Author: Shirley
original works, plagiarism reserved
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now many young men and women to marry difficult, except for single men and women of high emotional demands, there is a reason that the physical aspects, such as bride price and wedding room, two Material conditions are like a stumbling block under the feet of single men and women. Everyone is gambling with each other, hoping to win that. But slowly, this custom became a means of profiting for oneself, and finally it became a weapon to hurt feelings.
Zhang Qian has reached the age of thirty. Although she has a decent job and a salary of about 30,000 yuan a month, she still has no boyfriend, and friends around him always give Zhang Qian a blind date. Fortunately, Zhang Qian is long. She must be beautiful and well-proportioned, and there is no shortage of men to pursue.
Wu Hao is also one of the suitors. In fact, Wu Hao’s appearance is average and his job is just a small employee, but fortunately he is loyal and honest. Zhang Qian also likes this. She feels that an honest man looks after his family, not like a handsome person. Feeling insecure, so the two people get along for a while to confirm their relationship.
Two people have been in love for half a year, and both feel that they are getting along well with each other, so they are ready to meet with their parents and feel that the marriage can be settled.
Zhang Qian’s parents said about their custom: When a girl marries, the man must give a gift of 200,000 yuan, and the man must add the woman’s name to the property book. Of course, the woman’s family will also dowry. Zhang Qian felt that this request was normal, but did not want to be rejected by Wu Hao's family.
Wu Hao’s parents believe that the house was purchased by the son before marriage and belongs to pre-marital property. The woman’s name should not be filled in, and now it is advocated that men and women are equal. The woman should not ask for so many gifts. Of course, the gifts are indispensable. The man's family is willing to give out fifty thousand beauties.
Zhang Qian was very angry after hearing the meaning of the man’s home. Zhang Qian thought that her request was not excessive. Many women would ask for it. The two had a big fight. Zhang Qian said: "The house can not add my name, or even a gift I don’t want it either, but you have to promise yourself three conditions, and the marriage will continue.”
One, the man’s debts before marriage shall be borne by the man himself
After marriage, the young couple should jointly bear the future storms and difficulties, if only one person To undertake is not only a lot of pressure, but also without the original purpose of marriage. After all, marriage is two people facing all things in the future together.
Zhang Qian believes that even if the man says that the house is a pre-marital property, then the house does not need to write his name, but he is not obligated to help Wu Hao repay the mortgage. Of course, there is also the money the man borrowed before marriage. These Zhang Qian There is even more no obligation to repay.
And Zhang Qian also owns a small apartment, and she has to repay the mortgage. Since the division is so clear, they should pay their own, and no one should be greedy for cheap.
Second, the woman does not become a housewife after marriage.
is very good to women after they get married because they will have children, so most of them will stay at home and not work, but Zhang Qian’s salary is very impressive, much more than Wu Hao’s, Zhang Qian feels that if two people get married, it is not certain that they will be able to go to bed. She would rather go to work after giving birth and give herself a guarantee. She will never be a housewife at home, and bet all her future on her husband.
Zhang Qian feels that if she doesn’t go to work after marriage, if two people get divorced, she won’t get anything. Then she will have to look at her husband’s face to live. This kind of life is impossible for Zhang Qian, a strong woman. As a beauty in the workplace, Zhang Qian is very good at planning for her future.
3. After marriage is not responsible for supporting the husband’s parents
According to the traditional concept, a woman must take care of the parents and take care of the children after marriage. The traditional idea is that the man is the master of the outside and the woman is in charge, but Zhang Qian has her own ideas. , She believes that Wu Hao said that men and women are equal, and he is unwilling to give gifts, so she should achieve true equality between men and women. That being the case, supporting the elderly and caring for the children shouldn't be Zhang Qian's work alone, and Wu Hao should do the same.
And Zhang Qian is dissatisfied with Wu Hao's parents' attitude. The man's family is so clearly divided now, and she can't be vague. This is true fairness and justice.
When Zhang Qian finished talking about these three conditions, Wu Hao said that he went home to discuss with his parents. Until now, there has been no follow-up. The two people who were expected to enter the marriage hall had parted ways because of their "interests."People sigh.
summary:
was originally a good event, but in the end it became a bargaining chip for two people. Both want to fight for their own advantages, but forget that the original intention of getting married was because of love. Although the pre-marriage contract is three chapters, it can be Avoid conflicts after marriage, but if it is really so clear, what is the difference between living with a partner?
marriage should be mutual understanding, but Zhang Qian and Wu Hao only care about their own interests and ignore the other's demands. What is the meaning of such a marriage? Friends who want to get married should calm down and think about a plan that can satisfy both parties, instead of starting from their own point of view. If the marriage is selfish at the beginning, and after marriage, there are only mutual calculations. Marriage is terrible just thinking about it, do you think it right?
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