01 My name is Chen Xinfeng, I am 34 years old, not yet married, and I am an older single man. And the reason why I never got married was because I had no money. We met two people, both of whom came to the point of discussing marriage, but in the end they broke up because they cou

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My name is Chen Xinfeng, I am 34 years old, not yet married, and I am an older single man.

And the reason why I have never gotten married is because I have no money. We met two people, both of whom came to the point of discussing marriage, but in the end they broke up because they couldn't agree on the bride price.

In the past two years, when my relatives asked me to go on a blind date, I refused with various reasons. I wanted to save more money and go on a blind date after saving enough money, so that I would be more confident.

I also have a biological sister who is 4 years younger than me. When I was 13 years old, my father divorced my mother, and my sister and I were raised by my mother alone.

My mother is uneducated. It is really difficult to raise a small amount of money by herself. Therefore, I don’t want to rely on my mother to get married. If getting married will consume all my mother’s savings, then I would rather not get married.

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Last month, my sister got married to her boyfriend of three years. To be honest, I am really happy for my sister to see her find her own happiness.

However, one week before my sister got married, something happened, which made me both moved and sad at the same time.

One week before my sister got married, the groom’s family came to to send her off. According to our custom here, on the day of the wedding, the man must bring the bride price and prepare six pounds of pig's trotters and six pounds of hind leg meat.

At noon that day, we set up a table in the hotel and treated the man’s family to a meal.

After eating, my sister, my sister, and my mother went home. As soon as I entered the house, my sister asked me to drive and take her to deposit the 160,000 yuan gift.

I didn’t think much about it at the time, so I took her to save money. After depositing the money, we returned home. As soon as I got home, my sister handed me her card with 160,000 in it in front of my mother.

I was shocked and quickly asked my sister what did this mean?

Then, my sister and my mother both laughed.

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My sister said that according to my mother’s wishes, the 160,000 yuan should be given to me as a gift to the woman when I get married in the future.

My sister said: "Brother, now that you have money, you can boldly go on a blind date. Don't worry, help me find a sister-in-law to take home."

When I heard this, to be honest, I almost shed tears. Seeing me frozen in place, my mother immediately took the card from my sister's hand and put it in my pocket.

Then, my mother went back to the house to rest, leaving me and my sister in the living room.

I kept that card in my pocket. I couldn’t calm down for a long time and my brows were furrowed. My sister probably saw my worry and said with a smile: "Brother, don't worry, I have already told Ah Hua (brother-in-law's name) and he agreed to this." After saying this, my sister also went back to the room.

I was left sitting alone in the living room, dumbfounded. I sat in the living room all afternoon, thinking about a lot of things, and finally decided that I couldn't take the money.

To be honest, although I really want this money, with this money, I can go on blind dates freely, and I will not be without confidence when I meet a girl I like.

However, I can't be so selfish. This money is for my sister and brother-in-law. If I take it, what should I do if my sister and brother-in-law quarrel in the future and the brother-in-law takes this issue against my sister?

For my sister’s happiness, I can’t do this!

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So, I went to tell my sister that I wanted to return the money to her, but she didn’t want it. After my mother saw it, she kept telling me to take it.

In the end, I really had no choice, so I called my brother-in-law and asked him to come out for a meeting.

After we met and chatted for a few words, I gave the card my sister gave me to my brother-in-law, and told him that this money is for you and your wife. I can’t take it. If you take it, you will be blamed for the rest of your life.

In addition, I also wrapped a red envelope of 2,000 yuan for my brother-in-law and asked him to keep it. Because of my sister's marriage, as an older brother, I didn't help or contribute a penny, and I felt very guilty.

Then, the brother-in-law quickly called his sister, and soon her sister came.

I told her: "Brother has no ability, and I don't have much money to give you, and I can't even take your money. Just keep the 160,000 for yourselves and live a down-to-earth life. I can handle my own affairs!"

After my sister heard what I said, tears streamed down her face.

I just hope that my sister can live a happy life. I don’t want to cause any gap between her and my brother-in-law because of my affairs.

Bless my sister and hope she has a good life.

@I said:

Hello Chen Xinfeng, after listening to your story, I was really moved by you. You and your sister are both thinking about each other, which is really rare.

I think it’s right if you don’t take the money. It’s better not to take it. If you take it, it might harm your sister in the future.

Men, rely on yourself, work hard to make money, and save money steadily. I believe you will be able to find a satisfactory person and live the rest of your life together.

bless you.