of marriage was put on hold. Z1z
Ms. Tang said that she didn't mean that, but that she really couldn't live anymore. First of all, the strange eyes of the Liang family, and secondly the distrust of Mr. Liang, which made her suffer every day and was very unhappy.
observerWhat I want to remind Mr. Liang is that if he wants to live his life well, he must overcome his fear and alertness and get along with him sincerely, instead of thinking that he is cheating money all day long. At the same time, Mr. Liang must understand that only by rationalizing the criteria and expectations of mate selection can one obtain a true partner. In addition, I admonish Ms. Tang, to be a woman must be principled, it is better to rely on others than to rely on yourself. Finally, I hope they understand that the relationship between close lovers should be equal.
The mediation is over, and Ms. Tang stated that Mr. Liang is still very sincere to her, and she is willing to accompany him through his life. And Mr. Liang was also very happy to have such a result. He said that he would complete the marriage registration procedures with Ms. Tang as soon as possible, put down his guard, and live a good life.
Source: Gold Medal Mediation TV
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