-01
Obvious "physiological impulse"
When encountering true love, it will awaken the most real, primitive and intuitive impulse deep in our hearts.
The moment you meet the other person, you have this feeling:
"The person I have been waiting for finally appears."
You don't know why, but when you are with the other person, your feeling is very strong, your desire is obvious, and you want to occupy the other person or be occupied by the other person.
Psychologists have shown that:
When two people who are truly compatible meet, they will have "sexual" desire.
Psychologist Sternberg also proposed the triangle theory of love: passion, commitment, and intimacy.
Among them, passion includes physiological impulse.
Novelty, physiological impulse, desire, these all constitute the passion between you.
Only when passion arises can the relationship between you two enter a new stage and progress to another level.
is described in the language of movies and TV shows, which is probably: knocking the opponent down or wanting to be knocked down by the opponent.
-02
When you meet your soul mate, you can "see yourself"
A good relationship must be about seeing you in the other person.
The other person is like a mirror. When he looks at you, he can make you aware of yourself and feel your true self.
There is a concept in psychology called "psychological visibility".
means: When you are with the other person, you can feel your own heart and see your own appearance.
Some people cannot understand themselves through themselves; it is also difficult to understand themselves through others.
Because he has not met the right, suitable person.
Only when he meets the right type of person can he feel his true self in the other person.
For example:
Before you get to know the other person, you don’t know what your shortcomings and strengths are.
People around you will not directly point out your shortcomings because they take care of your face;
People around you will not praise your strengths because they are worried that you will become better than them.
Only a soul mate can sincerely and unreservedly accept you, know you, help you and appreciate you.
-03
When you meet your soul mate, you will have more "action power"
In an intimate relationship, when you get along with the other person, you find that you don't have much impulse or motivation.
What the other party wants, you are unwilling to give;
The other party wants you to help, but you always find reasons to refuse;
When the other party encounters trouble, you are not so active in dealing with it.
This shows that deep down in your heart you don’t like the other person at all; because you don’t like them enough, you don’t care that much.
However, if you meet your soul mate, the most intuitive feeling is: "Your mobility has become stronger."
You will remember everything the other person says;
You will also remember the other person's preferences and living habits.
Whatever he says accidentally or what he wants, you will prepare it silently and give him a surprise.
This is the "power of love".
Not only that, when you meet the right person, you will want to become better and better.
That is a subconscious, uncontrolled effort.
What you are thinking in your heart is: "Only if I get better and better can I be worthy of him; only if I get better can I help him get better together."
Real love is to try to make each other better and better through your own efforts.
-04
When you meet your soul mate, you will feel enough sense of security and trust
Security is the most real and basic desire deep in everyone's heart.
Children need their parents and cannot live without their parents. They hope that their parents will give them more companionship and care.
When lovers get along, each hopes to get more love from the other.
When you are with the other person, you won't worry about gains and losses at all, and you won't worry about him leaving you.
Because the things he does for you, the companionship and feeling he brings you, make you feel at peace and full of security.
You know: Even if you show your worst side, the other person will not leave you.
This is a sense of security.
The sense of security between lovers is: "I know you will come, so I am waiting; I know you will not leave, so I will be true to myself."
What is trust?
When you are with the other person, you can express your inner thoughts without reservation.
You can tell the other party all your hidden emotions, thoughts, negative emotions, and various problems.
You know that he will not betray you, let alone share your secrets with others;
For the same reason, the other person also trusts you.
Only soul mates can achieve "barrier-free communication and unreserved sharing".
Love is never a simple decision, but also a long-term companionship and relationship between two people.
If you fall in love with someone, the other person can bring you these feelings; don't doubt that you have really met the right person for you.
soul mate is another self in this world.
When you see the other person, you see yourself; when
falls in love with the other person, you long for a better future with the other person.
Today’s topic:
Have you ever met the “ soul mate ”?
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-