Our country is a nation of etiquette, and filial piety is regarded as our traditional virtue. Especially in ancient times, if there were no filial children by his side, then the old man's old age would be very miserable. From ancient times to the present, our country has punished unfilial children, but this cannot eliminate this situation from the root cause. Sometimes there are still situations where they are unwilling to support their parents, and because of this, there is a saying among the people of our country that "there is no dutiful son before the bed for a long time."
wants to understand this sentence, in fact, it is not very difficult. That is, when parents suffer from serious illness and need to rest in bed, children often have no way to show their filial piety to their parents' bed. Why is this so? In fact, it is not that children are unwilling to be filial to their sick parents. I believe that the original intention of any child is to hope that the parents will live well. Therefore, when parents have serious illnesses, they hope to earn more money to treat their parents.
However, if the parent’s illness is not dangerous, long-term care is required. In this case, it will become a burden for one's own children, and the longer the time, the contradictions will also appear. Especially in the current high pressure state, the possibility of this situation will be greater.
For example, in the Spring and Autumn Period, Qi Huangong of Qi is very famous. During his reign, he was wise and enterprising. With the help of many ministers, he made Qi the hegemony. His life was brilliant.
In 643 BC, Qi Huangong was seriously ill. Seeing that Qi's hegemony was about to choose an heir, his five sons immediately began to fight for the throne. Because the five sons are all evenly matched and there are many party members, this fight for position caused chaos, and they started to fight. In this way, Qi Huangong was still in the hospital bed, hoping that he could get up again to see the government. However, his five sons fought hard in the capital of Qi State.
is like this, no one cares about Qi Huangong anymore, but is all concerned about who can inherit Qi and become a new overlord. Even when Master Qi Huan died in the end, no one noticed it. Exactly 67 days later, the palace talent found that Qi Huangong had been "cooled" long ago, and many insects had crawled out of the window. The scene was very miserable. Everyone does not even know whether Qi Huan died of illness or starvation...
Of course, some people have explained that modern children may have mortgages, car loans and their own children need to support, and marriage needs to be maintained. If you take care of sick parents for a long time, the family income will also be reduced a lot. At this time, they may want to earn money to relieve these pressures.
However, as parents, their love for their children is often the most selfless. Once the above situation occurs, the picture often makes people feel chilling. We can see this in real life or in TV dramas, and TV dramas often reflect it more vividly. Therefore, even an old saying is feasible in today's society.
Some people may think that "there is no filial son before the bed for a long time" is a complete saying. In fact, this is not the case. It has the next sentence, and the next 7 words are even more sad. However, it is also a sentence that can well reflect social phenomena. This sentence is "there is no good wife in the poor family for a long time".
When we pursue love, we often do not consider objective factors such as economics. But when two people get married or after their passion retreats, the brain will be occupied by reason. If the marriage encounters some not-so-big problems at this time, generally speaking, both spouses can work together. If there are some major conflicts, or even when the food and clothing problems of both parties cannot be solved or the food and clothing problems of the family members cannot be solved, such a marriage relationship will often come to an end. The reason
is like this is actually because the accumulation of time has caused a lot of grievance and disappointment on both sides. When resentment and disappointment accumulate to a certain level, an outbreak is inevitable. Because of this, many modern people often hope that they can have a certain economic or material basis as support when they get married. Only in this way can we avoid to a large extent the embarrassing state of "poor couples are sad" or "smart women can't cook without rice".
However, many people who are in love are out of the state of being obsessed with the authorities, and they always put their feelings first. It is believed that there will be warmth between people, but it ignores "coldness is not human nature, and coldness is not human heart".
Although this sentenceIt sounds indifferent, but it is very common in our real married life. This is enough to see that in the age of our ancestors, this situation has become common.
With the development of the times, colloquialism is becoming less and less common in life. However, their own special meanings have been flooding our daily lives. The related philosophies contained in it are still worthy of reference by modern people.
Marriage and family are very important for a person, especially marriage is a necessary form of maintaining a family. Without marriage, there would be no family, and a happy life would be lost.
Of course, some people will say that "divorce" is also a kind of relief, and it is a way to solve the problem in a marriage that is truly unsustainable. But most marriages will last for decades. How to maintain the marriage, how to last, and how to alleviate conflicts, these are the hidden "problems" in every family.
Solved well, grow old together and live a happy life.
is not solved well, savings explode, and noisy.
Although material influences the marriage to a large extent, what really affects both parties in the marriage?
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