Married lady: I ​​used divorce as a threat after my husband cheated, and he directly agreed, what should I do

Many visiting ladies, when faced with the problem of their husband’s derailment, their first reaction is ‘divorce’.

Someone thinks clearly, and feels that there is no hope for living with such a betrayer. And some people just couldn't accept the angry words that were spoken on impulse. This is what

visitor Ms. Wang looks like. Z1z

Ms. Wang is a graduate of the undergraduate degree. After graduation, she found a professional counterpart job. She liked it very much, devoted herself to a career, and determined to be a strong woman. In the second year of working for

, Xiao had some achievements and became a small supervisor of the company. He brought a few interns under his hand, and the boss highly regarded her. She was 25 years old that year!

is at her hometown. She is already a very big girl at 25. Many girls of the same age already have children of her own, so the parents are anxious, afraid that she won't be able to get married, so she will be blindfolded.

She repels the embarrassment of two people who don't know each other when sitting together on a blind date, so she promised her parents that she would take a partner back during the New Year.

is also a coincidence. Just this year, while gathering with friends, he met a man who was five years older than himself. He was mature, stable and ambitious. She was attracted all of a sudden. It just so happens that this man also has a good impression of her and appreciates her talent, charm and temperament.

has been in love for more than half a year and met with their parents. The parents on both sides recognized their feelings very much. They were 26 years old and they were engaged. They were 27 years old.

did not immediately have a child after marriage. By the age of 30, the family members were anxious and upset that they had a child. They also said that the older they were, the more difficult it was to become pregnant.

At this time, Ms. Wang's career has been very stable. To have a child is definitely a delay in work, but women always have to experience this. Think about it or compromise.

originally thought that after the child was born, he would take it to the elderly on both sides and go to work by himself. Who knows, it's not as simple as I thought. The concept of parenting is different from that of the elderly.

In the end, she decided to take the children at home for a few years, and then go to the workplace when the children are older. The husband agreed with her idea very much and said that he can make money alone at home, enough to support her and her children.

But she ignored it. When a housewife is a housewife, she will be separated from her husband.

After eight years of marriage, Ms. Wang found out that her husband had cheated. When asked the reason, he unexpectedly said that his spiritual realm was not at the same level as Ms. Wang. Ms. Wang did not understand, so he continued, which meant that Ms. Wang did not understand him.

They have been married for 8 years and they are too familiar with them, so why don't they understand him? Ms. Wang asked her husband to immediately break off with the third party, but he did not express his opinion.

So, she threatened with'divorce', and her husband's answer turned out to be, "I am sorry for you. If you want to leave, then leave. I have no opinion." After

said this, Ms. Wang regretted it, but When the words are out, the husband doesn't let her down, and she doesn't know how to take it back? It's really messy, completely messed up.

When the marriage is derailed and the husband does not express his views, at this time, it is the most inappropriate choice to raise a divorce without thinking about it. If he has the intention to repent and is afraid of your leaving, he will actively admit his mistakes and ask for forgiveness.

However, what he fears most is that he doesn't feel that divorce is a loss to him. Instead, he feels that it is to perfect each other. He can even clearly know that his wife dare not divorce herself, divorce, and her life is not as good as now. Once

has a second thought, for the victim, he is very helpless, very tangled, and very broken, and he will also have a questioning psychology of himself. What is wrong with him and makes him so Analysis suggestion:

Many women bring children at home and need men to earn money to support their families. Gradually, they will become dependent on men.

When a man receives this kind of signal, he will feel that he is indispensable in this family. It is the pillar of this family. Without him, this family cannot support it. The over-inflated mentality makes him feel that he does not need the consent of a woman to do anything, including cheating.

Therefore, when a woman mentions a divorce, he will not be afraid that a woman can leave him alone.

Suggestions in this case:

First: adjust your mentality, calm down, and judge the meaning of the retention value of this marriage.

When the husband is found cheating, the wife’s first reaction is to cry, break down, and vent her emotions.In fact, the more you do this, the more your husband feels that you care about him and cannot do without him, but inexplicably increase his self-confidence.

On the contrary, your calmness and rationality will make him feel worried and scared and unpredictable. Calm down, you can make a more accurate judgment and judge the value of this marriage retention.

Second: Collect evidence to protect your greatest rights and interests.

If you feel that there is still a point in keeping this marriage, then don't entangle the decision of ‘divorce’ you mentioned, find an opportunity to talk to him directly and listen to his true thoughts.

If he still doesn’t understand and corrects when he knows the mistake, then collect evidence of his derailment, hold the evidence in his hand, in case the trouble is indispensable, these evidences are helpful to your divorce rights protection.

Since he is ruthless and unrighteous, you don't need to give him a thin face and protect your rights and interests in order to protect your future life.

Third: Adjust your mentality, change yourself, and re-base on society.

Marriage changes, no matter what we can change into, we must change our current lifestyle, don't fall into sadness for too long, get out as soon as possible, and find our foothold in society again.

Regardless of any changes in your life, always remember to love yourself, treat yourself well, and live a good life. Only if you are strong enough will you not be trampled by others at will.