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Regarding feelings, in fact, more of them are managed by themselves.
Many times, it may be easy to fall in love, but it is difficult to stay together, because all kinds of problems and contradictions cannot be avoided if you want to live together for a long time, and this is the way to test each other's feelings most.
Good feelings are always the result of both parties’ hard work and dedication, understanding and mutual respect, mutual understanding and tolerance.
There has never been a good relationship for no reason, and there is no innate disagreement. It is more about getting along with each other.
Happy feelings are not only enough to love one person, but also to walk into the other's heart and win the other's heart. Therefore, most of the problems in feelings are due to these three points, so don't take it seriously.
01. Blindly picky, it’s not
who is looking for each other. In fact, what two people test together is the state of getting along with each other. The reason why two people can come together , More because of loving each other.
But loving this kind of thing is the most insecure. You might love it at first, but as time goes by, getting acquainted with each other and understanding each other, the original passion may be slowly consumed and become dull.
Feelings return to plainness. This should be a process that every relationship will go through.
And a smart person, he will know how to manage, understand the other party's psychology, will not be too strong, ask each other for everything, this will make the other party feel comfortable with each other.
People are mutual, how do you treat each other, then how will he respond to you.
When you encounter problems and disputes, you will know how to swear, and you will find the other party’s troubles and complain about the other party. This is the most irrational behavior in the relationship. This will not solve any problems, but will make the other party more and more annoying you.
No matter how much you hope to solve the problem, you can't put all the responsibilities on one person.
Especially the language damage is great, it is likely to make a person lose self-esteem, be suspicious of the relationship between you, and give up you disheartenedly.
You must know that good relationships are built on the basis of mutual accommodation and tolerance. Good words will make a person feel better and more receptive. Blindly looking for trouble is the fuse of unhappy feelings.
02. If you don’t know how to respect each other, everything must be strong.
I have to say that a person who does not know how to respect people can’t get a person. Love. No matter how beautiful the relationship is, it is based on mutual respect.
Especially for a man, he is a bit machismo, and he must know how to give the right person. You give him face outside, which is actually a way of winning his heart.
Feelings, if the other party can't feel your sincerity, your sincerity to him will naturally not be true to you.
makes a man lose face, in fact, it increases the degree of his hatred of you, and the final thing that may lose is the feelings between you.
No matter how much a man loves you, he can't stand your disrespect for him, the fact that everything requires.
A smart woman, she will know how to behave, knowing the weakness of a man, and will protect his dignity as much as possible, so that he has enough confidence in front of outsiders. And what happens in private is your own business.
If everyone knows each other's feelings, it will only accelerate the degeneration of your feelings.
After all, feelings depend on business. If you don't know how to maintain a man's self-esteem and respect his feelings, you will naturally not get the other person's sincerity.
Love is mutual, how you treat others, then he will treat you. In many cases, feelings are the result of your own creation. Whatever you decide, there will be consequences.
03. Too humble in feelings, and there is no principle of one's own
Feelings cannot reach the end, in fact, there are many reasons, not only for one person, but more The ones are each other's. After all, feelings are a matter for two people, and they need to adapt to each other.
If both parties cannot achieve a balance in life, it will be difficult to go on.
For two people to be able to go on, it is more necessary for them to be evenly matched and to maintain a balance for long.
If a person loves too much, if you dig your heart out, you will easily lose yourself. Finally, you will gradually lose your confidence in the relationship, and the relationship will be out of balance. Naturally, you will be very tired of loving. Just enjoy it alone, and it will not continue for a long time.
Any good feelings are both giving and cherishing each other.
One person understands the difficulty of the other person, and the other person understands your hard work, understands each other, feels the other's heart, and loves each other. This kind of relationship will last. Love that does not receive a response cannot feel happiness.
At any time, love someone not too humble, once a foregone conclusion is formed, it may be the beginning of pain, because the water overflows when the water is full, and the moon is lacking.
Any time you are too persistent in pursuing, you may end up hurting yourself, especially the most insecure things like feelings.
Summary:
A relationship requires two people to operate together. If the relationship is not smooth, it is more important to reflect on yourself, what role you played in the relationship, and whether you have achieved it. At least respect and dedication.
So, good feelings are always the result of mutual understanding. Most of the reasons why the relationship cannot reach the end are because of these points. I hope you will pay attention to it.
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