Even if a woman has the ability, don’t get confused about 3 things, it is easy to suffer

Xiaopan丨Emotional essay series Xiaopan talks about love signed the original author

I have always believed in "those who become big things do not stick to the trivial" , because a person with ability does not have time to care about small things, time For a person who is eager to succeed, the degree of importance can be imagined. Therefore, entangled in the small things is tantamount to giving up success.

Compared with successful men who have the ability, I admire those magnificent women, especially those women who can ignore trivialities and short-term parents. I always feel that if a woman wants to achieve something, she must first stay away from these things. a little.

However, some recent events have changed my opinion about this, and some things should be taken seriously. The "rare confusion" also needs to be divided into objects. In some things, you must not be confused.

01: Boyfriend's family background

friend Xiaoke has a boyfriend. Everyone asks her what does her husband do? Where is his home? How are the conditions at home? What do parents do?

Xiaoke was dizzy by this series of questions. She became a little impatient and yelled at us. She just thinks that she is more at ease with this man. She likes his character and her job is pretty good. She wants to go first. Trying to try, as for the situation in the other party's home, she really didn't think too much, because she never thought about what the husband's family should do. She felt that both love and marriage are their own business and have nothing to do with others. If

talks about economic conditions, she doesn't feel that she needs to rely on anyone. After working hard for so many years in the workplace, she is not a strong woman or an elite in the workplace. Therefore, Xiao Ke always seems very impatient with our questions.

thought she would stick to her own ideas, and would eventually have her pure love and marriage, but it didn't take long for her to break up with her boyfriend.

We only learned later that they had a fight because of some unpleasant matter. As a result, the man lost his demeanor in his anger and pushed her so hard that she almost knocked her head on the corner of the table. The man's push made Xiao Ke wake up in an instant. It turned out that the man she liked was just a polite hypocrite. Seeing that he was handsome, but he would be rude in a hurry, so Xiao Ke decided to break up with him. Up. It was only after

broke up that Xiao Ke learned from others that it turned out that a man had a very unhappy childhood. When he was very young, his parents often quarreled. When the quarrel was fierce, the two parents would work together. This is how men are. Growing up in the environment, he is naturally fascinated by the way his parents get along. Of course, in a hurry, he can't help but imitate his parents to deal with problems.

Xiaoke finally understands that no matter love or marriage, it is never just a matter of two people. The family background of the other person is also very important, because his three views and principles of life all carry the habits of the original family.

02: For your girlfriends

Some people say that the most unreliable thing in this world is the word "relationship". You think that an indestructible relationship may change under any circumstances, but what you once said with your heart will be Unknowingly, it became a sword to hurt himself.

Joe is my college classmate. She is a beautiful and independent woman. Naturally, there are many men who pursue her. But Joe already has a favorite, and she always politely refuses other people's pursuits.

Joe has a very good girlfriend, they talk about everything, even their own emotional privacy. Qiao told her girlfriend that a man treated him well and he was willing to help her financially, but she had a suitable candidate in her heart at the time, so she tactfully rejected the man, and she secretly told her girlfriend that the man He also said that as long as she was willing, he would contribute a million to help her in a small business.

But what Joe didn’t expect was that it didn’t take long for his girlfriend to get better with the man who had chased him. Joe was worried that his girlfriend would tell the man all those secrets, because she had leaked the secrets between her and the man. It means that she didn't respect the man. Joe once thought that they could not be lovers, but they could be good friends, because a man is indeed a man of knowledge and courage, and Joe felt that such a friend is very worthy of socializing.

What Joe was worried about still happened. The best friend said those words to the man without missing a word. Joe was naturally aware of it, and the man no longerTreating her as warm and polite as before, and this change was not because he had a girlfriend at all, but because what Joe said to his girlfriend was extremely disrespectful to men.

You never know what you say, and who will know it, because you will never be sure of the reliability of the word "relationship". Sometimes, it is better to digest those secret words by yourself, no matter who you say to , It may spread to the third person’s ears, and once it spreads out, it will hurt you and the person involved.

03: Lending money to friends

"Money" is a very embarrassing word between you and your friends, saying that you can’t borrow money between your friends. Once you have this kind of loan-to-pay relationship, even your friends will Nothing to do. In the year of

, I was sympathetic. I lent the salary I had saved for two years to a friend. At the time, she was hurriedly buying a second-hand house because she felt that the house price would continue to rise, so she also wanted to take the opportunity Make a small investment in real estate.

I loaned the money to her because I thought I would not be eager to use the money, but unfortunately there was an emergency at home. I had no choice but to discuss with my friends and return the money to me within half a year . Actually, the half-year deadline is already at my limit. I also need money urgently. However, I was too embarrassed to return the money I just borrowed. I could only ask another friend for help and promised him to keep the money in half a year. Bring profit back to him. What

made me unexpected is that the friend who borrowed money from me returned the money to me after half a year, and then never contacted me again. She always thought that I was jealous that she bought two houses, so I went back and forth. Explain to her that I did encounter a problem, but her smile was too far-fetched to deal with it, and it made me very embarrassed. Obviously I helped her, but in the end I felt like I did something sorry to her. same. The

thing quickly passed. In this borrowing and repayment, not only did I not get any thanks from my friends, but I also took out so much interest money in vain, and I thought it was worthless.

There are some things that cannot be taken lightly. Although a person who does big things should not be entangled in small things, but you can't think of which small things will become the big things in your life, and finally become a stumbling block on your road to success. Therefore, no matter who you are and how capable you are, you must not get confused about these things, otherwise the results will make you complain.

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