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Modern society is developing faster and faster, and getting along with people is becoming more and more "fast food", so in recent years more and more The couple chose to divorce because they couldn't live on.
However, for some families with children, most parents think that it is best for children to follow themselves, so even if they leave the house, they have to get custody of their children.
But in fact, getting custody of a child will definitely make him live well? Bai Ran, a colleague of
, divorced two years ago. She thinks it is best for her child to follow her, so she chose to go out and win the custody of her child. When
first started to take care of the child alone, Bai Ran felt that it was no big deal, he could also give him the best life. But when faced with the child's tuition and living expenses, Bai Ran was confused.
originally thought that as long as the salary for work was saved, it would be enough to live a life, but the children always have to pay some book fees from time to time in school, plus some miscellaneous expenses, life is stretched, think It is even more difficult for children to maintain a good quality of life.
This also made Bai Ran think again about the correctness of his struggle for custody of his children.
In fact, for mothers with children, it is not a wise thing to fight for custody of their children under these circumstances.
(1) I don’t have many personal assets and cannot cope with the child’s expenses.
If I don’t have enough assets, it would be unwise to try to fight for custody of the child.
Even if the child gets the custody of the child, the child will suffer along with him and cannot provide him with a quality life and better education. In addition, mothers have to go to work to maintain their lives, so they will ignore the care of their children, which is very hard for them and themselves.
(2) When you live better with your father,
may be "a child without a mother is like a grass". The lyrics are too popular, so most people think that the best way for a child to live with his mother after a parent's divorce is.
In fact, for children, father's love and mother's love are as important as . Regardless of which party’s fault is due to the divorce, it does not affect the love of parents for their children.
So if the child can live a better life with his father after the divorce, then the mother "why not do it"? Fighting for the custody of children is also for the children to lead a good life and be cared for and loved by someone.
Moms should look far away and know how to let go in time. Don't just "be stupid" trying to keep your children by your side so that they can live with you.
In fact, when a husband and wife divorce, women should not "naively" think that money, such as foreign objects, is not necessary. In reality, money can play a practical role.
If mothers compete for custody of their children but do not have enough financial capacity to raise their children, they are likely to be taken back.
Therefore, mothers should obtain some property from the man after the divorce, and then continue to work or do some financial investment, and then bring their children back after achieving economic independence, so as to give them a better life.
In other words, only by ensuring financial independence can have the confidence and ability to regain custody of the child.
If mothers do not know whether they should fight for custody of their children when they divorce, they can consider the above points. Remember, the best way for a child is to let him have a better life.
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Who do you think is better for the child to follow after the divorce?
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