Girls (the picture has nothing to do with the text)
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Girls who are doing well all have the characteristic of "acknowledging failure and not paying much attention to their own losses".
You clearly know that the other person is a scumbag and treats you badly, but why are you unwilling to leave the other person?
Do you know why this is?
The most fundamental reason is that you will not admit defeat and you are too focused on your own losses.
does not admit defeat and pays too much attention to his own losses. He is unwilling to accept the cost of silence; he does not accept the reality that the other party is not a good person; he is unwilling to pay for the mistakes he has made and bear the consequences.
In the end, nothing can be changed and we continue to be stuck in the quagmire.
has even developed a savior mentality, hoping that he can influence the other person. Do you think you can live well?
Girl (the picture has nothing to do with the text)
2,
I once heard such a little story:
A girl broke up with her boyfriend after four years of dating. Her friends all told her that the best three years of your youth were all wasted in the hands of that scumbag. What a pity.
But the girl doesn't think so. What she thinks is: " I don't think it is a waste. I have also enjoyed his four years of kindness to me and his four years of vigorous body."
Yes, why should we keep paying attention to our losses? What if you don't pay attention to what you have got?
People who live well will not regret their losses, and their victim mentality is not serious. Once I make a decision, it is the best decision. Once it happens, it is the best thing to happen. It is a blessing in disguise!
Only when you admit defeat, can you afford to lose, don't pay much attention to your own losses, and focus on the present can you live a better life.
Girls (the picture has nothing to do with the text)
3,
Think about it, those women who are relatively happy in love or marriage, is it because they will not meet scumbag men?
is definitely not the case, they will also encounter scumbags, but what is great about them is: dares to admit defeat; dares to ignore gains and losses; dares to accept reality.
No matter how much they give or how much they love this man, once they find that the other person does not meet their standards for mate selection, they will leave the relationship immediately without hesitation.
They will firmly hold the right of choice in their own hands, instead of passively handing the choice to men.
They will admit that they have lost this game, and then find someone to start again.
Smart people are smart because they don't like fighting.
Remember the words of Minglan in "Know or Not": "Since has entered the back alley, it should make a U-turn in time. Don't wait for a lifetime, it will be too late to regret."
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Girl (the picture has nothing to do with the text)
Author introduction:
Ou Xiaoxi, I hope that through my words, you can experience the "warmth and warmth of human nature" in the world.
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