Do you know when a person is at his humblest?
It's probably like reaching out to ask for something from the person you love. When love is not available, the sadness and grievance will make you unable to hold your head up for a long time.
When you can't even get what you want, you actually already know that the other person may not love you as much as you think, but you don't want to admit it, so you will continue to ask for it to prove that "he loves me."
But many times we forget the original intention of love: loving him is your business; whether he loves you or not is his business.
If it is because you love him and you have sacrificed for him, you want to get back the love from him in return. If not, you feel that you have failed in loving him, and then your love is not true love.
Love is not a transaction; love is a dedication.
So, no matter how much you love someone, don’t ask for these two things.
1. Don’t reach out and ask for gifts from him
Not long after a friend and her boyfriend got together, she started to hint at him and wanted him to give her gifts.
She said she didn't feel loved, so she wanted to receive gifts to prove that at least he loved her.
She said that when he was with his ex, he gave her a lot of gifts, including money, but when I was with me, I always felt that I was not as good as his ex-girlfriend. Otherwise, why didn't he give it to me?
But no matter how much I hinted, and even made it clear in the end, I still got nothing.
He said: You feel unfair in your heart, so you compare me with others. You feel that you should have what others have. Without you, your heart will not be balanced. But I don’t like you comparing others with me.
She asked me if he loved his ex-girlfriend more.
I can't give a judgment. Although it is said that the person who loves you will definitely be willing to sacrifice for you, but not long after you get together, if you hint to the other person that you will give, you will drop down a level in the other person's heart.
You must know that the gift that is coming is no longer a gift, it is just an emotionless item. Even if you get it, you will be very upset.
A person who truly loves you will be kind to you subconsciously and give you everything he wants unconsciously. He doesn’t need your reminder, nor does he need you to express it in a roundabout way, because he sees it all, remembers it in his heart, and pays in action.
Love is instinct, and when we love deeply, giving to you is instinctive, uncontrollable, and willing.
2. Don’t reach out and ask for love
In this world, everyone expresses love in different ways, but when they truly love someone, they all have one thing in common, that is, they do not hesitate to express their love for you with actions. The more someone loves you, the more they will want to hold everything in their hands and give it to you.
Because the other party knows that love is initiative and giving.
Instead of asking you if you want something, when a person really wants to give you something, he will not ask you if you want it, but will directly give you the things you expect. The same is true for love.
Love is never something you can earn. If you have it, you have it, and if you don’t have it, you don’t have it.
So when you don’t feel loved, it means you don’t love. Don’t ask the other person whether you still love them or not, why you don’t love them anymore, you didn’t treat me like this before, why have you changed now.
What you give proactively is love, what you reach out for is charity, mercy, and words that are forced and forced to be spoken against your will. Love maintained in this way cannot last long.
Because true love is always given willingly from the heart. It is the other party who takes the initiative to give it to you, rather than you reaching out to ask for it.
The extent to which he is willing to pay for you is the extent to which he loves you.
Anyone who cannot feel love is not because he does not understand love, it is just because the person he loves is not you.
Whether it is money, gifts or love, we can expect the other party to give it, but we must not reach out and ask for it. You must know that what is coming is not love, but charity.
Therefore, you can take the initiative to contact him, take the initiative to express your love for him, and take the initiative to pay for the other person, but don't take the initiative for this. Don't take the initiative.
Heart, when given actively, is sincerity; love, when given actively, is true love.
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