Mark Twain has a saying that both men and women should remember: "When you fish for love, use your heart as bait, not your brain." The so-called brain refers to those behaviors that use marriage as a tool for profit under the guise of love.

Mark Twain There is a saying that both men and women should remember: "When you fish for love, use your heart as bait, not your brain."

The so-called brain refers to those behaviors that use marriage as a tool for profit under the guise of love. For example, whether it is a man or a woman, there are many people who want to marry the opposite sex who are wealthy than their families and have a wealthy financial situation, and try their best to get close to them and make them fall in love with them.

The reason why these people have put a lot of effort into it is not because of true love, but because they want to , carp jump over the dragon gate, , and want to regard marriage as a shortcut to get rich, so that they can struggle for ten or even decades less, and reach a height that they may not reach in their entire lives.

For example, in "Knowing or Not", Zhu Manniang keeps saying that she has true love for Gu Tingye , but she has done a lot of things that are sorry to Gu Tingye. In fact, she has never loved Gu Tingye. What she loves is Gu Tingye's identity as a prince of the Ningyuan Hou Mansion. She wants to become a superior person through Gu Tingye, gaining glory, wealth and extremely high social status.

Writer Barbara wrote in "How to Practice in Love": "It is not love itself that causes the harm, but the calculation and distrust mixed in love."

Whether it is a man or a woman, no matter if you love the other person, once you find that you are plotted by someone, this love is mixed with great moisture and will be hit hard, thus becoming wary. Unless you are hopelessly stupid, such as Hu Lijuan in " Double-Side Sticky ", you will have doubts about you. The moment you find that you are plotted against, your relationship will have cracks, and even if you are not separated, it will not be possible to heal.

Whether it is a man or a woman, you must keep your eyes open and don’t be fooled easily. If he married you for the sake of profit, then the marriage will not last long. When he leaves you, it may be that your interests have been almost squeezed out by him, and you may lose both your money.

"That house? I sold it, what's wrong? Oh, I heard from the person who bought the house that you ran to make a fuss and said you were my man and that house belonged to our son? When did you become my man? We got a certificate? Our son? How do I remember that I only gave birth to a daughter and didn't have a son?"

received a questioning call from my ex-boyfriend. Ms. Fan only felt funny. She was very glad that the goddess of luck favored her and did not let herself encounter another failed marriage.

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Ms. Fan is 34 years old this year. She had a marriage that lasted for seven years, but was eventually destroyed by the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

"I and I are college alumni and are also sincerely in love. We have been dating for four years and got married the second year of graduation. However, my ex-husband is from a single-parent family. My father died when he was four years old. My mother-in-law grew up alone. The ex-mother-in-law treated her son as her life and could not adapt to the days when she was not living with her son. At that time, I also felt soft-hearted and agreed to the ex-mother-in-law's request to live with us."

Mother-in-law lives under the same roof, and conflicts are easy to occur. What's more, the ex-mother-in-law treats her son as her heart and refuses to let go of her son's life, so she naturally treats her daughter-in-law as her "love rival".

Not only that, she also hopes that Ms. Fan will become a paid free nanny and childbirth machine. Since they have served them, they can pass on the family line.

Although Ms. Fan's ex-husband still has feelings for Ms. Fan, he can't do it for his wife to say no to her mother who has been struggling for more than 20 years, and resist to the end and not letting her mother continue to live with her.

In the end, Ms. Fan couldn't stand it anymore, so she made up her mind and filed for divorce. The two eventually had to part ways.

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When divorced, out of guilt and in order to give the mother and daughter an explanation, the ex-husband insisted on the end and transferred a two-bedroom apartment of more than 70 square meters to Ms. Fan on the grounds of paying the support fee and dividing the property in one go, giving the mother and daughter a place to live.

After the divorce, Ms. Fan entrusted her daughter to her parents for her care and devoted herself to her career. At that time, she was hurt by marriage and did not plan to remarry. She just wanted to become a qualified single mother like her ex-mother-in-law and raise her daughter.

"After all, he and I truly love each other, and we were separated just like that. Both of us felt uncomfortable. I just wanted to keep our love crystallization, take good care of our daughter, stare at her and find a good husband's family, and have a safe and smooth life. I can take care of my grandson in the future, or I can support myself, as long as she is happy."

However, when participating in the team building activity, Ms. Fan met her ex-boyfriend, Mr. Ma. Mr. Ma "loved at first sight" to Ms. Fan and asked for Ms. Fan's contact information. Ms. Fan was sympathetic and had to give it to her and passed the other party's friend's request.

Although Ms. Fan did not have the intention at the beginning and declined Mr. Ma's confession several times, Mr. Ma refused to give up and kept pursuing Ms. Fan, asking Ms. Fan about her well-being, and often brought gifts to Ms. Fan's daughter and got along happily with the little girl. Gradually, Ms. Fan became moved.

According to Ms. Fan, Mr. Ma is also a single person. Two years ago, his wife died of illness and left him a son. Mr. Ma has never remarried and is trying to raise his son to grow up. Mr. Ma's mother is no longer alive, and his father lives with his eldest son.

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Parents support Ms. Fan in search of happiness, and her daughter has no objection. Coupled with Mr. Ma’s fierce pursuit, Ms. Fan believes that she can get happiness when she meets the right person, so she agrees.

Ms. Fan discussed with Mr. Ma that he would get married during the Chinese New Year. Mr. Ma proposed to move over to live with Ms. Fan and adapt to it in advance. Ms. Fan was worried that the impact was bad, so she did not agree and planned to live together after marriage.

Unexpectedly, not long ago, Ms. Fan received a call from her ex-husband, and her ex-husband made a suggestion, that is, she hoped that Ms. Fan would transfer the house under her name to her daughter.

"Although we have divorced, I am not qualified to interfere with your choice. It is your freedom to not remarry again, but I am my daughter's biological father, and I want to protect my daughter's rights and interests. I insisted on giving this house to you despite my mother's opposition. In fact, it is for my daughter. I don't want my daughter to live a life of no fixed place and often move. I also hope that this house can be left to her and become her confidence in her in-laws' family."

The ex-husband told Ms. Fan that it was not that he judged a gentleman by the heart of a villain, but that countless cases told him that he had to be careful.

Ms. Fan thought about it carefully, discussed it with her parents, and agreed to her ex-husband's suggestion. So she went through the procedures and transferred the house to her daughter.

"I didn't expect that my ex-husband had a more thorough understanding of human nature. It might be that men understand men's minds better! When he learned that I transferred the house to his daughter, he immediately took his son to the door and asked me what was going on, saying that I was wary of him, not living with him sincerely, and asked me to cancel the transfer immediately and get it back."

Ms. Fan felt that Mr. Ma's request was unreasonable. Yu, it seems that it is not the one she knows, and started arguing with Mr. Ma. During their quarrel, the boy who had called Ms. Fan's mother pushed Ms. Fan hard, yelled at Ms. Fan, and also yelled out Mr. Ma's true thoughts that approached Ms. Fan: "This is my room, why should you transfer the ownership to your daughter?"

When she heard the words of her future stepson, Ms. Fan felt chill all over and woke up like a dream. Finally, she understood why Mr. Ma "loved at first sight" for herself. After

, Mr. Ma was also panicked and said that children were free to speak wisely, and the child was talking nonsense and did not take it seriously, so he told Ms. Fan not to misunderstand it. However, he was still talking about the house, which made Ms. Fan even more determined to break up with her.

"I was worried that he would continue to pester us, so I sold the house, moved, and bought another one elsewhere, so that he could give up completely.Alas, after this episode, I no longer want to remarry and can't stand the trouble! ”

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