Smart women do this in their marriages: change the moderation and the marriage will last

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People living in this world are not static, but change with encounters and experiences. Some people change the better, others change worse. People often say that marriage is the biggest change for a person. After marriage, both men and women will be very different from before.

A happy marriage requires people to make continuous changes in a good direction, and an unhappy marriage will definitely change the way and method a little bit differently. In marriage, not only are men required to act responsible, but also women are required to learn to be smart. The requirements mentioned by

here do not require us to behave well in marriage. In fact, sometimes we learn to be moderate, which will make people feel that life will increase more fun, and it is also conducive to the relationship between husband and wife. The promotion of this is conducive to better and better marriage and family.

Some people may say, isn't it true that the more positive the better in marriage? Of course, proper handling of various issues and difficulties will greatly improve the happiness index of the marriage, but some lagging measures should also be taken appropriately so that both parties can better solve various problems and difficulties and achieve a happy marriage. .

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Change her diligent self

After getting married, Xiaoxue has been very tired every day, not only taking care of all the housework at home, but also going out to work to earn money. Even though I am very tired when I get home every day, I still roll up my sleeves. I went to cook in the kitchen. When I first saw his wife so diligent, Xiaoxue's husband showed him a lot of love, but after a long time, Xiaoxue's husband thought that this was something Xiaoxue should do. If Xiaoxue stopped cooking one day, her husband would be furious. Xiaoxue like

doesn't understand him very much. He has paid so much for this family, and is doing various things diligently every day. Although he is tired, he is very happy, but why does her husband never understand him? In fact, Xiaoxue's husband has committed a common problem with many people, that is, solidifying his thinking.

When a person has been doing a certain thing for another person for a long time, this person will take all kinds of things for granted. If suddenly he does not do it one day, he will let Others feel particularly uncomfortable. The ancients often said that "one liter of rice raises the benefactor, and a bucket of rice raises the enemy". This is the truth.

Therefore, in marriage, a woman sometimes does not have to be particularly diligent. If she keeps herself for the sake of the family, she will not be able to stand it in the long run, she will not be able to bear it, she will also not be able to gain the understanding of others, and she will even complain. So give yourself a break, or evenly distribute the things at home to each other, so that both husband and wife can take on the responsibilities of the family, which can promote the development of the marriage.

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After she got married, Xiaoxue had to do all kinds of housework every day and go out to work to earn money. From the inside, Xiaoxue's temper was very good. No matter what annoyance or even Her husband was furious with herself, and she thought that as long as she endured it, she would pass, and she never lost her temper.

It’s been a long time. Xiaoxue suddenly found that her husband often doesn’t care about some of her needs. For example, if she feels sick and asks her husband to help with the dishes and cooking, her husband is reluctant at all. Even at this level, Xiaoxue does not. I lose my temper, and what I get is my husband's repeated changes.

Everyone has joys, sorrows, sorrows, and various emotions. This is very normal. Even in marriage, sometimes you can’t change yourself in order to maintain the marriage, so that you have no temper at all. This may make the other party feel weak or have no resistance at all, and make the other party do all kinds of irrational behaviors.

Often many women choose for the harmony of the family, blindly forbearing, but blindly forbearing does not exchange for family happiness, so sometimes they lose their temper and express their inner desires, which can make their husbands more aware of their inner heart. Thoughts. Of course, to change your gentle temper is not to turn yourself into a grumpy woman, but to express your own views on certain things appropriately, and don't just tolerate.

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change the ideal self

young men and women in love are often maleShenghui will describe a bright future to girls, and gain the favor of girls through various verbal promises, and the innocent girls believe it. After getting married, girls still have ideals in life and are still waiting for the vows that boys once made, but most of the facts go against their wishes.

is full of ideal girls. After marriage, they will generally become more naive. They always think that life will get better and better as described in fairy tales, but if you don’t actually do it, you will not achieve happiness in life. . There is nothing wrong with being filled with ideals, but don't let ideals occupy your entire life. Sometimes you should face reality and you should also face it.

So after marriage, a woman should not have all kinds of fantasies all day long, based on reality, face reality, and work hard to do everything well. This is the way to run a family and make the couple feel emotional. More harmonious.

Of course, the husband and wife should be appropriately romantic and plan for a better future. There is no fault, but everything should be modest, and you must pay attention to reasonable control of your emotions. Just think about some things in your mind and calm down. You should work hard and live your life. When we are truly defeated by reality, this will not be too big a gap, so the ideal is just to think about it, and reality is the most important.

All things must be adequate. Women should not pay too much attention to reality while rejecting too many ideals of themselves. Only when the two reach a good balance point, will life become more and more happier.

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Change the self-submissive self

Many women before marriage, the elderly in the family will advise them to bear with all kinds of things in their marriage. In fact, this is the traditional concept of many people. It is not uncommon to be submissive in marriage. , But this is not fair to female friends.

now pays attention to equality between men and women, and the same is true in marriage. After marriage, men and women share the responsibility of the family. The two have the same status. Therefore, in marriage, women do not need to be resigned, no matter what they think they need to be good. Express it.

Marriage is the life of two people. Only two people work together to make the family marriage better and better. In marriage, women don’t have to worry about anything, because there are some happy things that can only be obtained by working hard on their own. Therefore, marriage is not a woman’s unilateral contribution, but requires both men and women to operate together.

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Of course, in marriage, there is no need to care too much about who pays more and who pays less. The joint efforts of the two are nothing more than to make the family better and better. On the one hand, the husband and wife must respect each other during the marriage, and don't think that what the other party does is deserved.

In marriage, women themselves should not be too smart or too active. If blindly proactive, it will not be conducive to the happiness of marriage and family. Therefore, in marriage, a woman should also learn to be a little more moderate, let herself become a little mediocre, a little more realistic, and a little more secular, so that two people will cherish the feelings between them.

Marriage management is a university question. It is not just a talk, but practical action. This process requires methods and wits and courage. When the two truly reach a point of emotional balance, they will find that the original business Marriage is not easy. If you want your marriage to become more and more happier, women must learn to be smarter. Smart women often make their husbands stubbornly committed to themselves and make the relationship between the couple reach unprecedented heights, which in turn will make marriage and family life happy.