I just saw the headline of a friend whose relative died in a nursing home because the old man had three sons! Therefore, many people in the comment area are questioning or even criticizing: It is not filial enough to send the elderly to nursing homes when they have so many sons!

I just saw the headline of a friend whose relative died in a nursing home because the old man had three sons! Therefore, many people in the comment area are questioning or even criticizing: It is not filial enough to send the elderly to nursing homes when they have so many sons!

What I want to say is that the conditions of every family are different. The three sons have their own families. If the old man is healthy, I believe that these three sons can provide for him in old age without any problem. I also believe that most sons in this society can do the same! But the problem is that the old man has a serious disease, which is a big problem! Which son's home will the old man stay at? If each son stays at home for a year, the family will have to prepare a lot of things, and they will also have to hire a 24-hour caregiver! Maybe they can do this, but if the old man dies at one of his sons' homes, will the other two brothers accuse him of not taking good care of the old man? Can a caregiver have nursing home expertise? Definitely not professional enough! So I think sending to a nursing home is the most appropriate choice, not the best choice! Many people who have never experienced it may not feel it or understand it, which is normal!

My grandmother has two sons and two daughters! It stands to reason that you can enjoy your old age in peace! But she did not enjoy the happiness. It can be said that she spent her whole life under the accusations of my two aunts! I remember I went to visit her during a vacation in high school. She was at my uncle's house at that time. As soon as I walked to the door, I heard a sentence: You are so old that you can only eat and spend money every day, but you can't work! I was so angry but I couldn't solve anything! Before I left, I had to secretly give her one hundred yuan, which was given to me by my mother! I don’t dare to do it blatantly for fear of being taken away by them! I think my grandma is also pitiful. She has been gone for 6 years now. I think this is also a relief for her!

Actually, I really want to say that it is definitely much better for her to stay in a nursing home than to stay at home with her two sons! But nursing homes cost money, and there was no way my aunt would pay for her to go there! Besides, I’m from a rural area and don’t have much money!

Elderly people may not be happy or filial if they stay at their children's homes, nor can they be said to be unfilial if they go to a nursing home. What matters is the attitude and intentions of the children towards the elderly! ! !