"If the parent-child relationship is not handled properly, it is a disaster for a family's life."
The parent-child relationship can be the best in the world, but it can also cause many problems.
As the saying goes, "Family and everything are prosperous", only family harmony can resist the storms of the world together.
The home base of family strugglers is a warm harbor. First-class elderly people must understand the art of "family harmony".
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Parents’ sincere dedication will touch the naughty child
Although the child is not sensible, he is very sensitive to who is really good to him .
Meng Yang married Mang Mao, and the two gave birth to 3 children, but Mang Mao's ex-wife still left them with 5 children. These 5 children thought that Meng Yang had robbed her father’s love and treated her Very disrespectful.
Meng Yang not only cares nothing, but also dotes on these 5 children, resolutely not to let their 3 children have better conditions than them. After
, one of the five children was ignorant and committed a capital crime, and the Meng Yang family immediately ran around to intercede for him. A neighbor persuaded her: "This child usually doesn't respect and love you, and now he has committed a capital crime. You should be careful to cause trouble to the upper body."
Meng Yang said, "Although they are not my birth, they are now my children. If you make a mistake, how can your mother bear the punishment for him alone?" Meng Yang's spirit was exhausted, and they were all skinny. King Wei Anli was finally moved by it and pardoned her child from the death penalty when he pardoned the world.
In the book "Let the children be happy and sincere", Yang Jie said: "Criticizing children can not avoid mistakes. Accepting mistakes and helping children correct them is the only appropriate choice."
agrees.
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A bowl of water is flat, which is the basis of brotherhood
Family with several children, if the parents can’t do justice, it will be serious To destroy the relationship between several children.
An old couple sold the house in Shenzhen before, and said they would give 1 million to the second brother and 500,000 to the elder brother, because the eldest brother has a job but the second brother does not. Moreover, the 500,000 has been kept by the old couple.
Later, when they saw that there was a good house in their hometown, the old couple hurriedly bought it for 500,000, but the eldest brother worked and lived outside. This house was useless for him, and he didn’t want to ask for it. Just fill in the name of the second brother's daughter.
Later, the second brother wanted to do business. The old couple saw that he had no money, so they gave him the 700,000 left over from selling the Shenzhen house.
The old couple only sees their second brother's poor life, so they prefer him, but the elder brother is very uneasy. Now he rents a house in Shenzhen to work alone, and only wants to go home every year during the New Year. A few days.
The eldest brother is actually quite tolerant, but the eccentricity of the parents towards the second brother since childhood has led to the alienation of a family.
Families with several children must pay attention. Children never want much, it's just fair. When the parents have a bowl of water leveled, they will find that the children themselves will have a good relationship.
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The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is in the hands of mother-in-law
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most important in a family after the son is an adult An important relationship.
When Sun Rui was in love with her husband, her mother-in-law came by car from other cities to invite her to dinner and persuaded her son to treat the girl well. After the marriage, if the couple quarreled, the mother-in-law always turned to Sun Rui.
Usually the parents-in-law live in their hometown, and Sun Rui and her husband live in the city where they work. The mother-in-law never takes the initiative to disturb them. Just before Sun Rui gave birth, her mother-in-law asked her if she needed someone to help.
Until I have confirmed with my son that Sun Rui wants her to help, The mother-in-law took care of Sun Rui's daily life with a blanket. After the grandson grew up slowly and Sun Rui was fully cultivated, the mother-in-law endured her reluctance, and went back to her hometown on the pretext that her father-in-law also needed her to take care of her.
In getting along with her mother-in-law, Sun Rui never felt offended and never had any discomfort.
In a family, the best relationship is that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law stand aside, and let the son stand alone.
Because this man has a natural blood relationship with his mother and an emotional and legal relationship with his daughter-in-law, it is the most stable link in the relationship, and the cost of becoming a "bag" is the smallest.
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Summary
Zeng Shiqiang said: "To get to know a person, first go to see his parents and make sure that you can see him well. "
Parents play an extremely important role in a child's life and will affect all aspects of their children's life. Therefore, having the wisdom to maintain family harmony is the top quality of being a parent.
May all parents be able to grasp the parent-child relationship, brother relationship, mother-in-law relationship, these three most important relationships!
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