In marriage, when a woman wants the same "thing" as a man, it often means "destiny"

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once read this sentence on the short book: "Marriage is a road, you must go together. Not only in life, emotionally, but also There are also cognitive and abilities. Only growing together, moving forward in unison, no one loses, no one loses, each has cheers, each has flowers and glory, and the direction is the same. This kind of marriage will last as long as possible. Even if it is not long, you can continue to shine and have the right to choose."

is indeed the case. If one of the parties begins to rely on the other party in a marriage, and gradually falls behind and cannot keep up with the other party's footsteps, it means that even if there is no problem with the marriage today, there will be problems in the future.

Yuan Chongbo and Yang Tingting's marriage is like this. When Yang Tingting was 23 years old, she met a big boy on the court. The white shirt, straight suit trousers, and pointed leather shoes that were originally polished brightly but stained with dust all made her laugh at the boy in formal suit playing basketball. She thought in her heart, what kind of costume to wear, if she really can play, she would wear sportswear instead of formal wear. This must be a fig leaf for his poor skills.

but turned around and hit his face. A few three-pointers are very accurate. At first glance, he plays regularly. Yang Tingting became interested in this boy. She asked her sisters to ask for WeChat. After

contacted via WeChat, Yang Tingting knew that the boy was Yuan Chongbo. He is no longer a boy. He is 30 years old and a man. I played basketball that day because I encountered a problem at work, and I wanted to vent when I passed the basketball court.

At the beginning, Yang Tingting just chatted intentionally or unintentionally, but later, she found that the two people had similar interests and had the same three views. Gradually, Yuan Chongbo also began to have a good impression of Yang Tingting. She is not like an ordinary female college student who only knows how to dress up and compare. She has read a lot of books, and she has something in her mind, and that kind of cleverness makes him fall into it.

The love of young people is so simple and strong. After graduating, Yang Tingting moved to the house bought by Yuan Chongbo and started living together.

Originally, Yang Tingting was looking for a job, and she submitted a lot of resumes, but she fell silent. The friends in the same dormitory have already started to work, but she is the only one who does not give up and wants to go to a big company. Finally, with Yuan Chongbo's help, Yang Tingting went to her favorite company for an internship. But it was just an internship. After six months, she was unemployed again. Although she was disappointed in the workplace, she was proud of her love. During this period of time when she was not looking for a job, Yuan Chongbo proposed to her and soon the wedding was held. She became the real hostess of this house. Compared to her peers, she took a lot of steps ahead of time, with no regrets, only happiness.

After the wedding, Yang Tingting still wants to find a job. As a thoughtful and independent woman, she can no longer spend family money, let alone spend her husband’s money. She knows that.

has just gotten married, and the previous work experience is not very sufficient. Six months have passed, and Yang Tingting still has not found a suitable job for her. At this time, she found out that she was pregnant.

Yuan Chongbo proposed to make Yang Tingting full-time. His monthly income is close to 30,000, and he is more than enough to live in a second-tier city. The temporary happiness of marriage made Yang Tingting forget what she had said before. She willingly became a full-time wife, shopping for vegetables, cooking, and cleaning the house every day.

no longer has her own circle, no so-called girlfriends, and all of Yang Tingting's life revolves around this family and Yuan Chongbo. She finally, like many women, began to reach out and ask Yuan Chongbo for money after a year of full-time employment. At first,

asked for hundreds and hundreds, which was very trivial, such as charging phone bills, buying vegetables, etc. Later, Yang Tingting's own deposit was almost zero, and she started asking for thousands. The expenses for a family of three for a month are actually quite a lot, especially for children's things, everything from a spoon to a baby-only item is ridiculously expensive, and the money is simply not enough. Later on, Yang Tingting needed tens of thousands. She has no choice. Children need money for toys and clothes. In order not to lose on the starting line, various brain development training courses and swimming training camps also need money. She has no channels to make money, and she has no ability to make money. Rely on Yuan Chongbo.

On Yuan Chongbo's side, he knows that Yang Tingting does not make money. As a husband, he also knows that he has the responsibility and obligation to give money to his wife, But he just thinks it is annoying every time Yang Tingting asks him for money. He felt so tired and desperate to make money, but Yang Tingting, as his wife, never knew that he felt sorry for him, and spent money without blinking. Moreover, he didn't understand why Yang Tingting, a full-time housewife, was so unpleasant. Whenever he goes out for a dinner with friends, he doesn't like to take his wife out because he feels ashamed. My friends’ wives have serious jobs, they talk to each other on topics, and the wives don’t understand anything. Every time I watch my friends and family discuss who is in charge of the money, who earns more, and who earns less, he is envious. He would think that even if his wife made three thousand yuan, he would be happy. It is understandable that Yuan Chongbo has such an idea. In fact, at this level, two people are no longer walking side by side. The feeling of powerlessness in men is vividly manifested, and women are also very tired. If there is a companion around a man, then there is really no one around the woman. This feeling of isolation and helplessness will naturally bring friction to the marriage.

No matter how strong the previous love between the couple is and how happy they were in the marriage, they cannot resist the negative impact of this gap. For a woman, from the moment you stretch out your hand to ask a man for money, you lose completely. You are destined to be defined as a weak person in this marriage, and mean that this marriage is about to end.

Of course, we can all understand that the value of a full-time mother is not small, and even in many aspects, a full-time mother can almost be called a "superman", but there is no way, this can't be fair and just, unless you have a real heartache And to understand your man, both are indispensable.

is not to belittle full-time mothers, nor is it to promote men who work hard in the workplace. This world is like this. Only if you hold your abilities in your hands, have the skills to make money, and make yourself independent of others, can you live freely. Otherwise, they will be restrained by others. Woman, if you understand these and still have to go to the battlefield of "full-time", please don't discard the armor that can protect you. If you are still in the situation of asking for money from a man at this moment, and you believe in your partner and marriage, you must also plan ahead now, otherwise you may even have a little choice when the marriage is about to end. No.

If you are still in a situation of asking for money from a man at this moment, and you believe in your partner and marriage, you must also plan ahead now, otherwise you may even have a little choice when the marriage is about to end. nothing.

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