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When many women walk alone, they often long to meet a partner who loves and knows each other.
But after you really find that person, you will inevitably feel insecure. After tasting the ups and downs of love, it will be difficult to bear the feeling of being alone.
It is a natural law that two people who love each other attract each other. However, in real life, feelings often need to go through many tests. If they do not stand the test, the feelings will gradually disappear.
Therefore, how to withstand the test and successfully retain the other half has become a topic of frequent discussion.
In recent years, a popular psychological term has appeared on the Internet, called the "cat abandonment effect". The word
ostensibly means that after abandoning the naughty cat, when it returns to its owner or finds a new owner, it will become more well-behaved and obedient than before, and it will never have the same "Flying and domineering" temper.
and now this word is often used to describe the relationship between people, and it will be frequently quoted in feelings.
once appeared in a classic love movie: once there was a sincere love before me but I didn't cherish it, until I lost it, I couldn't regret it.
Therefore, many couples now want to try this method when dealing with their partners. So whether the cat abandonment effect can be used in a good relationship between the sexes, let's discuss together.
Many women will try to put pressure on each other under the pretext of breaking up in love, and hope to get sympathy and cherish from each other in this way, but never thought that they would miss a true love in the end. At first glance, this method of
does not violate the theory of the cat abandonment effect, but it needs to be noted that after all, humans and cats are different, and people have stronger thinking ability and cognition of things.
If you blindly sever the relationship or threaten to break up in your emotional life, try to stabilize the relationship between the two, and finally part ways are logical.
may arouse sympathy and self-blame from the other party at first, but in the long run it will only exhaust the other party's patience and bottom line.
Actually, this is not the result of the "cat-abandoning effect" itself, but more that some women have misunderstood this effect. Next, Achai will analyze for you how to make the cat abandonment effect work better.
01, learn to manage relationship
First of all, we need to be clear, that is, love is a matter of two people. It may be only a unilateral attraction at first, but when two people really come together, the enthusiasm of one party alone is not enough to maintain the relationship.
Therefore, true love should be based on mutual understanding and trust.
If the relationship with your partner is relatively stable in daily life, it is not recommended to use the "cat abandonment effect" to add to your troubles, otherwise it will appear to be too unreasonable and may cause cracks in the originally stable relationship.
02. Learn to change yourself
Many people have tried the cat-abandoning effect when the relationship is in crisis, but the result is that the other party walks away without looking back. Don't complain about the other party's ruthlessness at this time, it's probably because you yourself are not worth cherishing.
Many girls will hear this sentence in their mothers when they are young: Only when a girl learns to love herself can someone love you. The self-love mentioned here is not selfish, but constantly making yourself better.
When a person is good enough, he will naturally find a better partner.
Just imagine, if you are a girl with both talents and good looks, the other party may neglect you because of a momentary negligence, and your slight indifference is enough to make the other party feel flustered and afraid of losing. In the emotional life, being yourself is the most important thing.
03, the correct use of the abandoning cat effect
Actually everyone knows the meaning of this term, but in practice, they often fail because they cannot control their emotions.
We must first make sure that this method cannot be based on hurting ourselves and the other party, especially not by threatening our lives or other important things. hurting ourselves can win sympathy, but it cannot be exchanged for love.
If a girl finds that she is neglecting herself gradually or is suspected of being unfaithful to love during her relationship with her partner, she can leave her in the cold for a period of time, or separate briefly. This indifference of
is not hurt, but gives each other a chance to rethink this relationship.
If two people are really more suitable, after careful thinking, the relationship will become stronger, and if the two people are really inappropriate or not in love, then the relationship will not continue. It is necessary to go down, otherwise it can only hurt each other.
Generally speaking, the cat abandonment effect is not a real abandonment, but a chance for each other to think deeply.
After all, two people have been together for a long time, and it is inevitable that there will be some relationship problems. In order to let the relationship develop healthily, you can use this method to calm down each other first, and then check the gaps.
Love is not wishful thinking. Sometimes you need to take into account the emotions of the other person, otherwise you will lose-lose.
If you want men to treat you deeply, you might as well establish a foundation of mutual respect and trust. Even if there are some problems in your relationship, you can choose the right way to solve them, such as the "cat abandonment effect" introduced by Achai.
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