My husband would actually ask for a divorce. This is something I did not expect. What surprised me is that my parents-in-law are not on my side this time, including my parents who are also persuading me to divorce. What is the world? what happened?
My surname is Wei and I am in my forties this year. Not long ago, I found out that there was an abnormal chat record in my husband’s cell phone, so I found out about my husband’s cheating. I was furious. My husband showed some shame at first, but gradually, he became more and more fearless. What makes
even more annoying is that the third party even took the initiative to call and provoke me, persuading me to give way to "her". And she was very arrogant and said to me: There is no feeling between you anymore. He likes me now. If you are self-aware, you should let us go!
I heard Xiaosan say this to me, and I was furious. I found myself and my husband’s parents and relatives, and everyone condemned the crime of my husband. Under the education of both parents and relatives, the husband decided to change his past mistakes and stayed at home for a few days. It's a pity that the good times didn't last long. It didn't take long for me to discover that my husband was still disconnected from Xiaosan. I couldn't bear to report the matter to my husband's unit, and it didn't take long for my husband to resign.
But what I didn't expect was that after my husband resigned, he sent his anger on me and shouted at me: "Are you happy now? Are you satisfied? Don't you just want to see me ruined? Now you have achieved your goal! Let’s get a divorce! "Z2z
What should I do, I don’t want to divorce, I am a woman in her forties, what else can I find after divorce...
Mr. Lin:
Ms. Wei, hello! For your experience, I deeply sympathize. The third party's harm to a family is self-evident, and the serious one may also lead to family destruction. In my opinion, you want to defeat Xiao San is correct, but your method is wrong. There is also a bad part of your personality. You are irritable and impulsive, do things regardless of the consequences, and do not know how to preserve your husband's face and dignity. You are desperate to inform your husband's unit and want to use public opinion to stop your husband's behavior. As everyone knows, for a man, "face problem" is the top priority.
Is it useful to make a big noise?
is not completely useless, but the practice of putting yourself in the position of the victim is only suitable for the early stage of discovering the derailment! In the early stage of discovering the derailment, the guilt and self-blame of the derailed party will reach a peak. At this time, if you have any ideas and requirements, it is best to raise them at this time. If you forget to say it during this period, then you will also It's better to forget these and say the same thing over and over is stupid.
And, do you want to continue to maintain this family, or do you want to divorce? If it is the latter, you can tear your face apart and do your best, including legal channels, to seek your best interests. If it is the former, you have to be patient for the time being and always maintain the generosity and tolerance of your own room. You have to stand on the same line with your husband and face this matter with the same heart.
wants to repair the marriage, three things you need to understand!
One, do not have extreme thoughts
Two, reflect on your own shortcomings
Third, improve your own value
In fact, when there is a problem with marriage, apart from individual shameless people, we should not blatantly blame the wrong square. Husband and wife relationship and family relationship can not be maintained by one person alone. When a relationship cannot continue, both parties should be responsible for it.
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