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Text: Shili
Illustrations: from the Internet
"After three years of dating, my boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago because not only did his career not improve, but there was also a major change in his family. He said he was unable to give me happiness, and I couldn't help him, and he didn't want to waste time with me anymore. He said he didn't love me anymore. Does he really not love me anymore?" A few days ago, a reader friend sent me such a private message.
I have a lot of feelings when I received this private message.
Some people often say: "Real love is not selfless devotion, but possession, jealousy, and wanting to tie her to your side instead of letting her go."
But in fact, the expressions of love have always been diverse, and different people have different expressions.
Some boys think that as long as she is happy, it will be fine, even if I did not give it to me.
Some boys believe that going through hardships together can make them feel the preciousness of a relationship.
Just like this friend, it’s not necessarily that he doesn’t love her anymore, maybe he is just a male chauvinist and doesn’t want his girlfriend to accompany him to endure hardships.
In fact, it is not difficult to tell whether a man loves or dislikes him.
If a man doesn't love, then he must be selfish and everything will only benefit himself.
And if a man still loves you, then he will definitely consider you first.
I love you, you are free, I just want you to be happy, even if that person is not me.
The greatest sorrow for a man is that he meets the woman he loves most when he is at his most incompetent.
I want to love, but I can't give the other person happiness, so I have to withdraw myself.
In reality, people often ask me: "How can you tell if a man is truly in love?"
In fact, a man who truly loves you will not leave you in these three moments.
In your most difficult time, a man will not leave you.
It is said: "Husband and wife are originally birds of the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster strikes."
Some couples cannot stand the test, let alone the more elusive love.
If a love can go through these ups and downs, then the other person must really love you.
"True feelings are revealed in adversity, and people's hearts are revealed in adversity."
True love must lie in this companionship and responsibility.
If he chooses to leave when you need his help the most, it means that he is unwilling to take on your responsibility.
Those who can face the wind and rain with you must be true love, and you should cherish them when you meet them.
It is easy to add icing on the cake, but difficult to provide help when the time is right.
Most people can only accompany the best of you, but cannot accept the worst of you.
Because people are selfish, all behaviors have traces.
Love is not everything in life, it is the icing on the cake, not a life-saving straw.
Only by looking at love correctly can we truly get love.
Of course, when you are in trouble, it is a sign of love for others to help you. It's normal not to help, because others don't have this obligation.
Therefore, you are lucky to meet such a person, so don’t miss it.
I once saw a question on the Internet: "What is love?"
had a very heart-warming answer:
"Someone believes in you, someone stays with you, someone waits for you, someone loves you, someone understands you."
This is true.
Although true love is ordinary and ordinary, it can really penetrate into people's hearts.
The man who stayed with you when you were seriously ill.
said: "There is no filial son in bedside for a long time."
When it comes to illness, sometimes even family ties can be wiped out, let alone love.
The man who never leaves you when you are seriously ill must love you deeply.
Because people are all realistic egoists.
Men, in particular, are more rational about this. If there is no love, they will only act based on interests.
All behaviors are traceable.
A few days ago, I saw such a thing on the Internet.
A married woman who had been married for 10 years was diagnosed with terminal cancer . It was obvious that she should choose chemotherapy at this moment. After all, she was only 36 years old. However, her mother-in-law always refused because the cost of treatment was too high. She also said that it would be better to save the money and marry another daughter-in-law.
What’s even more bizarre is that this woman’s husband really divorced her and married another woman. The woman’s current treatment expenses are all her parents’ pension money.
You see, if a man doesn't love, then he must be more ruthless than everyone else.
If a man loves you, then no matter what happens, nothing can stop him from loving you. After all, you are the most important person in his heart.
was at his most successful.
In fact, men are more realistic than women when it comes to feelings.
They didn’t just have enough fun and find an honest person to take over, but they got ahead of themselves and found someone to integrate their resources.
Whether a man truly loves a woman should not be judged by the woman beside him when he is at his lowest point, but by the woman by his side when he is proud.
Men are very realistic and their choices are clear.
When you have nothing to offer, choose a woman who can satisfy your emptiness and loneliness. Wait until you are talking about marriage before saying it is inappropriate and find someone with better marriage conditions to get married.
"The spring breeze makes you suffer from horse hoof disease, and you can see all the Chang'an flowers in one day."
The woman a man chooses when he is most proud must be the woman he loves most.
After all, at this moment, he has more choices, which is enough to choose what he loves in his heart.
When a man is down and out, he leaves you, maybe because he loves you and can't bear for you to suffer with him.
But if a man leaves you when he is most successful, then he must not love you.
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Today’s topic: “Do you think it’s right?”
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