If you want to tame a beautiful wild horse, you must also tolerate the green prairie. Some people are destined to be free, and children, family, and a sense of responsibility cannot restrain them.
If you fall in love with someone who doesn't like to go home, the loved one will feel confident, but the loved one will have to live in the torment of being betrayed at any time every day.
Therefore, many people cannot think about it and choose to take the road of being tortured and torturing others, and their lives have never been brighter. As everyone knows, turning away at this time and stopping the emotional loss in time is the best choice for themselves.
But we are all mortals, how can we tolerate the person who entered the marriage hall with us and then turned around and betrayed us and our marriage?
Lao Yu, a man in his forties from Hangzhou, Zhejiang Province, although not handsome, married a wife who loves dressing up and looking beautiful - Zhu Hong. Lao Yu and Zhu Hong have a son. Lao Yu usually loves his wife and son very much and can be regarded as a good man.
Although he doesn't usually make much money, Lao Yu is very satisfied with his life. He felt that Zhu Hong was so beautiful and that she was willing to follow him, an honest man, which was God's favor to him.
After the two got married, Lao Yu worked hard and finally paid the down payment for the new house, owning the first house for a small family. Just when Lao Yu was immersed in the fantasy of a better future, Zhu Hong, who didn't like a too ordinary life, had an opinion. She felt that Lao Yu controlled her too much.
Lao Yu is introverted and likes to stay at home after get off work and keep company with his wife and son; but Zhu Hong is just the opposite. She likes to hang out with friends the most. Today she has dinner with a group of friends of the opposite sex, and tomorrow she sings with colleagues of the opposite sex.
The differences in personality have caused conflicts between husband and wife. Lao Yu hoped that his wife could keep herself clean and not go out with male friends or colleagues every day. It would bring bad reputation to her if word spread.
But Zhu Hong didn’t take it seriously. She said that the group of people who went out to play were all with families. How could Lao Yu think of them so dirty? It was clearly Lao Yu himself who was petty.
Zhu Hong went his own way, which made Lao Yu very insecure. Over time, Lao Yu, who had been thinking wildly, lost basic trust in his wife. He began to look through Zhu Hong's mobile phone, check her chat history with others, and even hit Zhu Hong when the two argued.
Lao Yu’s various behaviors made Zhu Hong unbearable. In order to avoid the increasingly irritable Lao Yu, Zhu Hong moved out of her home and asked for a divorce from Lao Yu.
But how could Lao Yu, who loved his wife deeply, just let Zhu Hong leave like this.
Seeing that Zhu Hong had been avoiding him, Lao Yu invited an emotional mediator, hoping that the mediator would come forward and let Zhu Hong follow him home.
Because the mediator was present, Zhu Hong, who had been reluctant to knock on the door, finally opened the door. As soon as the couple met, they started blaming each other.
Zhu Hong said that Lao Yu was crazy and banged on the door angrily in the middle of the night. How could she dare to open the door. The emotional Lao Yu accused his wife of telling lies and not giving him a chance.
The mediator saw that Lao Yu really had difficulty controlling his emotions, and kindly advised Lao Yu to calm down. But Lao Yu said that the reason why he was like this was because he was harmed by Zhu Hong.
Lao Yu said, as a man, who can bear the stimulation of personally catching his wife in the same bed with another man?
Lao Yu here said that if he lied, he would jump off the building directly. Zhu Hong over there was obviously much calmer. She asked: " Since you caught it, why don't you get a divorce? You are a man, how can you bear it? Even if you saw it, both of us were wearing clothes! !"
Zhu Hong admitted that there was indeed a male colleague in her room at 10:30 in the evening, but she and the male colleague were innocent. The male colleague had a crush on her, but they were innocent. When the male colleague heard the news of Lao Yu's return, he was frightened and hid under the bed.
This is what Lao Yu said. Zhu Hong admitted that what she did was indeed wrong, and she also apologized to Lao Yu, but Lao Yu clung to this matter and was always suspicious.
Lao Yu immediately became excited when he saw that Zhu Hong was not afraid of being scalded by boiling water. He took out his cell phone and showed the mediator the "evidence" that Zhu Hong had cheated again.
Lao Yu's so-called "evidence" are all photos of Zhu Hong and her male colleague's battery car parked together. Obviously, it is unconvincing to use these photos to say that Zhu Hong cheated on her.
The mediator said to Zhu Hong sincerely: "It's up to you whether you want to continue living with Lao Yu. I'm asking you, have you ever felt sorry for him?"
Zhu Hong denied it, saying that the other party also had a family, and that everything was made up out of thin air by Lao Yu.
Seeing that the mediator was not on her side, Lao Yu was so excited that she became incoherent. Zhu Hong said that as long as she was not at home, Lao Yu would say that she was living with another man, which made it impossible for her to live a normal life.
Under Lao Yu’s repeated insistence, the mediator could only call Zhu Hong’s male colleague Lao Zheng.
Lao Zheng said that he and his wife have a very good relationship. He went out to drink with Zhu Hong and other colleagues before, and his wife also knew about it. Unexpectedly, Lao Yu actually fought with him because of this matter.
When Lao Yu said that there was something fishy about Lao Zheng's battery car and Zhu Hong's battery car being close together, Lao Zheng laughed angrily: "Then if your car is close to another woman's car, you will have a relationship?"
When Lao Yu saw that Lao Zheng still had the leisure to tease him, he suddenly became furious and started to curse. Lao Zheng insisted that he and Zhu Hong were just ordinary colleagues, but Lao Yu still refused to believe it and called Zhu Hong a scumbag. The mediator
advised Lao Yu to learn to control his emotions, otherwise he would be impulsive and easily caught by others.
Seeing that the couple could not reach a consensus, the mediator hoped that both Zhu Hong and Lao Yu could master the "degree": Zhu Hong should keep a distance from the opposite sex and not let people gossip; Lao Yu should also have a degree of tolerance when he loves his wife and not turn love into possessiveness .
Listening to the mediator asking his wife to keep distance from the opposite sex, Lao Yu couldn't help but feel filled with emotion. In order to win back his wife's heart, he has cried and made trouble over the years, turning a good man into the explosive and excitable mad dog he is now.
But Zhu Hong said that Lao Yu was too suspicious. As long as she was not at home, Lao Yu either wanted to monitor her every move, or that she was hooking up with other men.
Zhu Hong said that Lao Yu was very controlling and suspicious. When the two of them met, they would quarrel and could not communicate normally at all.
Recently, she moved out, and Lao Yu tried to force her back by angering his son. Upon hearing this, the mediator
quickly asked Lao Yu whether he had spanked the child, and advised Lao Yu not to let matters between husband and wife involve the child.
Lao Yu admitted that he did take his anger out on his son, but he definitely did not know how to beat his son.
Zhu Hong also said that Lao Yu was indeed very good to her son, but this time she was determined to get a divorce. She had endured Lao Yu's domestic violence against her before, but she really couldn't stand being suspected all day long.
Zhu Hong said that her life was miserable, and Lao Yu also said that he had not had a good night's sleep in three months.
Usually after get off work, he goes to deliver food. He does all this for his family and children.
Now he just hopes that Zhu Hong can calm down and return to the family for the sake of his children, but Zhu Hong is determined not to live with Lao Yu anymore.
Seeing that his wife was so determined, Lao Yu said that the divorce was okay, but Zhu Hong had to compensate for his mental losses.
But Zhu Hong said that she would never pay Lao Yu any mental damages, because Lao Yu’s harassment also made her life difficult.
The mediator had no choice but to persuade Lao Yu earnestly: "Stop talking about it for the sake of the children. If you do this, the children will not live well. Even if you are reluctant to let go, what is the point of pursuing love with such low self-esteem?"
These heartfelt words made Lao Yu ponder for a long time, and finally he decided to let go.
Lao Yu and Zhu Hong reached a consensus on divorce, and under the witness of the mediator, they discussed other matters after marriage.
Zhu Hong said that no matter who the child follows, the house at home is now written in the child's name.
Before, Lao Yu was paying the mortgage. After the two divorced, the mortgage was only one month per person. The child is already in elementary school, and the daily expenses are not much. The child's living expenses are only 800 a month.
Lao Yu hopes that the child's custody rights can be given to him, but the mediator said that it depends on the child himself.
Seeing that the relationship with Zhu Hong was irreversible, Lao Yu couldn't help but shed tears again and cried in front of Zhu Hong and the mediator.
The mediator advised: " Maybe you will meet someone with a similar personality to you in the future. Looking back, you will feel that what you are doing now is too boring. Your emotions should be stable and live your own new life. Put down the burden in your heart, and you will be much happier after letting it go. "
After hearing this, Lao Yu nodded repeatedly, and at the same time the mediator also advised Zhu Hong: "You must have a certain degree of friendship when making friends. You must not let others make irresponsible remarks. You must be pure and honest."
In this way, Lao Yu and Zhu Hong, the resentful couple, finally peacefully forgot about each other in the world and lived their own new lives.
Zhu Hong is beautiful and has an overly cheerful personality. In her opinion, it is very normal for her to eat and sing together with many male colleagues. But her husband's obstruction prevented her from releasing her natural instincts, which made her very painful.
Lao Yu loves Zhu Hong very much. At the same time, Zhu Hong's beauty also makes him very insecure. The lack of security and trust made his possessiveness towards Zhu Hong reach its peak.
In addition, he had caught a male colleague under Zhu Hong's bed before, which made him even more certain that Zhu Hong was sorry for him and the family.
Since then, he has lived in a hell of doubt and self-doubt.
Lao Yu is a good man. For the sake of his family and children, he works multiple jobs, just to make more money and let his family live a good life. But because his wife was too beautiful, he had no confidence that he could stop her from going out to play, so this feeling of powerlessness turned into low self-esteem and anger. Let him always pay attention to what his wife is doing.
In the end, their marriage came to an end, which was unfortunate but also a relief.
For Lao Yu, when he can't survive, letting go is the best choice.
Lao Yu's so-called "evidence" are all photos of Zhu Hong and her male colleague's battery car parked together. Obviously, it is unconvincing to use these photos to say that Zhu Hong cheated on her.
The mediator said to Zhu Hong sincerely: "It's up to you whether you want to continue living with Lao Yu. I'm asking you, have you ever felt sorry for him?"
Zhu Hong denied it, saying that the other party also had a family, and that everything was made up out of thin air by Lao Yu.
Seeing that the mediator was not on her side, Lao Yu was so excited that she became incoherent. Zhu Hong said that as long as she was not at home, Lao Yu would say that she was living with another man, which made it impossible for her to live a normal life.
Under Lao Yu’s repeated insistence, the mediator could only call Zhu Hong’s male colleague Lao Zheng.
Lao Zheng said that he and his wife have a very good relationship. He went out to drink with Zhu Hong and other colleagues before, and his wife also knew about it. Unexpectedly, Lao Yu actually fought with him because of this matter.
When Lao Yu said that there was something fishy about Lao Zheng's battery car and Zhu Hong's battery car being close together, Lao Zheng laughed angrily: "Then if your car is close to another woman's car, you will have a relationship?"
When Lao Yu saw that Lao Zheng still had the leisure to tease him, he suddenly became furious and started to curse. Lao Zheng insisted that he and Zhu Hong were just ordinary colleagues, but Lao Yu still refused to believe it and called Zhu Hong a scumbag. The mediator
advised Lao Yu to learn to control his emotions, otherwise he would be impulsive and easily caught by others.
Seeing that the couple could not reach a consensus, the mediator hoped that both Zhu Hong and Lao Yu could master the "degree": Zhu Hong should keep a distance from the opposite sex and not let people gossip; Lao Yu should also have a degree of tolerance when he loves his wife and not turn love into possessiveness .
Listening to the mediator asking his wife to keep distance from the opposite sex, Lao Yu couldn't help but feel filled with emotion. In order to win back his wife's heart, he has cried and made trouble over the years, turning a good man into the explosive and excitable mad dog he is now.
But Zhu Hong said that Lao Yu was too suspicious. As long as she was not at home, Lao Yu either wanted to monitor her every move, or that she was hooking up with other men.
Zhu Hong said that Lao Yu was very controlling and suspicious. When the two of them met, they would quarrel and could not communicate normally at all.
Recently, she moved out, and Lao Yu tried to force her back by angering his son. Upon hearing this, the mediator
quickly asked Lao Yu whether he had spanked the child, and advised Lao Yu not to let matters between husband and wife involve the child.
Lao Yu admitted that he did take his anger out on his son, but he definitely did not know how to beat his son.
Zhu Hong also said that Lao Yu was indeed very good to her son, but this time she was determined to get a divorce. She had endured Lao Yu's domestic violence against her before, but she really couldn't stand being suspected all day long.
Zhu Hong said that her life was miserable, and Lao Yu also said that he had not had a good night's sleep in three months.
Usually after get off work, he goes to deliver food. He does all this for his family and children.
Now he just hopes that Zhu Hong can calm down and return to the family for the sake of his children, but Zhu Hong is determined not to live with Lao Yu anymore.
Seeing that his wife was so determined, Lao Yu said that the divorce was okay, but Zhu Hong had to compensate for his mental losses.
But Zhu Hong said that she would never pay Lao Yu any mental damages, because Lao Yu’s harassment also made her life difficult.
The mediator had no choice but to persuade Lao Yu earnestly: "Stop talking about it for the sake of the children. If you do this, the children will not live well. Even if you are reluctant to let go, what is the point of pursuing love with such low self-esteem?"
These heartfelt words made Lao Yu ponder for a long time, and finally he decided to let go.
Lao Yu and Zhu Hong reached a consensus on divorce, and under the witness of the mediator, they discussed other matters after marriage.
Zhu Hong said that no matter who the child follows, the house at home is now written in the child's name.
Before, Lao Yu was paying the mortgage. After the two divorced, the mortgage was only one month per person. The child is already in elementary school, and the daily expenses are not much. The child's living expenses are only 800 a month.
Lao Yu hopes that the child's custody rights can be given to him, but the mediator said that it depends on the child himself.
Seeing that the relationship with Zhu Hong was irreversible, Lao Yu couldn't help but shed tears again and cried in front of Zhu Hong and the mediator.
The mediator advised: " Maybe you will meet someone with a similar personality to you in the future. Looking back, you will feel that what you are doing now is too boring. Your emotions should be stable and live your own new life. Put down the burden in your heart, and you will be much happier after letting it go. "
After hearing this, Lao Yu nodded repeatedly, and at the same time the mediator also advised Zhu Hong: "You must have a certain degree of friendship when making friends. You must not let others make irresponsible remarks. You must be pure and honest."
In this way, Lao Yu and Zhu Hong, the resentful couple, finally peacefully forgot about each other in the world and lived their own new lives.
Zhu Hong is beautiful and has an overly cheerful personality. In her opinion, it is very normal for her to eat and sing together with many male colleagues. But her husband's obstruction prevented her from releasing her natural instincts, which made her very painful.
Lao Yu loves Zhu Hong very much. At the same time, Zhu Hong's beauty also makes him very insecure. The lack of security and trust made his possessiveness towards Zhu Hong reach its peak.
In addition, he had caught a male colleague under Zhu Hong's bed before, which made him even more certain that Zhu Hong was sorry for him and the family.
Since then, he has lived in a hell of doubt and self-doubt.
Lao Yu is a good man. For the sake of his family and children, he works multiple jobs, just to make more money and let his family live a good life. But because his wife was too beautiful, he had no confidence that he could stop her from going out to play, so this feeling of powerlessness turned into low self-esteem and anger. Let him always pay attention to what his wife is doing.
In the end, their marriage came to an end, which was unfortunate but also a relief.
For Lao Yu, when he can't survive, letting go is the best choice.
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