Zhang Fangyu "Insight in Alone":
"We generally lack a penetrating eye and wisdom, unable to penetrate the core of a thing, so we are confused and entangled by the appearance of some things."
In modern times, many people can't help being in a state of frivolity and impatience. It seems that many times they are unable to control themselves, so that they are confused by the appearance of things and make wrong judgments.
Take contemporary blind dates as an example. From the beginning, the purpose is to help men and women who are eager to get married and have children. , but I don't know when it started, it has become more and more different, and it is mixed with many complicated human natures, such as fluke, comparison and so on.
Today, let’s talk about the blind date, the most interesting part of it, should the blind date go through love? With such a question, an older leftover woman gave a standard answer, which was very real. The girls
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were made into an older leftover girl by herself, and she rushed to get a blind date.
Liu Man is 32 years old this year, and she is the "old leftover girl" in the eyes of friends. once talked about a relationship with her, but she was told that it was inappropriate when she was paying her sincerity and broke up. When Liu Man was sad, he insisted on being single, and he was still single for several years. During
, parents are urging to resolve their lifelong issues as soon as possible. But Liu Man couldn't listen to it, and slowly got his age up.
Liu Man admits that he understands that his age has gone up, it is time to look for someone in a hurry. After the parents knew it, they began to recruit people to introduce them to their daughters, but age was a threshold.
Some men smiled and shook their heads when they heard it was an older leftover woman. Liu Man was very depressed, and also understood that women gradually lost their advantages after a certain age. In terms of appearance, figure, and reproductive period, there will be shortcomings gradually with age.
In the end, when the family saw this situation, they had no choice but to spend money to ask the matchmaker to help. After the matchmaker came to get some general information, he didn't say much. He took the money to do things and used the resources at hand, and soon arranged a blind date for Liu Man, one after another.
Liu Man couldn't help but sigh that he was so fast. Without sufficient mental preparation, he could only bite the bullet and start his own blind date journey.
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The blind date journeys of the older leftover women turned out to be failures again and again.
Liu Man dressed up and started the blind date journey, and couldn't help being nervous. Generally speaking, the matchmaker just arranges the objects and then builds a bridge. They will leave when they see it, leaving this opportunity for the couple to be alone.
Liu Man is a bit old, but he still looks pretty good. Many men will take the initiative to go on a blind date after hearing about it, and want to fix life events as soon as possible.
Liu Man also had this kind of psychology, a little nervous and started seeing each other on blind dates, but she found that she couldn't accept it.
After a few days of getting along, every blind date man will propose to hold hands, hug, marry, and even propose a relationship on the night of the blind date, which is a natural attitude.
Liu Man feels a little unhappy. It seems that every man is too impatient to get married and have children in one day. There is no shortage of people who come to blind date with bad intentions.
she didn't want to "drop the price" like this, but still endured it. When she was older and wanted to give face to the matchmaker, it would not be easy to break out, and she refused again and again. This makes blind date men very puzzled. They were rejected when they knew they had done nothing wrong. They felt that they were angry after being teased, and gradually there were fewer and fewer people.
It is slowly circulating in the blind date circle that Liu Man is a high-demand older leftover woman. Once there was a blind date man who was rejected and said while walking: "I don't see the situation clearly, I really think I think I am something." Liu Man It became embarrassing, but did not refute it.
Until she met a man with a successful career, her heart couldn't help but was stumped by the other's "special" requirements. The "special" requirements of
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on blind dates make the older leftover woman wake up like a dream
. Yang Feng is a returnee man who delayed marriage for the sake of his career. Today's career success requires consideration of lifelong events. After he heard about Liu Man, he suddenly became interested.With the help of the matchmaker, the two met quickly.
Liu Man suddenly felt a little nervous and excited about the successful man in front of him. Yang Feng didn't show any impoliteness, he just made a special request directly and said: "Miss Liu, if we are dating, can we get married within three months?"
Liu Man was stunned, this man is more than ever My blind date man is in a hurry and wants to get married in three months. But she didn’t want to miss it and said frankly: “Don’t you think it’s too fast? Doesn’t every marriage get married after falling in love?”
Yang Feng was amused by these words. This, I want to have a relationship.
He thought about it, and he was still very polite and said: "Miss Liu, I am not afraid to make you angry when I say it. You took time out of work to go on a blind date, and I also squeezed precious time out. Everyone is busy making money, where Have the energy and time to fall in love? The key is not to know if we can succeed. What should we do when we wait for the next empty space? Actually, you and I can’t wait for your age and time, so we want to do it in one step. Do you think it’s okay? You can get married When you get married, you can slowly understand that you can fall in love.”
Liu Man just woke up like a dream. Although Yang Feng’s words are hard to hear, he really said it like this . Every adult at this age does not want to waste too much time and energy to fall in love. If it is all right, if it is unsuccessful, others will end up in vain.
She looked at Yang Feng, who was successful in her career, and she couldn't make up her mind whether she should skip the dating link and accept his "special" request for three months of marriage? Should
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go through the dating session for the older leftover female blind date?
once had a hot topic on the Internet: "Do you want to discuss a relationship before you get married?"
is a difficult question to answer. Some people at think that if they don’t have a relationship, how do they know who the other person is? . But some people think that, like Yang Feng, what should I do if I don’t have success after putting in time and energy? This will only further make yourself into an older youth, and later marriage with becomes more difficult.
Personally speaking, does need a period of time to get to know each other after the blind date, so falling in love is also a good choice. Just want the time to be as short as possible, after all, age is not waiting for people, everyone has their own difficulties.
may not be understood by others, but getting married is a lifetime matter. If you can, buy some time to understand, for yourself and for others.
So, two people can discuss as much as possible, this is not a big problem, not a year or a half.
Conclusion:
Jane Austen "Pride and Prejudice":
"Marriage that only considers money is absurd, and marriage that does not consider money is stupid." This sentence of
points out the role of money in the measurement of marriage, which may be It is a necessity but not too important. It's a pity that many people can't see through this point and pursue material life.
However, while pursuing, it is often a happy process, and even becomes a passive party. When there is demand, the party with the economic conditions begins to take the initiative, and the demander becomes very weak.
In fact, there are many contradictions in the active nature of such a marriage, and eventually it will become uncontrollable, and even the two have parted ways.
Marriage is not like this in the first place, only when human nature becomes complicated. It was meant for two people to meet in a huge crowd, and then hug together to face wind, rain and happiness together.
Marriage, always marry for happiness, not material.
Note: The picture comes from the Internet, and the picture has nothing to do with the character (pseudonym), and the infringement is deleted.
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