Speaking of slow heat, I think of a friend around me, she is a very slow person in her relationship.
will not behave even if she meets the person she loves. If others take the initiative to show her favor, she will be delighted in her heart, but she still looks unchanging.
She told me an episode in her own love story.
She met a boy in an event, he is the kind of person who is very active and can get into the state quickly.
from the first day of meeting, he made the girls laugh very humorously;
missed the breakfast time in the restaurant, he specially brought her yogurt and eggs;
he would not care about the eyes of others, and speak very directly : I'm going to be with you; after
worked in this way for a few days, he dared to secretly pull the girl's hand under the table.
Of course, I was beaten by a girl hahaha, because it was too fast, after all, I only got along for a few days.
But generally speaking, as a slow-hot girl, in fact, when you encounter such a boy who has a particularly passionate relationship, I still feel a little beautiful in my heart. Z2z
may be the girl's natural desire to be protected and warmed.
In the end, of course, they added WeChat to each other naturally.
From their stories, I think this boy is a very successful case.
Some methods can be summarized from him for chasing slow-hot girls.
Many young boys themselves are not particularly emotional people, so when they meet a slow-heating girl, they feel a little at a loss, give up and reluctantly, and get stuck there.
So, come to chat with everyone today, how to chase girls who are slow and hot.
First of all, we have to understand two prerequisites in our minds:
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Judging the attitude of the other party
In fact, it is simple, that is, first of all you have to know whether her performance is because of slow heat or really dislike you. How to judge
? The answers to
are in the details of the girls.
If a girl likes you, facing a guy who treats her well, she will have many small expressions. For example, as long as you appear in her peripheral vision, she will look at you, pretending to disdain your jokes, but still hide Can't help smiling. At least
will not have any expressions such as glaring, ignoring, not even looking at it, or perfunctory.
We should know in our hearts that girls are slow to heat up, but at least you can feel whether she likes you or not. If you don't like it, she won't pay attention to you at all, and will only feel resentful and repulsive for your persistent pursuit.
So, as long as you can feel that the other party does not reject you, there is still a chance.
02
try to empathize.
Not everyone can get involved in a relationship quickly, it doesn't mean that the other person doesn't like you.
Therefore, if you enter the state first, give the other party some time to consider from the other side's perspective. She may just not be sure how long your feelings for her will last.
should be more patient at this time, otherwise it will only make her feel that you are only a momentary enthusiasm and dare not let go of your guards.
Okay, back to the topic. If the girl you like is slower and hotter, you can try this:
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integrates into each other’s life from details
psychology has a heart anchor effect, which is a form of conditioning. , Which means that a certain emotion and behavior of a person are connected with something outside, forming a conditioned reflection. To put it simply,
means that when you think of a certain person or something, you will unconsciously produce a certain behavior or emotion.
If you want to make a deep impression on the other person, you can create some heart anchor events that belong to you.
For example, you are an otaku and you don’t have any special hobbies as an amateur. You just like to study and study food and cook good dishes.
Then you can cook her food, tie a girl’s heart, you can tie her stomach first.
Hey, don't say that I did it. There was a boy who said he wanted to cook for me. I remember till now.
remember that in the TV series "Youth Fight", a boy wantedAfter catching up with the girl she likes and learning that she likes to eat crayfish, she made two boxes with her own hands and brought them to the girls’ school.
Originally, the girl was very disgusted with his dead skinny face, but she didn't expect to accept him because of the two boxes of crayfish.
If you can really do it, when a girl gets used to having you, every time she eats a certain dish in the future, she will think of you. This is too fulfilling.
And, although the slow-hot girls are slow to enter the state at first, once they accept you, they will get warmer and warmer ever since. Girls like
should take good care of them, and don't give up easily.
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creates just the right emotional ups and downs
is like the story of the friend I listed at the beginning. To be honest, girls are heartbeat.
What does this mean? A slow-hot girl really can't stand the full enthusiasm of a boy.
Therefore, it is an effective way to quickly attract girls by creating a sense of excitement for girls and making them feel fresh.
Of course, this stimulation should not be too much, otherwise it will not bring freshness, but fright.
The right emotional ups and downs are the best. How to master this scale?
First, keep a basic polite distance. For example, don’t want to hold hands and kiss too quickly. This is a bit too exciting. The distance you should have is still necessary, otherwise the girls will think you are very frivolous and make people feel insecure, and I am afraid they will be farther away from you. .
However, some physical contact will add points, such as touching the head to kill. If a girl lets you touch her head, don't doubt, she will like you.
is second, showing a sense of contrast. For example, you usually care more and greet you more, show your gentle and considerate side, and occasionally come with small surprises. It can be a stimulating game with her, it can be a sudden provocation, or it can be an overbearing president who asks her to accept it. Give your gift.
All in all, if a girl has a slower personality, if you want to catch her, the boy must not be too stubborn, otherwise the battle line will be too long and will gradually become cold.
is sometimes a bit warmer, and girls will like it better, but you must grasp the scale and make girls feel respected.
03
chat to get closer
It is almost impossible to get a slow-hot girl to take the initiative, because often you are already 3 points, and she has just begun to consider whether to take care of this boy.
Therefore, in the process of chatting, boys should also take the initiative to become the person who leads the topic.
Many younger brothers always suffer from the fact that there is no topic to talk about when they just met. In fact, topics are everywhere. Don't know what to talk about, just look at her circle of friends. For example:
"Have you been to Xinjiang recently? How do you feel?"
"Recently a little book shortage, do you have any recommendations?"
"Unexpectedly, you like to collect comic books. I especially like reading comics. What is your favorite comic?"
"Today I feel a little down, what are you happy about, share it?"
can actually start the topic as long as it is related to the other party you can see.
talk more when it’s okay, on the one hand, it can help you get to know her better, on the other hand, you can also see how she treats you.
In fact, chat is the most efficient way to get closer.
is one because it can connect you anytime and anywhere, and the other is because it can learn more about each other in the simplest way.
So be sure to seize every opportunity to chat.
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