As the saying goes: "The ugliness of the family should not be publicized." Indeed, every family has hard-to-read scriptures, and it is difficult for an upright official to deal with housework. Family conflicts are best resolved within the family.
Confucius also said: "The father is hidden for the son, and the son is hidden for the father", which means that there should be any bad things in the family that should be advised privately, concealed from each other, and not promoted everywhere. All these warnings of
are correct to a certain extent. For example, in a
family, only oneself knows their own marriage. If you talk to outsiders, you will be laughed at by others;
is a bit contradictory when you get along with mother-in-law and telling others is not respect The other party is not conducive to family harmony;
children are unworthy, ignorant, and tell outsiders that they will only be treated as a joke after a meal, which is not conducive to the growth of the child.
Indeed, there are some things in life that family members know, so there is no need to tell others.
You may just want to find someone to talk about it and seek comfort, but in the eyes of others, it will change your taste. There is no real help at all. Z2z
writer Goethe once said: "Family harmony is the happiest thing in life." Z2z
Indeed, no one wants to live in a happy family, carefree, free from quarrels, and happy.
But reality often fails to do so.
In life, there is a kind of family shame, which must be publicized.
That is, domestic violence.
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family ugliness can not be publicized, how many women ruined.
The so-called domestic violence refers to behaviors that occur between family members, in which family members are physically, mentally, sexually injured and tortured by beating, binding, confinement, mutilation or other means. According to statistics from the All-China Women’s Federation, approximately 30% of married women in 270 million households across the country have experienced domestic violence.
And these women who have been domestically abused have an average of 35 domestic violence before they choose to report to the police; some cannot tolerate domestic violence and choose to commit suicide.
You might say that your life safety is seriously threatened, but you don’t know whether it’s silly to take up the weapon of law to protect yourself?
Indeed, I also think this kind of person is silly.
But they have their own answers, and the answer I hear most is "shame".
Women who have been beaten by domestic violence feel that it is a shame to be beaten.
once had a comment from a reader:
said she can't remember how many times she was beaten, and often because of a little thing, her husband would punch and kick her.
She still resisted at first, but it was basically ineffective. Now she hardly resisted.
She wants to divorce, but she is reluctant to have children.
I suggest that if she is beaten again, she must find a chance to call the police or ask for help.
She said: If others knew, it would be shameful.
So, she was beaten for five years and never reported to the police once, nor did she tell her parents or the people around her.
In life, there are many women in this way.
themselves have been domestically abused. They think this is a family ugly, so they are embarrassed to tell anyone.
They endured it until there was no way to retreat. As everyone knows, choosing silence in the face of domestic violence will only allow the seeds of domestic violence to thrive.
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Domestic violence is not a domestic matter, but a crime.
Regarding domestic violence, life is often full of voices like:
"For the sake of the child, bear with it", "The couple fight, the head of the bed is not at the end of the bed", many men vowed to guarantee that there will be no harm after the violence. Times.
However, the occurrence of domestic violence is regular and cyclical.
It only has zero and countless times. The
documentary film "A Chronicle of Violence in China" lists a large number of domestic violence cases, among which Dong Shanshan is the most impressive. Z2z
was married for 5 months, her thighs, arms, and face were covered with bruises and scars;
was married for 8 months, and she was sent to the intensive care unit of the hospital.
suffered from long-term domestic violence. Dong Shanshan had committed suicide twice and was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety by a doctor.
She went to the court to file a divorce lawsuit, but she withdrew the lawsuit under the threat of her husband. 10 months after the marriage of
, 26-year-old Dong Shanshan passed away with whole body pain.
Domestic violence is not a domestic scandal, but a crime.
hope that all women can stay away from domestic violence, if you encounter unfortunately, do not think that "family ugliness cannot be publicized", and must act, Say "no" to domestic violence!
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