Tree of Life Marriage and Love
This is a world distorted by desire, full of sinful flowers.
derailment is the most beautiful and vicious flower blooming among the flowers of sin.
Its lethality and influence will not only destroy the three people involved, but also make the injured people suffer and despair. What's more terrifying about
is that it will become a system that will affect all those involved in derailment. The person who has been hurt and affected most by
is the child!!!
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sad story
Not long ago, an 18-year-old girl appeared in court to testify that her father cheated and was listed on the hot search.
"I want to prove that my father and Wu XX illegally lived together"
It turned out that when the girl was 8 years old, her father had an extramarital affair with the tutor "Ms. Wu", and divorced and married a junior.
Not long after, my father and Xiaosan divorced and remarried with their mother. The family seemed to start a new life.
But what is unbelievable is that Xiaosan brought her son to the door and moved into the master bedroom of the house, while she and her mother lived in another room.
The girl and mother once threw their things out, but it was useless, and even exchanged for a scolding or violent beating. What is even more frightening is that her father and relatives have been brainwashing her, even saying that "a family of five" is right. In this way,
has been doing both soft and hard work. Since the girl was twelve years old, the "family of five" lived together for 6 years.
has lived in this deformed home for 6 years, and I don't know how much psychological shadow it will bring to this girl!
No one knows what kind of impact and storm she has experienced in her heart, and no one knows what impact the six years will have on her.
I just feel that a deep cold is passed from her testimony. What kind of coolness was at that time? !
said in court: "I don't want one father and two mothers."
really loves this child. What will her life, her future, and her marriage be twisted into?
In many people’s perceptions, a spouse who has cheated is the most hurt and desperate.
In fact, children who have witnessed and experienced their parents' cheating are hit far beyond imagination.
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Terrible data
China's marriage and family status survey data show that more than 60% of men and nearly 30% of women have sex with each other, and more than 80% of men and 60% of women have thought about it.
These data are limited in scope and specimens, not the whole picture, but they are also the epitome of current Chinese marriage.
Children's cognition and feelings of emotion and marriage are basically derived from their parents' marriage, which can be said to be a direct influence.
If parents are in harmony and treat their feelings with loyalty, the child will be full of confidence and yearning for the married life, and will imitate the parents’ way of getting along;
but the parent’s feelings are not harmonious, the child is unfaithful to the marriage, the child is prone to fear of marriage, or Marriage does not have the slightest confidence, and thus a game of emotions.
Therefore, the marital status of parents is like a template, a role model for children's feelings and marital status in the future.
As long as parents cheat, they will stifle their children's hope for love and marriage, and destroy their ability to love and trust others.
Children’s understanding and feelings about marriage, family, love, and even beauty will be distorted or even destroyed.
At the same time, the derailment of one parent is a devastating blow to the other victim.
The injured party will have large emotional fluctuations, be sensitive and suspicious, be prone to anger, and will vilify the other party's image in front of the child. The hatred of
towards the derailed party and the sympathy for the victimized party, the two forces will have extremely terrible effects on the child.
plus the victim’s endless chattering, struggling in pain, let the child discover the victim’s problem, leading to "sympathy" cheating on the party.
When a child loses his direction with hatred and sympathy, he will eventually turn everything towards himself. It is because I am not good that it leads to the family tragedy!
When the family is broken, and when you encounter lies that deny your own value, it is enough to destroy all the children's sense of security and value.
Children will think that marriage is the beginning of misfortune, and there will be two extremes when dealing with feelings:
On the one hand, they hate people who are unfaithful to their feelings, but on the other hand they become such people unconsciously.
In addition to extremely rare children who have the privilege of meeting God, being saved from this curse and being healed by grace. Most of the children of
will have a lot of emotions and spend their entire lives in pain and suffering in betrayal and betrayal.
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The cheating wife
In our counseling case, many unfortunate marriages basically have unbearable past.
has the most representative case of a pair of preachers. With their consent, we can compare them. The wife of
had been in love a few times before getting married, but almost every time she was talking about marriage, she found that the other party was cheating.
This made her extremely painful, but she was puzzled, and she was even laughed at by her girlfriends. She was born with the physique of scumbag.
finally gained faith when he was desperate to live, and found the now honest and honest husband in the fellowship. The husband of
was the leader of the youth fellowship at the time, and the successor in the eyes of the pastor was a role model and benchmark in the eyes of everyone. After getting married,
has always felt the love and considerateness of her husband. It seems that everything has to start again, and she is full of happiness.
But not long after she became pregnant, she had become a preacher's husband and cheated on the sisters in the fellowship, which made her completely desperate.
even began to doubt God, doubting his own beliefs, until he doubted everything and almost committed suicide...
found us through the introduction of friends, and only discovered the horror hidden inside during the consultation. When
helped her make a family picture, her mind was full of images of her father cheating when she was a child and her mother heartbroken.
Her emotions are completely collapsed and desperate, and her inner vow is that I must not live like my mother, and must find a man who will not cheat.
continued to dig deeper, only to find that it was her mother's pain, extremes, bitterness and resentment that hurt her more deeply.
hears harsh sounds almost every day, the collapse of bowls and bowls, and crying heartbreakingly.
Her emotions at this time are angry or even disgusting, and her inner vow has become a weak woman who deserves to be abandoned. I must make my father pay the price.
As a result, whatever you are afraid of, what is attracted by lies is the response of the abyss, and he has the "physique" of a scumbag.
wants to change her father. There is no possibility and hope in her life. It is her dream to transform a man.
Therefore, in an intimate relationship, she intentionally or unintentionally indulges each other, and even creates "opportunities" for the other party to derail.
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's cheating husband
dug here, her husband has long been crying like a man, with a mixture of regret, sadness and anger.
The marriages that God prepares are perfect matches, not only fitting closely, but also facing each other.
When he was about 8 years old, his father also cheated, but he didn't hate his father at all, he hated his mother. After
knew that his father had cheated on her, her mother collapsed and she was in pain all day long with tears. Z2z
's mother mobilized all the relationships to restore his father, and even forced him to find his father to reason, and took him to catch the mistress.
For an 8-year-old child, these are unspeakable pain and humiliation. What
is even more terrifying than these is that the hysterical mother often vents her anger on him, repeatedly saying that it is because of him that his father cheated.
originally thought that his mother was very pitiful, but it was not easy; only now I found out that her mother was strong and emotional...
slowly developed anger and disgust towards her mother: no wonder my dad doesn't want you.
He has always felt that there is an uncontrollable impulse in his life, which is the pleasure after crime. The pleasure of
made him feel that he not only avenged his mother, but also punished his father, and got a sense of illusory value.
But the consequences of his sin made him even more painful, and he was not truly released until he met God.
But this kind of "impulse" in his body will constantly impact him, making him at a loss. Only when
is serving, this feeling will be diluted and silent, but it is ready to move.
depressed for many years, pretending to be the benchmark of fellowship, pretending to be married, But when his wife was pregnant, everything went to waste.
discovered that his wife is an engine to tempt him, exactly the same as his mother.
is strong, emotional, and has a strong desire for control. The most terrifying thing is that he is constantly suspecting of derailment and asking him to prove his innocence.
Internal worries and external troubles, the wife outside and the old self inside, made him choose his wife to commit a crime when he was pregnant...
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Thorough treatment and release
When the essential reason is slowly exposed from the complex phenomenon , Which brings us the moment of true grace.
Although both of them have faith and are even very godly, they have not been completely open to the Holy Spirit and are separated by their own walls. The disguise of
husband has made others and him feel that this person is no longer the same, but a completely healed person. The gentleness of
's wife also made many people and herself think that this person has become a new person and has been completely released.
's thoughts and disguise made them walk into the quagmire they dug out, unable to extricate themselves but they were used to it.
But when the disguise was torn away, the resistance was put down, and when facing God completely and truthfully, the Holy Spirit did the most wonderful work. During the prayer, both of them heard a very clear sentence: "It's not your fault that your parents cheat!" The words
made the two cry extremely free, from grievance and humiliation to freedom and release, and then to joy and peace.
is like a moment in the sky, and a thousand years have passed on the ground, a reborn new life, making them cry and joy!
Maybe, this is what we often say to taste the grace of the Lord, and a true and intimate relationship with the Lord!
is just the real face of knowledge and theories, not self-righteous, but the power of the Holy Spirit to shake the heavens and the earth.
Of course, only an honest heart, a soul who is completely desperate for oneself, will completely entrust oneself.
Since then, they have begun to serve, and they continue to emphasize let us use their cases.
Of course, in order to protect them, they must not disclose their names and information, because people will still have weaknesses.
But the case itself is enough to witness a golden rule, only true openness will be healed!
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