Life is like a pool of water, and getting married is like building a dam together. Z2z surrounded by two people can indeed gain stability and calm, but at the same time, if the dam is too high and the water inlet is forgotten, and there is a lack of fresh water injection, it will become a pool of stagnant water sooner or later.
The seven-year itch was born from this.
At this time, the onlookers all sighed, how enviable was once a golden child, a model of husband and wife, but now it has ended in a dismal situation. Is it because he has changed or she has changed? Or have both sides changed?
is actually only the change itself, the only constant truth.
Xiaoxue and her husband’s marriage has come to the eighth year. When I got married, I promised that I would love her husband for a lifetime. I had already shifted the focus of life to work, and Xiaoxue was no longer obsessed with Huaqianyuexia and me.
However, the news of the divorce of her girlfriends made Xiaoxue instantly sober: It turns out that even if you have a child, or even have a second child, a man is likely to cheat! This made her suddenly realize that her marriage has been asleep for a long time. During
's time with her divorced girlfriends, Xiaoxue is reflecting on the problems in her marriage. looks calm and calm, but there is already a pool of silt inside, and there will be no more fish.
01 Increased physical contact
Fortunately, Xiaoxue has discovered the problem, and she has begun to consciously adjust her relationship with her husband. For example, before going out every day, she hugs her husband for half a minute. At first, the husband is not used to it and feels that he is old and old Now, why waste precious time in the morning. Xiaoxue didn't explain much either, just insisted on smiling day after day.
After a while, the husband suddenly leaned over before getting up and gave Xiaoxue a good morning kiss. Xiaoxue almost jumped up happily, which means that her husband has accepted Xiaoxue’s love and is willing to follow Xiaoxue’s way To express emotions. The old way of getting along is slowly disintegrating and changing!
02 After boasting that the group owner is always online
has basic confidence, Xiaoxue further implements the action to rebuild the relationship. She began to praise her husband meticulously, from throwing garbage to washing dishes, from tutoring children's homework to handing in wages, everything has become the reason for Xiaoxue to praise her husband, and every time she praised her husband was justified and wrapped. Xiaoxue's true heart.
Gradually, her husband worked harder and was more willing to meet Xiaoxue's needs. Instead, Xiaoxue became a slap-off shopkeeper who only talked and didn't work.
03 Looking back on the past
, Xiaoxue's nirvana is: writing love letters . Although it is an old-fashioned trick, the little bit in the love letter is the warm past of the two, and the husband wiped his eyes with tears. The last time after a while, the husband felt that he was being watched by Xiaoxue'ai eyes all the time, and that he had gained every bit of hard work. In his own words, this is: if you marry a wife, how much more can your husband ask for.
Say goodbye to the seven-year itch, or if you want to regain the sweetness in your marriage, you can adopt some simple techniques like Xiaoxue. The first step of is to increase the body touch , and establish a sense of ritual between husband and wife; the second step of is to praise the group owner who is always online , and affirm all his efforts, because he is seen by the person who cares. Get affirmation, and work harder; the last step of is to review the past , this is to remind him, "We have gone through such a long road, how hard we have gone through, I cherish this fate, and hope you do the same."
There is nothing in the world once and for all, so is marriage. The more familiar and close you are, the more you need to take care of each other with care. Don't hurt your hard-won intimacy because of laziness.
[Note: This article is original by the author "I am a confidant sister", and is not allowed to be reproduced without authorization. The picture comes from the Internet, if there is any copyright, please contact to delete it】
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