In this world, there are thousands of people, and every person who appears by your side cannot satisfy you.
even, the appearance of most people may affect your life and even bring many big and small troubles to your life. What should you do when facing such a person? Stay away from him? Is it hurting them? Or surrender to them? I believe that everyone will have their own answer.
When I was young, I always felt that people should stick to their inner order. For those who you don’t like and don’t have a good impression of, stay away from them. For those who you think have a good impression of, try to get close, and even give up some of your persistence for them. Later, I slowly discovered that the once very unique self gradually blurred my original intention.
people are a complex complex itself. You cannot have only one label on you, and you cannot have only one role.
It is normal to say different things to different people and do different things in different environments. It's like being in front of a good friend. After getting drunk, you can talk nonsense, but in front of colleagues or subordinates, can you do this?
In the workplace, you can be very principled, but when facing your own children, can you only talk about reason but not feelings?
For example, I love my daughter very much. As long as it is what she needs, I will definitely work hard to satisfy it, even if I can't satisfy it now, and I will work hard for her in the future. But, as a child, there will always be times when you make you angry.
For example, when I was creating in the study, she suddenly ran in and pulled me out to play with her toys. You can't scold you or beat you, so you can't be beaten, so you can't be with her. At this time, I hated her very much and wanted to throw her out, but can I throw it away? Of course not.
At this time, the so-called annoyance is actually a product of emotion. In everyone's brain, there are actually two brains, one is the emotional brain and the other is the rational brain. When the emotional brain prevails, the rational brain will naturally retreat.
At this time, what we should do is actually stop and suppress our emotions. After a few minutes, you will find that you are right and the child is right. The only thing that is wrong is that you use your emotional brain to face each other.
And when facing those who hate, you might as well think quietly whether it is just because you don’t like him emotionally, or whether his appearance will indeed hurt you.
Neither of us is a saint, there is no need to tolerate everyone, and there is no need to be good friends with everyone. Facing those who hurt you, stay away from them, don’t have any contact with them, and don’t let yourself be hurt anymore, that’s enough.
For those who hate, you should think about why it is because of the annoying thing, just because he speaks badly, or because his behavior and personality do not meet your aesthetic standards. At this time, you should think about whether his existence and appearance will lower your life level, drag you into the mud, or force you to make progress.
If it is the former, it is best to cut off all connections without hesitation, and there is no intersection in this life. And if it is the latter, then I hope you control your emotions and think about all this with a rational mind. Perhaps their existence is the ladder to change yourself and achieve success.
Everyone has their own comfort zone, and those you hate are the best objects that force you to modify or jump out of the comfort zone.
Therefore, there is no need to tolerate the heart of the Virgin, nor do you have to speculate with bad intentions. Everything follows your heart and your reason. At this time, you will naturally have the answer to what to do!
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