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Fan consultation : I am a second child mother who has been married for ten years and I have a free love relationship with my husband. We have two children, the eldest son is nine years old and the younger son is one year old. My husband and I started from scratch. Although we didn’t live a particularly wealthy life, we can be considered as having a house and a car. If my husband hadn't cheated, I would think my marriage was still a happy one.
I have also talked to him about my husband's cheating. He said he liked that woman because that woman has things that he longed for but does not have, such as being free and unrestrained, such as not being bound by real life, love if you want to love, and hate if you want to hate. But in my opinion, this is not being casual, but irresponsible. I investigated that woman, divorced and had a daughter, but she never cared about her daughter and wanted to fall in love with a man.
Before getting along with my husband, she had already broken up multiple families. Every time she intervened, she was a third party. This is what my husband said about daring to love and hate, and never hanging himself on a tree.
My husband told me that such a woman is not reliable. Even if he divorced me, he and that woman would not be happy. I am willing to give him a chance. I also hope that he can return to the family and come to our side for the sake of his two children. I can leave it to the past for his affairs with that woman.
My husband said that even if he divorced, he would not marry that woman. He said that he knew who she was and that he knew her better than me. He said that he divorced me because he didn't want to continue hurting me because he no longer loved me. He was tired of living with me and his marriage. Even if there is no such third party, there will be other third parties. He said I was a good woman, and he could meet a good man even after leaving him, and he hoped that we could get together and part.
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Regarding divorce, he said he was willing to leave the house with nothing. Children can be one for each person, and leave the house and savings at home for me. He will also pay the child's support on time. Also, after the divorce, he will do his best to help me whenever I encounter any trouble. He said that even if we are not husband and wife and are relatives, he would not ignore me and would not let outsiders bully me.
I really don’t understand his thoughts. He knew that he had no result with a third party, but he was still willing to divorce her or even leave the house with nothing. We are all almost forty people. In addition to love, we also have the obligations and responsibilities associated with marriage. We are also parents of children. How can he put his happiness above the pain of me and my children? He is simply too irresponsible to do so.
Since his relationship with her was exposed, he has lived with the woman without any scruples, and even took her to meet some friends. He also told our mutual friends that we were talking about divorce. I felt heartbroken, as if I had never known him, but when I divorced, I felt sorry for the child. I would like to ask everyone, what should I do when I encounter this situation?
Wanwan’s personal advice : Since the man has lived with a third party and voluntarily proposed to leave the house without leaving the house, and stand on the position of a hurt original wife, I suggest you accept his proposal.
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You must understand that men have an extramarital affair and take the initiative to leave the house without permission, which is nothing more than these three reasons:
First: He was under pressure from the mistress, and it was the mistress who forced him to divorce. In extramarital affairs, men usually promise third parties, and third parties are eager to get results. For men, they can only bite the bullet and talk to their wife about divorce. On the one hand, it is to explain to the third party so that the third party can see his sincerity in wanting to be with the other party. On the other hand, it is to put pressure on his wife to make her acknowledge the state of being threesome. From the wife's standpoint, threesomes are absolutely not allowed to exist.
Second: As your husband said, he knows what kind of person the mistress is. Even if he divorces you, he will not marry the mistress. The reason why he left the house was to protect his marriage property as much as possible.You have two sons with him, and he is sure that you will wait for him. When he is free enough outside, he will come back and remarry you.
Third: This man is quite conscientious, shows that this man recognizes his wife’s efforts for the family in marriage.
No matter what situation your husband is in, it has nothing to do with the so-called true love. The reason why he had an extramarital affair was not because he loved that woman, but because he wanted to get what he lacked from that woman. Just like what he told you, he liked the coolness of that woman and the irresponsibility of that woman. He also wants to be a kind of casual and irresponsible person, but in fact, he still cares about responsibility, otherwise he would not leave the house without leaving the house, so he would protect you and your children.
No matter what your final determination is, you should take advantage of the current opportunity to transfer the house or notarize it before, and get the things that belong to you and your children. As for whether a man divorces you without hesitation, or returns to his family if he is lost, he will leave it to him to make a decision. Similarly, after divorce, it is up to you to decide whether you remarry or accept him again.
Adults always have to bear the consequences for their choices. This sentence is for your husband. Original article from
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