As the saying goes: a married daughter, splashed water.
In ancient times, parents actually did not expect their married daughter to subsidize their parents' family unless they really married into a wealthy family.
Similarly, from the perspective of parents-in-law and husband, subsidies to parents' home, but they must be appropriate and do what they can. After all, your small family expenses are not small, so you should put your in-laws first.
So, some girls were criticized by netizens as "Voldemort", who loves their younger brothers and their husbands.
In Jiangsu, when my younger brother got married, the three sisters took turns to go up to take the gift, and the amount of the gift was 60,000 yuan. Seeing that my sister was so generous, the bride and groom couldn't stop smiling. This money could be used as the start-up capital for her new home.
However, netizens have different opinions.
generous sister
The incident happened at a wedding in Jiangsu. When the younger brother got married and the three sisters were given gifts, the host came to interview them and asked them how much it cost to give gifts?
According to custom, when the younger brother gets married, the older brother and sister usually receive gifts. Do your best to help the younger brother start a new life.
But the generousness of the three sisters makes people dare not believe that this is the truth.
First of all, the eldest sister answered the host's question first, and gave a gift of 60,000 yuan. Then we went to the second and third sisters, and the amount of gifts they received was 60,000 yuan.
The groom held the third sister's hand aside, smiling from ear to ear. With such a sister, you are lucky and happy!
Netizens lamented: The unlucky thing is brother-in-law
Although it is a traditional virtue for brother-in-law to help each other, the sister gave 60,000 yuan in big gifts, which is not worthy of publicity.
Because not every sister has such financial ability, and not every brother-in-law is willing to take so many gifts. This is real money.
Generally speaking, in a family, brother-in-law is the pillar of the family, which is the main source of income for the family. The 60,000 yuan gift from my sister may have been earned by my brother-in-law with hard work.
Getting married with a gift of 60,000 yuan. Next time the child is full month, he will receive a gift of 10,000-20,000 yuan. He also buys a house and a car. Such gifts are endless. My sister is so generous, and the unlucky one is my brother-in-law.
You should know that my brother-in-law may save money and even iPhone14 and is reluctant to buy expensive clothes, but my sister gives gifts to my younger brother with a big gift. He will definitely have an objection.
The question is: How much should my brother-in-law and sister-in-law get married?
The younger brother is from his mother's family. It is understandable that his sister is generous when she gets married. After all, they only have one younger brother. If the sister doesn't help, the parents will be under great pressure.
But if you change your identity, your brother-in-law’s younger brother or sister gets married, and your brother-in-law gives his younger brother (or sister) a gift of 60,000 yuan. Will the three sisters as sisters agree?
There is no doubt that most sisters-in-law are not so generous to their brother-in-law (or sister-in-law). It is estimated that the couple will have a big fight and then only agree to give gifts of about 20,000 yuan. After comparison of
, did those three sisters become "Voldemort"?
Treat it within one's own ability and treat it equally
Another view is that we cannot measure how many red envelopes our sisters give based on their own economic level. Maybe they are all wealthy families!
You should know that Jiangsu Province is a relatively developed region. If the sister and her husband's family are all doing business, 60,000 yuan is a small matter to them and they don't feel sorry for them at all.
But if it is an ordinary family, you should do what you can and don’t pretend to be fat. Especially when it comes to the issue of gifts from younger brothers, brothers-in-law (or sister-in-law), they should be treated equally.
My mother's family has a red envelope of 60,000 yuan. When my brother-in-law (or sister-in-law) gets married, she also has to give 60,000 yuan. Only in this way can the family be harmonious and no one feels biased.
Don’t forget to dig the well when drinking water!
In fact, the key is not how much the sister gives gifts, but whether the younger brother and sister-in-law can be a human being.
For example, you will return a part of the gift to your sister and brother-in-law, and you cannot accept all the orders. In addition, you should know that when you reciprocate, your sister and brother-in-law need help, you should do your best and not be afraid of trouble or stingy.
As long as the effort is worth it, 60,000 gifts are not impossible.
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