I really didn’t expect that in 2023, there would still be people commenting on the matter of living together before marriage like this! The thing is like this, I have a cousin who is a relatively well-behaved and innocent girl. She is the daughter of my father's younger brother.

I really didn’t expect that in 2023, there would still be people commenting on the matter of living together before marriage like this!

The thing is like this, I have a cousin who is a relatively well-behaved and innocent girl. She is the daughter of my father's younger brother. Since we are the only two girls in my grandma's family, I have had a good relationship with this sister since we were young. We have grown up together.

I went to visit my grandma a few days ago, and the family inevitably had to talk about some issues between the parents, which also brought me to my sister’s current relationship status: My sister recently found a boyfriend, who treats her very well, is 8 years older than her, and they work for the same company.

After being together for two or three months, my sister's lease ended and she needed to find a new house. The two were in a relationship, so they moved in with their partner.

I have always known about this, but I have never communicated with my grandma. Grandma and the others thought I didn’t know about it, so they started chatting with me.

My aunt said that my sister was too proactive and it was inappropriate for her to live with her partner at such a young age. However, she did not comment too much. However, my grandma scolded my sister for being "shameless" and felt that living together before marriage was a sign of lowering one's worth and was something only "cheap people" do! He even told his sister not to go home because she felt so embarrassed!

My sister broke down and cried when she heard this. She obviously did nothing wrong, but she felt that her family did not understand her, so she had a big fight with her family! My sister asked me if she was really wrong?

Let me tell you about my sister. She is 27 years old this year. From junior high school to now, this is her fourth boyfriend. The relationship between the two is quite stable now, and they want to develop it well.

I think grandma’s words are too strong and her thinking is a bit backward.

In this era, it is normal for couples to live together. This is a process that needs to be experienced to get along with each other. Each other's habits, hobbies, and work and rest patterns need to be understood through close observation. I often hear people say that he changes after getting married. Maybe it’s because you didn’t get to know this person in detail before getting married, and a good way to understand his true nature is to live together.

Many people will say that girls who live together are not pure. This is an old concept. The so-called "cn complex" itself is unfair to girls. It is written in university ideological and political textbooks that the three elements of love are ideals, responsibilities, and sexual love. If there is no third person, it can be considered friendship at best. This is a way of emotional sublimation, an expression of intimacy, and the basis for two people to get along with each other for a long time and pass on the family lineage.

In the past, many parents and elders lived a miserable life because of old ideas. But at the same time, we need to realize that among the three elements of love, ideals and responsibilities come first.

In fact, her family is also worried about her. My sister plans to go back and talk to her family. Although her family prevents her, her sister has decided to live together. She will not change her mind. If her family does not support her anymore, she can only hide it quietly.