In the fast-paced life, love often comes violently and quickly with fate and chance. My sister told me the story of her and her boyfriend. The two met when my sister was an apprentice in a flower shop. After listening to her memories, I realized that a girl's affection can be so direct, passionate and quick. My sister told me that the first time she saw a boy was on the lavender shelf. The boy gently selected the flowers he liked, and then told his sister with a smile that his mother likes lavender very much and that today is her birthday. My sister said that it was at that moment that she heard her own heartbeat. A boy who carefully selects flowers for his mother in a flower shop has a clean smile, as warm and gentle as the spring breeze. The younger sister said that she fell in love with the boy at that moment. Even if they are just familiar strangers like patrons and store clerks.
As one of the more difficult zodiac signs among the twelve zodiac signs, the sentiments I often receive from the opposite sex are that you are too unsociable, a straight woman. Not willing to take the initiative, preferring to be a listener rather than a talker; she can be a good confidant, but her own heart is hard to be moved.
Such a personality causes me to show that it is difficult to show enthusiasm or affection for a person in a short period of time. In the final analysis, it is actually due to the scrutiny and solemnity of feelings, as well as the lack of security in the character. So the first thing I want to say is, boys, don’t understand every girl around you who keeps a reasonable distance from you and behaves a little alienated when you first met.
Coincidentally, during this holiday, after being single for many years, I felt my heartbeat again. And within a very short period of time. A boy is a good friend of his best friend and her boyfriend. Our acquaintance is actually the matchmaking between friends of both parties, intentionally or unintentionally. This is actually my least favorite way to make friends, but due to my friend’s good intentions, I still went for it. I simply added WeChat, thinking that maybe it was just a casual acquaintance or acquaintance through likes. But the deeper I got to know this boy, the more things he showed me that I admired and liked.
It was not until later that he told me that he had actually wanted to get to know me for a long time, and his "careful tricks" were perfectly displayed in front of my eyes. No matter what, I must admit that I am very happy with this boy and we are very happy now. I don’t view his “carefulness” during our contact as deception; rather, I view it as a sign of his willingness to invest time and change in me. So, how did he gain the favor of a girl so quickly?
one, special feeling, create a special feeling.
Girls especially hate boys who stalk and take the initiative to stick with them. They often have a sense of superiority and think that boys should pursue them, but when a boy is different from others, he is cold, has his own ideas, opinions, and is full of confidence. And just being patient, caring and warm towards him, does this special feeling make girls feel pampered?
So when you are different, this girl will naturally differentiate you from other boys. And he is naturally not interested in those boys who take the initiative to stick to you, but is full of exploration and expectation for you. There are many such examples around us. Some boys do not chase girls but make girls interested. Some boys stalk girls but keep them away.
Second, be a "details control" because details determine success or failure.
adapts to the needs of others without falling into the trap of convention. My guy knows me well, better than I thought he would. He later told me that after he added my WeChat account, he discovered that I did not have the habit of posting in Moments, so he tried every means to get my , Weibo, and other accounts. Obviously, he discovered on it that my favorite coffee is cappuccino, my favorite dog is corgi, and my favorite movie star is Stephen Chow . He even deduced my fitness time and met me by chance in the gym. It can be said that without knowing that he had done any homework at the time, I really thought that we were really so similar and so destined. This makes me very willing to cherish this kind of "heaven-sent" fate.
I had an excellent senior sister in college who married her Mr.right this year. Speaking of their mutual acquaintance and love, my senior told me that the boy was not a very good boy, but she firmly believed that a person who was willing to spend time thinking about, getting to know, and understand her was worthy of her lifelong trust. For a girl, the most attractive thing is the sense of security and belonging in a relationship. A person who knows both cold and hot, and whose life is similar to mine and who is in sync with me, will have a natural attraction. In other words, details determine success or failure. This is something that no girl can resist.
3. Create a special feeling and create a heart-pounding feeling.
There is a feeling called a special feeling. For example, there are often plots like this on TV, where a man and a woman accidentally bump into each other. The man politely helped the woman pick up the things she had dropped on the ground. This is all well designed! So in real life, we can also design such a chance encounter to give the other party a sense of fate.
The second type is to create a sense of personality. For example, in our lives. There are those who spread knowledge. Some create funny humor. There are also people who provide positive energy, and there are also emotional analysts. If we didn’t know the piano director before, then wouldn’t we? I have a very strange feeling, and I want him to help us analyze our emotions and psychology.
four, create your own unique charm.
This requires a rich understanding of this girl, that is, based on the first step, you must create and show your unique charm. I like boys who are smart and smart, so after he knew this, he took me to a field he was familiar with and good at - the chemistry laboratory. Serious women are the most beautiful, and so are men. After being in contact with him for a period of time, the first time I sincerely said "this man is so handsome" was after he took me to do an experiment.
My friend has been pursued by a boy for almost half a month, and the attitude is still lukewarm. We originally thought that their relationship would fail, but unexpectedly, the boy took her to the piano room. From then on, my friend developed a great liking for boys, one could even say he admired them. You know, girls all have a feeling of admiration for "heroes". So, just find out what kind of person your girl is and take her to places where you can exude charm.
Fifth, do what he likes and let him cherish you more
On the basis of respecting the other party, at the appropriate time, conduct well-founded trials. No girl likes someone who is absolutely strong. This will not only give girls a sense of pressure and oppression, but also make them appear impatient. So, what is a well-founded temptation? I think my boy is really awesome. When I might have just started to develop feelings for him, he was already taking his time to test me. He bought two tickets for my favorite play, and invited me to go to the pet milk tea shop, walk the dog together after dinner, and many other things. However, his invitation was not bombarded, but was measured and appropriate, and it was also in my favor, so I basically did not refuse. And every time I go, my liking for him grows.
If you invite too many, a girl will feel that you are interfering with her, which will make her feel stressed and bored. But if you don’t strike while the iron is hot and properly test based on the previous two points, you may regrettably miss it.
Six, "Special Story Method" to create romantic scenes.
For example, if we meet a woman who makes our heart flutter on the street, what should we do if we want to strike up a conversation?
At this time we can try the "Story Special Method". We can tell this girl from the beginning: "You look exactly like my first love. I recognized you at a glance on the street. When I saw you just now, I thought you were her! In order to avoid making myself appear too abrupt, I also specially bought my first love's favorite plum candy for you to eat. Don't worry, there is no poison in it. If you are worried, I can have a taste first.""
If the girl still doesn't accept it, then you can say something like this: "How about this, you are fine now anyway, or please listen to me tell a story. "Then you can tell her a story about yourself and your first love.
Let's imagine, if we can tell this story to girls, will we leave a particularly deep impression on girls? Women are naturally attracted to infatuated men, not to mention meeting an infatuated man in this special way. She is looking for her first love on the street. After returning home, she will inevitably think about it carefully and imagine how happy she would be if there was a man who loved her so passionately!
Meeting someone and falling in love with her is a very difficult and precious thing.
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