There was a hot post on the Internet asking, what principles did you know only after you got married? There is a very praiseworthy answer under
. It says very well:
"The economic foundation not only determines the superstructure, but also determines the degree of family harmony. Poor couples are sad about everything, not just talk."
Most people generally believe that marriages lack material foundations, even if they have a strong support for passionate love, they will hardly resist the erosion of firewood, rice, oil and salt, and will eventually dissipate into bubbles.
Therefore, this answer was liked and pushed to the ranks of "highly liked answers". Is
true? Just look at the couple in Guangdong.
On December 15, a wife in Guangdong, cried at home and wanted to drink milk. She could only take out some money from her small living expenses to buy milk for her child, stopping her crying.
But then, the wife's cry came from the room.
It turned out that when the husband returned home, he saw his wife buying milk that was not cheap, and he couldn't help but say a few words to his wife, asking her not to buy such expensive milk.
He is the only one at home who works. He is under pressure from car loans and mortgage loans every month. The economic environment is unsatisfactory. Seeing that the family’s economic situation is getting more and more difficult, I feel very stressed.
The milk bought by his wife just touched his tight stress nerve.
After hearing her husband's preaching, the suppressed emotions spread like a flood in the drain. She cried and threw all the milk in her hand to the ground, crying and saying, "It's your son who wants to drink it."
Then he lay down beside the bed and started crying. The crying seemed to contain thousands of words of grievance, which made people feel extremely sad.
There is a saying in " Parasite ": Money is an iron, which can iron everything.
The lives of middle-aged people have always been like this. If you lack money, you can only endure all kinds of trivial quarrels and endure the negative emotions brought by various trivial matters. If you have money, you can easily settle all these trivial matters.
How to evaluate this couple?
The husband is burdened with mortgage and car loans, and bears the economic pressure of a family of three alone. He knows that making money is not easy under the current environment, so he is petty for spending money. He is not wrong, and he also has his own difficulties and difficulties.
The wife has no job, but she takes care of her children at home all day and cares for housework. The amount of tasks is no smaller than a job, but she has no salary. Her food, clothing, housing, transportation, and children's food and clothing can only rely on her husband's salary alone.
In such a difficult financial situation, she is naturally under great pressure as a housewife, and her life is also very difficult.
The reason why she cried and threw the milk she bought to the ground was not because her husband said a few words to her, but because of the long-standing grievance and dissatisfaction that had been suppressed in her heart was just released for this reason.
She is not wrong, she has experienced too many grievances before, and she also has her own grievances and difficulties.
So, who is the one who is wrong?
What is wrong is the poor and embarrassing life.
When economic conditions become the main problem faced by couples, even if love that is unswerving until death is mixed, it is difficult to escape the destruction and erosion of firewood, rice, oil and salt. Love cannot drink enough water, only if you have money.
As the saying goes, poor couples are sad.
Yuan Zhen 's poem, which was originally used to mourn his deceased wife, is now being understood by more and more people in the literal sense, regarding poverty as the original sin of everything. How sad can
be?
A female netizen on Xiaohu said that it is sad to be on her birthday. A family of three sat in the park, pretending to be very happy to enjoy it.
can also be so sad that she wants to go to the hospital to have a baby early, but her husband roared at her that hospital should not cost more than 40 yuan a night, and it is best to stay at home and wait for delivery.
Later, the more embarrassing such as this, the more disappointments she accumulated in her heart. She finally realized that affection cannot drink enough water. No matter how deep the feelings are, they cannot withstand reality. All the things in life are unrelated to money.
has lost its material foundation, and marriage is like a ship that has lost its canvas. It can only wander around without direction with the wind and waves. The road ahead is unknown, the joys and sorrows are unpredictable, the crumbling and exhausted have long become the norm to be accustomed to.
Poverty is the original sin of discord between husband and wife, and the biggest enemy of marriage.
I once saw a report, it was in Guangdong, when the husband held his mobile phone and pointed and scolded his wife. His wife kept explaining like a child who did something wrong.
But the husband turned a deaf ear and cursed, while snatching, he grabbed a bag of oranges from his wife's hand and threw it on the ground, belittled his wife who had no job.
The reason is that the wife bought New Year’s goods for her parents without discussing with her husband. The husband has been unemployed for three months. Seeing that his savings are getting smaller and smaller, the cost of living at home is getting bigger and bigger.
And without his consent, his wife made a fuss and spent two thousand yuan directly, becoming the last straw that crushed him, making all his pressure come out, forcing his wife speechless, and scolding him like a helpless child.
In the eyes of outsiders, it’s just two thousand yuan, why do you treat your wife like this?
In their eyes, it costs a full 2,000 yuan, which can maintain the family's expenses for more than a month.
So, if you have money and have good relationships, you have no money and quarrel every day. This sentence is often said by people, it is not unreasonable.
money may not be able to buy love, but it can maintain the decency of love and marriage to the greatest extent. The best marriage state should also be to not forget to work hard when in love, and not forget to warm each other when making money.
In short, making money well and working hard to get rid of the embarrassment of "poor and humble couples are sad about everything".
For women, if they want to avoid such grievances, perhaps the only way is to rely on themselves rather than rely on others, take economic rights in their own hands, and let money become their greatest confidence.
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