"Chunmei, let's break up! I've been thinking a lot during this time. As long as I think of your father's words, I feel like I've lost my expectations for life. I hope you can understand me!" Wei Yong said to his girlfriend Chunmei.
"I don't blame you. I have no way to choose my family. I respect your choice!" Chunmei said to her boyfriend while choking.
Chunmei was beautiful and was pursued by many boys when she was in college. However, those boys backed off as soon as they heard about Chunmei's family situation. Therefore, Chunmei never fell in love during the entire college. She often wondered if she was not worthy of being loved.
Chunmei's family is very poor. Her parents gave birth to three children. Fortunately, the third child gave birth to her younger brother. Otherwise, her parents would definitely continue to have more children in order to have sons.
She has good grades, but her family thinks that girls don't need to read so many books, so they won't let her go to school after junior high school. But she did very well in the high school entrance examination. The teacher didn't want such a good prospect to be ruined like this, so he helped her apply for high school subsidies and scholarships for poor students, so that she had the opportunity to enter college. When
got the college notice, her family said they had no money to support her. She said she could get a loan for the tuition fees and work to earn living expenses, so her parents agreed to let her study.
Her younger sister was not so lucky. Her academic performance was not as good as hers. After finishing junior high school, she worked at home with her parents and took care of her younger brother. When she was only 18, she went out to work with people from the same village. Most of the money she earned was given to her parents to support the family.
After graduating, Chunmei found a pretty good job. Because she had to repay the school loan, her life was very difficult in the first year. She had to rent a house and pay back the loan to live. Her parents were very dissatisfied with her. They thought that she went to college but did not repay the family and did not contribute money to the family.
Things got much better in the second year. Every month she saved some money by frugally, and she transferred all the money to her parents. Then her parents stopped scolding her and often praised her for her achievements.
After she started working, there were naturally boys pursuing her. She would tell them clearly about her family situation every time. Those boys were scared away as soon as she heard about it. Only Wei Yong said he didn't mind. Her family was poor and he didn't care. He said he would work hard to let Chunmei live a good life.
Chunmei was moved by Wei Yong and agreed to his pursuit, and their relationship also developed by leaps and bounds.
After talking for more than a year, Wei Yong said that he wanted to meet Chunmei's parents and said that when both parties met their parents, they could discuss marriage.
When he arrived at Chunmei's house, Wei Yong found that Chunmei was really not exaggerating at all. Her family was indeed very poor, and the old house looked very old and dilapidated. He felt sorry for Chunmei at that time. After growing up in such an environment, to be so good now must have put in extra efforts.
Wei Yong chatted with Chunmei's father at the dinner table and asked casually why the family house was not repaired. Some places were broken and it was probably unsafe.
Chunmei's father said that this house will indeed need to be repaired later. When Chunmei's brother gets married later, he will ask Chunmei's sisters to buy him an apartment in the county, and then pay for the renovation of the old house. Their hard work in raising them will not be in vain. Daughters should share their parents' worries and help their brothers.
Wei Yong's expression changed when he heard this, and he quickly adjusted his expression. However, he originally planned to stay for two more days, but Wei Yong made excuses and left Chunmei's house the next day. After
came back, Wei Yong began to distance himself from Chunmei and found various reasons to avoid meeting her. After more than a month, Wei Yong still broke up with Chunmei.
Wei Yong said that Chunmei's family was poor and he didn't mind, and it didn't matter if she didn't have a dowry, but he really couldn't accept her father's attitude of taking care of his younger brother as a matter of course. From now on, Chunmei's family would be completely their burden. He didn't want to marry a wife who also had to support his wife and the whole family. There was no hope in such a life. He didn't want to live that kind of life, and he hoped Chunmei could understand him.
Chunmei didn't expect that Wei Yong would give up their relationship just because of a word from her parents. She didn't blame her boyfriend, and she couldn't blame her parents. She couldn't choose her family background. She just felt that she might not deserve to be loved. The reality was so cruel that no one could accept her family.
Wei Yong was worried that if he married Chunmei, Chunmei's family would drag them down, so he gave up his relationship with Chunmei. It is difficult to judge right or wrong in this matter, and it is understandable from his standpoint.
Originally, he thought that his girlfriend's family might be poor, because he could not get back the bride price, and his wife did not have a dowry. However, he did not expect that the girl's parents planned that their daughter would have to bear the responsibility of her brother's life in the future. If the family was in trouble, her daughter would also have to take care of the family. This made Wei Yong want to retreat.
Chunmei's parents favor sons over daughters. Whether Chunmei's sisters can live a peaceful life depends entirely on whether her brother has a good life. If his brother is good, they can also live peacefully. If his brother does not have a good life, they will also have countless troubles. In this case, there are a few men who have no worries.
Do you think Wei Yong’s choice is right?
What can Chunmei do to reap her happiness?
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