Don't be too kind to a woman, if you really want to keep her

Being a human being, you can’t just say yes, and occasionally learn to say no.

A friend once gave me a sentence: "People cannot be too round or too square, they must have their own personality." Later I gradually understood that personality is not temper, but self and principle And dignity.

In fact, this sentence applies not only to interpersonal relationships, but also to intimate relationships.

You should always understand that maintaining any relationship does not depend on your sincerity. Because is not if you love someone desperately, that person will love you desperately, and the best way to love a person is to give the other person a high-quality lover. You are valuable and your dedication will be valued.

Attraction, that is, your own charm and value, is the key to letting people die to you.

Some people say that our generation lives so much that they don’t get anything. I think, our generation, we should not read too clearly, we should see very clearly, but we should be very confused. Just like before, I feel that people are generous in the face of emotions, and do not force or force them.

But nowadays, especially boys, when they are pursuing the girls they like, they put their attitude very low and low, all kinds of flattering and catering, the degree of their goodness has exceeded the normal degree, it is straightforward. "Kneel and lick."

I sincerely advise you: Don't be too kind to a woman, if you really want to keep her!

Let’s summarize, why can’t it be too good for a person? If it’s too good for a woman, what consequences will it cause? What are the problems?

1. She will get used to it gradually.

is too good for a person, she will gradually get used to it, when she gets used to you being so good to her, she will forget to be moved, and then take everything you do as it should, only Blindly ask, desire dissatisfaction.

even relied on your kindness to become unscrupulous and do nothing, never caring about your feelings.

Unless you can always treat her so well, or even if you can always treat her so well, she will not be content, unless you can treat her better and better.

At that time, you are really supporting the relationship by yourself.

Habits are more terrible than not loving, until you hollow out and you start to doubt yourself, doubt the world, doubt life, it is easy to go to extremes.

2, but look down on you.

is too good for a person, that person will look down on you, because you have lost your dignity and bottom line.

or that you are good to her, not based on your own attractiveness. In fact, after many years, if you look back at yourself at that time, you will look down on yourself at that time.

Feelings are also very realistic. Only when you have the value of being respected can you be respected by others.

How you treat her well is determined by the emotional state of your heart toward her, but if you want her to be good to you, it must also be determined by the emotional state of her heart toward you. It may be that you only care about being nice to her and forgot to improve yourself and reflect your personality, so that you live yourself as a dispensable accessory.

Thinking in another position, if someone always greets you, you will also enjoy it, but you will not take him seriously.

3, make yourself very embarrassed.

If you want to be good to a person, you must be prepared to be so good to her.

Otherwise, as long as you have a bad one, if you fail to do a little bit, she will forget all your previous good ones. In fact, how can you do everything and everything can meet her standards.

The scary thing is not that she is used to it, but you tooWill gradually get used to it.

You have to meet her every day, and everything should be centered on her. When you are used to this way of getting along, you will really lose yourself, and in this paragraph In your relationship, you will become more and more humble.

There is no way, as long as the balance of emotions is tilted, the tilt will only become more and more serious. In the end, she will be embarrassed and will accept her cold words with a smile.

Therefore, she will become more and more selfish, and she doesn't know how to share and respond.

4, the temper is getting bigger and bigger.

will cause her to always look high afterwards, and will not consider your feelings or care about your feelings.

has accepted this mode of getting along from the bottom of my heart and accepted your low profile, but if you want to put your posture a little higher, it will cause a quarrel between the two people and will not change her in any way.

Never feel that I have a problem, even if there is a problem, it must be your problem.

arrogant, willful, irrational, strong, these are what she will look like later , because a little thing will yell at you, and there will be nothing to discuss with you, and never I can't listen to your suggestions.

Always impose your own will on you, binding and restraining your thoughts, and at the same time, the tolerance for you is getting lower and lower. This is the beginning of a vicious circle.

5, less and less self-respect.

Even if you know it is wrong, you dare to do it, just to experience the next excitement, because she knows that you will forgive her in the end.

So being too good for a person sometimes proves one's weakness.

makes her feel that she has completely eaten you, no matter what she is, only she takes the initiative to leave you, and there is no possibility of you to leave her, that is, relying on this, will she be so presumptuous and casual, Because she has no scruples!

Don’t blame others, you can only blame yourself.

Who will let you always promise everything, give everything you want, accept any harm, forgive any mistakes, and gradually make yourself lose value and not be taken seriously.

If you love her without a bottom line, she will hurt you without a bottom line. Change as much as you want.

The above is the summary of the five points, which can lead to the possibility of being too good for women.

More and more find that two people are very knowledgeable to get along with each other. If you want to go for a long time, it lies in that you can keep 30% mysterious and that you can continuously enrich yourself.

Of course, keeping 30% of mystery is not about playing tricks and conspiracy, but keeping your own strength, ability and charm that others don't know, so that you can always show you who others did not expect. As for constantly enriching yourself, it is for you to keep 30% of mystery and to build your own value.

The more you like someone, the more you can’t treat her too well, it will only make her leave you faster.

Zhang Ailing said:

"A man’s compassion for a woman may be closer to love. A woman will never fall in love with a man who she thinks is pitiful. A woman’s love for a man must always be a little bit. Worship."

The long and harmonious relationship really depends on a woman’s worship of a man. You love her and want to be nice to her, but only when she loves you can you be nice to you. In essence, it is never good to keep her, but you are worthy of love.

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