Author: psychological Lo
begins to say something big truth.
1. There is not enough loyalty, but not enough chips for betrayal.
2. The more you worry about who leaves you, who will leave you, the less you worry about him leaving you, he will not leave you.
Your quality, your fine quality, people always seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. If you walk too close to him, he thinks that you are worthless. If you leave, give him appropriate favors. If you are good to him, he will be grateful instead.
Therefore, whether it is a husband or wife relationship or a couple, you must keep a certain distance with each other appropriately, not too far away, and not too close. You have to handle that.
Associating with people is a matter of learning. Sometimes you have to use your brain. You have to understand human nature. You can also say that you should not treat your lover as a person, but as an adult. If you do everything from a human perspective Set out to deal with each other, maybe you will become a winner in life.
Although you need to be human, you also need to know the essence of human beings in your heart. And the real truth I wrote is only to teach you to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and teach you how to strive for the most favorable situation for yourself , Instead of turning you into an impersonal person, so, my fans, and other people who often read my articles, don’t think it’s crooked, there is still true love in the world.
Half of my fans have suffered emotional betrayal, so today, I want to write an article on how to eliminate the third party between husband and wife. I suggest you read this article, which will definitely make you wake up.
First of all, if we want to know why we are betrayed, we must first know what is that restricts human nature and makes both of you loyal.
Here, there are three major cores.
1, passion.
2, benefits.
3, cooperation.
first talk about passion, passion is the so-called attraction of opposite sex, you like her looks, she likes your handsome.
You said that you love him, and he also said that he loves you for a lifetime, life after life, all your romantic behaviors, sending flowers, or walking on the beach hand in hand, watching the sunset in the breeze, these are all so-called passions.
But passion is the least reliable, and it is also the easiest to be replaced by others. If a beautiful girl appears next to a man, then the man is easily drawn away. If a successful and outstanding man appears next to a woman, he treats her every day Sugar-coated cannonball, this woman is also easy to betray.
Therefore, passion is the least reliable.
is more reliable and loyal than passion is the second point, and that is interest.
In other words, you must find a way to become the other party's community of interests.
The benefits mentioned here are not only your earning ability, but also the spiritual needs of the other party, spiritual needs, the collision and communication between your spirits, and showing that you care about each other very much. These are spiritual needs.
For example, when you need him most, or when you are sick and helpless in bed, he appears. These are all spiritual.
You have to think about how to be at the same frequency with the other party. You have to think about how to be the only one of the other party. In the other party's mind, you should become a substitute that others cannot exchange. In other words, you have to be others. Can't replace your place in your lover's heart, then you win. If
wants to become the other party's community of interests, it is not that simple. There is a lot of information in it. For example, a woman becomes a man's military adviser, advises him, communicates with him, and understands their difficulties. This is to give him benefits again.
The more mature men are, the more lonely they are. Don’t think they won’t be lonely after they get married. The loneliest thing about them is that no one understands their situation. If you can occupy his heart and become someone who understands him, then You are stronger than other women, which naturally reduces the probability of betrayal.
If you are a man, you also have to understand the other person. You know that she loves her and cares about her. In her heart, you are a person who cannot be replaced by other men. This is to benefit her, or you can give her peace of mind, comfort and peace of mind, strong This is a community of interests.
You give what others can't give, what you can't replace, you are a different firework.
And the most perfect community of interests is that both husband and wife are helpful to their respective careers, and no one can do withoutWho to open, this is the true combination of two swords.
Core: You have to think about the other's career and emotional needs, so as to be able to effectively supplement the other's needs. If you can't do this, only consider your own needs, then when a person with the same frequency as your lover appears, it is possible Will be taken away by the opponent.
This is equivalent to when your lover is dying in the ice and snow, suddenly someone gives charcoal in the snow, and you are only watching, or you don’t find that your lover has been lying in the snow for a long time, you say, your lover will Follow you, or will you follow the charcoal sender?
think about it...
forget it, let me make it clear, that is to say, you have to give him water and a warm embrace when he is thirsty and tired, then What do you think the other person will think of you?
finally talk about the third point, partnership! To put it plainly, in addition to the element of love, there is another layer of cooperative relationship between husband and wife. Marriage is a company you start, your child is your product, and your parents and other immediate family members are your shareholders.
If you treat each other as a partner, you may get unexpected results. However, many people can’t do this. Either the husband is mine, the child is mine, the wife is mine, and the daughter is mine. of.
Who is yours? In fact, no one is yours, only you are yours. Children will get married when they grow up, and their lovers will betray if they don’t manage well. Who do you say is yours?
keeps the other party too strict every day, as if you treat the other party as your private property, as if you are afraid that the other party will fly. In fact, they are just a cooperative relationship with you. The deeper meaning is that you can support each other when you are old.
The more you control the other party, the less valuable you are. Indirectly, it means that you are afraid that the other party will leave you. Then men will be tired of your discipline, and will feel confident, because they think you are worthless.
If you relax for a while and tighten, the other party will try to figure you out. Therefore, it is enough to manage the principle and don't interfere too much.
Conversely, the same is true for men to women. The more you are afraid of this woman leaving you, she will definitely leave you in the end, Murphy's law, what you are afraid of is nothing for nothing.
Finally, let’s talk about the summary of the article. How to eliminate the third party between husband and wife?
first has a passionate relationship with the other party, is enhancing its own value and striving to become a community of interests with the other party. Give him charcoal when he/she is lying in the snow, and give him an umbrella when he/she is in the rain.
Finally, you have to find ways to make the other party's future planning, only you can participate, others can not replace, so that others can not replace you.
think about it, this is a kind of knowledge, people, sometimes, if you want a stable and happy life, you have to use your brain!
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