Do you know?
For someone who doesn't love you, no matter what efforts you make and what you pay, it is meaningless.
If you always pester, always force, and always please, it will only make them hate you more.
Your meticulousness looks ridiculous in the eyes of the other person;
Your efforts are worthless in the eyes of the other person;
Your initiative looks like an intrusion to him.
Falling in love with someone who doesn’t love you is the beginning of tragedy.
is like a "moth to the flame" story.
Someone asked the moth:
"Why did you rush towards the fire?"
The moth said: "I do"
"Don't you know that fighting the fire will cost you your life?"
The moth said: "Then I am willing too."
Even if it knew that there would be no good results, even if it knew that trying harder would bring great losses to itself, the moth would not hesitate.
In fact, for those who are full of obsession in their relationship, they are like moths.
knew that there was a dead end ahead, but still rushed in without hesitation.
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Why do you still have to force yourself when the other person doesn’t love you?
1. The more you pay, the less willing you will be.
There is a concept in psychology called "investment in sunk costs."
means: the more a person puts into something, the less likely he is to give up easily.
is like a playing game.
He invested a lot of money in the game. Even though he couldn't pass the level every time, he still didn't give up.
failed again and again and started over again.
In the end, he was no longer serious about the game, but unwilling to give up the money he invested easily.
This is especially true in intimate relationships.
The one who loves deeply and pays more often has deeper obsessions.
Whether you are in love but cannot get it, or the person you love deeply breaks up with you, it will make you fall into a state of unwillingness.
What you are thinking is:
"I have paid so much for him, why is there still no good result? No, I have to persist a little longer, maybe Success."
The more you pay, the more reluctant you are to give up;
The more you invest, the more you look forward to a better return.
These are not only human obsessions, but also human nature.
2. If the other person does not love you, it will arouse the "desire to win" in your heart.
Especially boys, it is easier to arouse the desire to win and conquer in your heart.
Men have a strong desire to conquer and challenge.
The more difficult, challenging, and rejecting it is, the more fascinated he will be.
They regard pursuing the person they like as a challenging task and will not give up until they reach their goal.
For girls, they tend to retain the last bit of reason.
Try your best. If a boy doesn't like her, the girl will give up the pursuit; although she is reluctant to give up, she can still accept the reality.
People will become like this in relationships:
“What you don’t have is always in turmoil, but those who are favored don’t know how to cherish them.”
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The person who reluctantly doesn’t love you is the beginning of the tragedy
When you fall in love with someone who doesn’t love you, what is the best way?
Don’t please, don’t force, don’t force, just turn around and leave coolly. , return to your normal life trajectory.
The more reluctant you are, the more disgusted the other party will be with you, for the following reasons.
1. The more reluctant you are, the easier it is to cause pressure to the other party.
There is a question on Zhihu: What does it feel like to be pursued by someone you don’t like?
A netizen replied: “It’s like a lump in the throat, like a awn on the back. "
This is indeed the case.
Maybe you didn't hate this suitor at the beginning. You rejected him, hoping that he would give up and stop pestering you.
But then the other party not only did not stop pursuing, but changed his mind. This has seriously affected your normal life rhythm.
At this time, your impression of him quickly deteriorates, and you even dislike him more and more.
Seeing his news, hearing his words, and getting along with him will make you feel uncomfortable inside and cause you a lot of pressure.
2. For people who don’t like you, even if you give everything, it will be in vain.
In this life, there are too many things that cannot be forced.
things in the past, lost time , the people you missed, the feelings you can’t get, these are things you can’t force.
When facing someone who doesn’t love you, no matter what you do or how much you give, it will all be in vain in the end.
You will fall deeper and deeper into it, and in the end your feelings for him are no longer love, but obsession and unwillingness.
In order to restore your broken dignity, your subconscious mind wants you to continue pursuing it.
In fact, even if you chase the other person, you will find that your feelings for him are no longer love.
obsession is satisfied Finally, people's hearts lose support, and their beliefs and emotions will collapse.
Never try to please or force someone who doesn’t love you.
You have to understand that a good relationship must go hand in hand, pay for each other, and have equal status. of.
One party looks up to the other, and such a relationship is unequal;
One party pays while the other party enjoys, and such a relationship cannot last long.
No matter what, don't wrong yourself and please others.
The only person you should please is yourself.
Today’s topic:
If the other person doesn’t love you, will you still force yourself?
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