Author: Mo Xiaobei
01: Introduction
Women have been looking for men who love themselves deeply throughout their lives. They are more persistent in love than men. They will do many stupid things because they fall in love with each other, and will also be sad because they cannot meet someone who truly loves them.
Compared to those who cannot meet women who love them, there is a type of women who lose even worse. The other party clearly does not love them, but they mistakenly think that the other party loves them deeply and is deceived by the other party’s lies.
When you give everything for the other person, they may reveal their true colors. It turns out that he has never loved him from the beginning, it is just your own wishful thinking.
If a woman wants to get love, she should not always be emotional. She should make rational judgments about her feelings. She should not just listen to the other person’s love or not, but look at the other person’s actions.
Not only that, don’t believe these three lies they say. No matter how sincere they say, they are still lies. The false cannot be true, and the true cannot be false. If you blindly believe it, it will only harm yourself.
lies one: I will like the sentence
. It is often said by men. Many women think it is true, but they don’t know that it is all fake.
You can imagine the background of a man saying this, is it when you are the most beautiful, or when your relationship is the most intense?
Because of the strong feelings, everything will go with you.
He said that you will like whatever you become, but said that based on your beauty, you can be more beautiful. If you want to become ugly than before, then he may reveal his true nature. A man like
, after all, doesn’t love you.
If you really love you, you will naturally not be affected by your appearance.
Last year, my friend Daning and her husband divorced. Daning felt very uncomfortable at that time because she never thought that this man who said he would love her for the rest of his life would change his heart.
When I first got married, my husband loved Daning in every way, which made Daning mistakenly think that the other party really loves him.
When Daning asked her husband how long she would love her, her husband raised his hand and sweared to the sky, saying that he would love her for the rest of his life and would love her no matter what she became.
Daning at that time was not only beautiful, but also very good at dressing up, and often fascinated her husband.
Later, Daning became pregnant. Because pregnancy was afraid of affecting the fetus, he didn't dress up much.
When Daning first didn't dress up, her husband didn't say anything, but later she obviously felt her husband's face changed. Her husband still did not go home intentionally or unintentionally. When asked why, he said that the company was very busy.
If Daning's best friend hadn't sent a photo of her husband's betrayal, Daning would have naively thought that this man would love him for the rest of his life. At this moment, Daning finally understood.
As a woman, don’t think that no one cares about your image except yourself, and don’t believe in the nonsense that men like what you become, otherwise you will really have a particularly painful life.
I saw a sentence on the Internet and was deeply touched:
"When a woman can maintain the exquisiteness of life at any time, behave appropriately and generously, and know how to support herself, she will become a better self."
In fact, this is true. When you give up on yourself, then the man who loves you may give up on you, let alone the man who doesn’t love you.
No matter when, women cannot give up their beauty for men. Even if they don’t buy expensive cosmetics, they must ensure their exquisiteness without makeup.
No matter what time it is, don’t believe that men will love you for the rest of their lives, especially the previous sentence “No matter what you become”.
lie 2: Don't worry, I will definitely change
If you believe this sentence by a man, then you must be the one who suffers. Never believe the man's promise. Maybe he will say that he will change it when he is in the deepest love, but he will not change it after it is over.
In order to get you, men may say anything, but once they get it, it will be completely different.
If you change your promise to a man, don’t take it seriously, because it is not realistic at all. A sloppy man is a sloppy man. No matter how good the promise is, he will still be sloppy.
There is a content on the Internet:
When a boy chases a girl, the girl is particularly hesitant. Although she also likes boys, she doesn’t like sloppy people, and the boy is just a particularly sloppy person.
Because I didn't want to miss this relationship, the girl told the boy the truth. The boy said that he would reassure the girl and he would definitely change his sloppy habit.
Seeing the boy's swearing eyes, the girl chose to believe that when she first got together, the boy's performance was indeed good, which made the girl mistakenly think that the other party had really changed.
Later, as the relationship between the two heated up, the girl handed herself to the boy.
At this time, the boy showed his true face and the girl found that he was starting to become sloppy again. When the girl asked him, the boy directly said that he could not change. If the girl really couldn't stand it, he could choose to break up.
The girl cried and said to the boy:
"You didn't say that at that time. Didn't you say that you would change your sloppy habit for me? Why is it still like this now?"
When the girl finished speaking, the boy said that the girl was too naive and believed in such words.
At this moment, the girl finally understood. It turned out that the boy had never thought about changing himself since the beginning, and the reason why he promised to change was entirely to get the girl.
Never believe that men will change, and don’t forgive him when they can’t do it, otherwise it will only make you more painful.
Lie 3: Even if you do nothing, I will support you for the rest of my life
Many women have basically heard this sentence from men before getting married, saying that it is to make you give up your career, and even if you are idle at home every day, he will support you for the rest of your life.
sounds really beautiful and sweet, but life is long. I guess there is no one else who can truly raise a woman for the rest of her life except for her biological parents.
Because even children with blood relationships may not be able to raise a mother for the rest of their lives. For example, when you are old, it is difficult for children to be willing to stay by the bed. As the saying goes, there is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time.
What's more, is it a husband-wife relationship that is maintained by such illusion as feelings?
Luo Zijun in " My First Half of Life " is not a good example? As soon as I graduated, I got married and became a full-time housewife at home.
At the beginning, when Chen Junsheng asked Luo Zijun, he said that he would support her for the rest of his life, but later because of the appearance of Ling Ling , he gave up Luo Zijun just for the occasional consideration and greetings.
In this world, the only one who can support a person for the rest of his life is actually the only one who is your parents. So, don’t trust men easily, they will support you in this kind of nonsense.
Xiaobei's message
There is a line in the movie "The Godfather":
"A soft heart without boundaries will only make the other party gain a better position; mercy without principles will only make the other party do whatever he wants."
No matter how sweet a man is, no matter how he says, you can't take it too seriously. Because, many times, the sweet words that men say are covered with cannonballs.
If you believe it completely, you may be "fried" in the end.
No matter when, as a woman, please remember one sentence:
"Love without action is all about paper talk, no trust!"
For the rest of your life, I hope that every woman will understand the true meaning of love and make rational judgments about men's words. Only in this way can you gain good love and live the way you like.
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