Like Chen Kexin and Wu Junru, men and women who only live together and do not get married, but can have children together, and walk together for many years until now, at this stage, at least in our country's young and middle-aged groups are rare.
After all, for young people, marriage is the best way to protect love and their legitimate rights.
But for older men and women, the situation may be the opposite.
A retired old man said frankly: "The best way to live the rest of your life is actually to live with a partner." The reason is probably as follows. I wonder if everyone agrees with her? Ms.
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Duan, 53 years old this year. More than two years ago, her wife fell ill and passed away. After being single for more than a year, she met her current wife through someone’s introduction. The two have been together for almost half a year, and the relationship is harmonious and stable. Also moved to live in the other party's house.
To outsiders, they are just a normal couple, but in fact, the two did not receive the certificate.
She said that they have reached a preliminary agreement, not only will they not receive the certificate now, nor will they in the future.
Some friends persuaded her that if she didn't get the certificate, women would suffer more. To do the housework for the old man for free, the two parties can't reach a balance of payment alone.
, but she asked the other side: "Who said that as long as a woman lives with a man, she has to do housework for her for free all day long? I don't have this idea. Although
has many things to deal with in life, life is Two people are living. I need to bear part, and he has to bear part, so that the relationship can be normal. Otherwise, I can’t stand it and can leave at any time.” After listening to this, friends of
worried that they would inevitably not live together like this, but However, she believes that even if the certificate is obtained, it is difficult for men and women to live together at this age. There will be many instinctual things that will hinder both parties' selfishness.
So it is simpler and safer to not get a certificate.
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Furthermore, the reality also shows that for many older men, one of the biggest concerns when looking for a partner at dusk is that the other party may have other motives.
is because of my poor viability and heavy family burden, so I want to find a helper who can solve major financial problems for me. I want to remarry with this idea.
For them, in their later years, the property around them is also very important, the only guarantee that can guarantee their own safety and spend the rest of their lives decently, how can they let a woman plot casually? Even if you get married,
will definitely try to guard against each other's ideas in this regard.
In this way, both parties will have ghosts and will be wary. The relationship cannot be harmonious, and the marriage will naturally crack.
She feels that instead of living this way, it is better to stay single.
Her sons and daughters are already married and have retired wages, savings, and housing. In fact, they don’t need marriage to protect their old age.
But on the other hand, she didn’t want to fall into the calculations of an old man who had ulterior motives for everything she had, so she felt that what an elderly person of her age needed most was the company of another person. There was no money involved. , On the contrary, you can enjoy the true companionship of the other party.
The life of two people can be more relaxed and free without burden. One more thing about
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is that, as we have already said, when they reach their age group, both sides have some money and material accumulation in their hands because of the past years, and they also have adult children and grandchildren. The heirs. If
has to be proved, it is not a matter of the relationship between the two parties. It is bound to involve all the families of both parties. It is a major decision of the two families.
The more people involved in the marriage, the more difficult it is to handle the relationship.
will naturally arise because of the indispensable practical considerations in all aspects. If one link is not handled properly, both sides will have cares, suspicions, and defenses.
But as long as you get married, these things are inevitable. After all, people have selfish thoughts. Once they touch their own actual interests, their ideas and practices areWill change accordingly. Compared with this kind of life,
does not care about paying for the life together, so that the two people who have no conflict of interest can know how to cherish this relationship and this relationship, and can also reassure the families of both parties that it will not produce too much Resistance and interference.
Concluding remarks:
should remarry in old age, or to simplify it a bit and live together as a team? The decision-making power is only in the hands of the man and woman involved.
Some people think that only marriage is considered a serious relationship between men and women. Otherwise, it is like a way of not seriously wanting to spend the rest of your life with each other, too casual, and too lack of security.
However, there are also many older men and women who feel that the disadvantages of remarriage in old age are greater than the advantages, so the double-double agreement only talks about companionship, not the form.
In fact, on this issue, it is impossible to talk about which kind of understanding is wrong. The key is to see whether the two sides can reach a consensus.
As long as they agree with each other's cognitions and suggestions, and can be sincere and reduce some selfish thoughts to live the next life together, the future of both people will be more harmonious.
But if the starting point is not simple, the heart is too much for oneself, not for the other side at all, then it is difficult to reach the end together whether it is remarrying or living together. After all,
has reached this age of men and women, as Cai Ming said in the sketch: "They are all foxes of a thousand years, who do you want to play with?"
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