She said that growing up, she had been living under the roof of others. Her parents worked outside the home and they would see her once a year. There was a phone at home, but her parents rarely called back. Relatives and neighbors all said that she was a child that her parents di

She said that growing up, had to rely on others. Her parents worked outside the home and saw her once a year. There was a phone at home, but her parents rarely called back. Relatives and neighbors were saying that she was a child that her parents didn't want. Her father didn't care for her mother, so she was taken care of by her grandma. Because I follow my grandma, I often live in the care of others. I follow my grandma everywhere to visit relatives' houses. I am afraid of being abandoned. I take the initiative and work hard to do housework. I don't do what I am not allowed to do, and I try my best to do the things I have to do well. Later, she gradually became more withdrawn, taciturn, and more sensitive and fragile.

later went to school , and started living in the dormitory in elementary school. I was very happy in school, even if I was often alone, I was still very happy. Every time I have a holiday, I really don’t want to go home. The food I eat is not as good as what I get at school, and I’m criticized for not doing well at work. I just want to stay in school, but the school doesn’t allow students to stay overnight on weekends, so they have to go home on weekends.

After junior high school, huge changes have taken place. It is not as simple and innocent as it was in elementary school. Everyone has their own small circle. There is a girl in the class who is like a bully. She needs others to cater to her and help her work. If they don't cater to her, they will take the lead in isolating anyone and let the whole class ignore them. She was afraid of being isolated and bullied, so she never resisted the female overlord's instructions. She helped her carry things, lent money to the overlord (even if she never paid it back), bought her food, helped her on duty, took out the trash for her, and served the overlord like a maid. She was extremely sad, but didn't know what to do. When she told her family, they would only say that she was pretentious and did not know how to deal with interpersonal relationships, just because of her personality.

In fact, she has often been depressed and anxious since elementary school. At that time, she didn’t know what depression was. It was only in junior high school that she learned that it was depression. Her parents had not been close to her since she was a child, and there was a lot of gossip in the village. They often told her that she was an unwanted child, that she was picked up and raised by her grandma, and that her grandma would no longer want her by then. No one knew what depression felt like, and no one told her what to do. She often wanted to kill herself, but when she thought of her grandma, she refrained from taking action. She was afraid that the old man could not bear to lose her, but it was so difficult to persevere.

When I was in high school, I was under a lot of pressure to study, and I didn't master the learning methods. My grades plummeted, and my psychological gap was huge. Because of my good grades in junior high school, I went to high school for free and entered the top class. However, my high school grades were a mess. From then on, I hated studying. I often made excuses not to study and rested in the dormitory. She did very poorly in the college entrance examination. Her mother asked her to stop studying and go out to earn money to support the family. Fortunately, her father still supported her to go to college.

After entering college, she studied hard and often walked alone. Later, she got a bonus. She was about to graduate and wanted to continue her studies. She discussed this with her family, but her family did not support her. They wanted her to work after graduation to earn money to support her family, so she gave up and stopped fighting for anything. Work directly after graduation, save money every month and give money to my family.

One day, I went to the hospital to see a doctor. The doctor wrote a bunch of check-ups and looked at the money in the card, but it was not enough to pay. She asked her parents for help. They said they had no money and the family was in difficulty. They asked her to borrow money from others and wait for her salary to be paid before letting her pay it back to others.

From then on, , she no longer asked her parents for help. She was not good at work and was bullied, so she had to carry it all by herself. She worked overtime until early in the morning and met gangsters on the road. She was so scared that she could only run fast by herself. It was late at night and she couldn't find anyone to help. She didn't know who to turn to. She went to a big city to look for a job or an apartment alone, but when she met a shady intermediary, he just put her in an alley and left. She had to slowly find her way out on her own. In the end, I used my little savings to rent a cheap house in a village in the city. It was located in a remote place. I would often meet uncles who asked me if I was in that field and how much it cost per night. I was scared every time I met them, but I had no money to rent a better house. I often cried at night.

Now I am 30 years old, and I don’t know how to live anymore. , I am not married, I have no partner, I have an average job, I am just an old aunt in the eyes of my parents, I am embarrassed, I can’t do a good job, I don’t make much money, I have no future, I have sex She has a bad temperament, and everyone in the village says that she is withdrawn, unwanted, and has a bad personality. Her parents and family feel that she is very embarrassed. Her grandmother is getting older, and she has been worried about her marriage, saying that she is too demanding, and asking her not to be too picky, and asking her to see herself clearly, but she does not know that she has never had a choice, she has always been chosen, and she has always been self-aware.

She really doesn't want to get married. She is afraid of living that kind of life again, afraid that she will not be able to play the role of a mother well. Marriage is not that simple. She is sensitive and fragile, and who can accept such a person. She has never been really liked or pursued by anyone. She has always taken the initiative to contact and maintain friends, whether they are same-sex friends or opposite-sex friends. No one has taken the initiative to contact her. If she does not take the initiative, the relationship will end. She finally likes someone, takes the initiative to contact him, takes the initiative to protect him, and takes the initiative to treat him well, but he is taken advantage of, and she is afraid of getting hurt again. Now I'm tired, I don't want to take the initiative anymore, I don't want to live such a humble life, always having to compromise, I don't want to get hurt anymore, I want to live a happier life, and I don't want to wrong myself anymore.

She obviously worked very hard to live and contribute to her family, but she couldn't change anything. Now she just wants to do her part as a child, fulfill her responsibilities, accompany her parents through this life, accompany her grandma through this life, and survive the rest of the journey by herself. Now she is stuck in an alley and can't get out. It's very hard for her to hold on. To others, this might not be a big deal, but to her, it was an abyss.

What people who are depressed never need is sympathy and pity, but the same frequency . It is not that you are like them, but that you try to understand them and don't look at them with colored glasses. In fact, they are just mentally ill, not crazy, nor neurotic . It's just that everyone's feelings are different, everyone's sensitivity is different, and their tolerance is also different. We are all just different, but they are not different.

If this happens to you, please be more patient and understand more. If you don’t know how to deal with it, just stay with them quietly and let them know that someone is always by their side. Let them slowly open their hearts and listen to them quietly. If possible, it is best to see a psychiatrist, but do not force the patient to go. Slowly guide the patient. Heart diseases require heart medicine.