"If a person has no future intentions, he will have immediate worries."
If he wastes the current glory, then the only thing he regrets in the future will be you in the future.
We humans, from birth to death, are always looking for things that can allow us to gain our own value.
When we were young, we were eager to increase our grades to get praise and praise from parents and teachers.
When we are adults, we hope to find a partner and career to affirm our success.
When we reach middle age, we hope to get the recognition of our superiors and the understanding of our families.
Perhaps this is our human nature, and we like praise but not criticism.
Besides, how many people want their lives to be in the shadow of darkness and failure?
When I was a teenager, I was always criticized by my teachers because I was playful and did not work hard. was too low for the exam, so he didn't dare to go home, so he had to squat on the side of the road, praying that he would not go home and be scolded by his parents. Because he often ran away in class and was distracted in class, he was held a "parents meeting" alone, which resulted in another bloody lesson.
When we were adults, we graduated from college, were full of confidence, and were eager to make a splash after graduation and achieve a successful career. , but in the end, a basin of cold water poured into his heart, pouring his passion into his heart. The major you chose in college was not even the major you were in. The knowledge you learned in college could not even be applied to your actual work. Every time you explained the knowledge in college to your leaders clearly, you always get ridicule and criticism.
After entering the actual work, we have completely become workers. We get up early every day to work and stay up late to work overtime at night. At this time, we will miss our college days very much, miss the carefreeness of our youth, and hope to go back to the past. Unfortunately, life has no key to backwards and is moving forward every moment.
But our biggest advantage at this time is that we are very young, really young, we dislike this job for being indecent, we can choose to change jobs, we think that our job is low, we can change jobs. If you dislike your leadership being unfair enough, you can leave at any time. When we were young, we thought, "If you don't leave me here, you will have my own place to leave me."
At this time, our lives do not have mortgages or car loans. We have no pressure and are relaxed in everything. Of course, we will follow our own wishes and choose our own life.
When we reach middle age, we are not as casual and casual as adults. Some of them are helpless and surrender to reality. After more than ten years of social training, our spirit has long been smoothed out by society and has completely become workers at three points and one line. In the face of the accusations and abuses of leaders, we cannot say a word. In the face of customers' difficulties, we can only grit our teeth and bear it. Maybe you will ask why we don’t fight back?
Because my wife and children are waiting for me to support me, if I am angry for a moment and the family members cannot eat and live a good life, what is the point of venting my emotions? Besides, when people reach middle age, they have no choice. Home mortgage, car loans, children's tuition, cram school fees, etc. are all a lot of expenses. If loses your job due to emotional problems and cuts off the source of family income, how should we repay these expenses?
This is the difficulty of middle-aged people. Perhaps only they understand the sadness of middle-aged people. Facing the world with all the difficulties, you cannot complain, you cannot be depressed, you can only bite your teeth and endure it.
In order to support this home, he could only silently bear all the grievances and shelter the house from wind and rain.
Perhaps this is the first half of our lives for ordinary people. When we were young, we were full of confidence and thought that we were full of fighting spirit and wanted to change the world. But in society, we realized that some of the knowledge we learned was useless at all, and even when we were in society, we had lag and could not be used.
Maybe our lives are destined to be bad, or maybe our lives cannot follow our wishes.
Author | Some things about psychology, I will never give up love and freedom in my life.
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