Author: Mo Xiaobei
01: Introduction
Marriage is like a ship sailing on the sea. The husband is the left oar on the ship and the wife is the right oar on the ship. Only when two people work together can the ship sail steadily on the sea.
Western Jin Fu Xuan once said: "Same voice corresponds to each other, and one heart knows each other." The meaning of this sentence is that couples will naturally respond to each other, and couples will naturally know each other's thoughts.
However, there are some couples in life that it is difficult for them to do this. They often quarrel over trivial matters, and even attack each other in the most unpleasant and vicious language.
Their behavior is completely contrary to the vows made when they got married. They regard marriage as a battlefield and when they encounter problems, they always argue about winning or losing. Here,
, I was a little confused. Since it is so good now, why did you choose to join hands with the other party to get married?
Especially some women, they always like to criticize their husbands with complaints and use comparison to belittle their husbands.
In marriage, a woman who often talks about the following three sentences is impossible to be happy and will be disliked by men.
02: "My husband is so incompetent. He goes out early and comes back late every day, but he makes very little money."
I believe that everyone has their own point of view, so what do you feel when you hear someone say this?
Some people may think that this is just a very ordinary family. Isn’t it like this for many families?
It is true that this sentence seems to be a very ordinary complaint, but what if your partner often complains like this?
Everyone has their own abilities. How much money they make cannot be measured by comparison, and you cannot measure your husband by measuring other people's standards.
complaining occasionally may be venting the injustice of life, but if you say this often, it will be difficult not to let men think randomly.
Everyone has different abilities. Since you chose such a person, you must live with the other party well, because the other party is working hard every day when he goes out early and comes back late, and he has not done anything that hurts your relationship.
Some people may be temporarily trapped by the suffering of life. As the saying goes, it is late to achieve great things, so don’t belittle the other person too early and look down on the other person.
Because, everyone doesn’t want to see that their loved ones deny everything about themselves in order to make money, but they work hard but cannot get any reward.
03: "Can you have some promising potential? A man is more capable than you."
Some women, no matter when they are, will keep the words "You have some promising potential, a man is more capable than you."
Because I feel that my man is not capable, I always belittle my man, and even say this in front of outsiders, making everyone look down on him.
To be honest, this idea is very incorrect, and even if it is a fact, it is very hurtful.
First of all, this man was chosen by you yourself. You also entered the marriage after careful consideration. At the beginning, you also decided to spend the rest of your life with beauty.
However, now you belittle the other party, slander the other party, and deny everything about the other party. If you do this, you will not only be unhappy, but you will even be disgusted by men.
In this world, everyone has dignity. Even if a person who loves you humbly has his most basic dignity.
Since you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with you, you should grow up with the other person. Even if your partner is really not outstanding enough, what you need to do is not dislike and deny, but communicate with him and then work together to make progress.
04: "I have been so bad for eight lifetimes to marry a man like you.
An old saying goes: "A good word warms three times in winter, and a bad word hurts people in June. "
Sometimes, the lethality of language is more painful than any harm.
It is true that some women may really meet scumbags, so they say such words, but if the other party is responsible and motivated, but if you encounter difficulties temporarily, and just say that, then he will be very heartbroken.
Marrying him, you think you are unlucky, but when you read your wedding vow with him, didn’t you smile with a satisfied and happy smile? Why do you regret marrying him now?
In fact, people who have this kind of mentality and often say this: either they don’t put all their thoughts on managing their marriage, in other words, they don’t really love the other person; or they are, There are many people, and there is a gap in your heart. No matter how you look at your own men, you are not as good as others.
If a man really hurts you, you can use this to express your regret, but if the other party has been actively taking on the responsibility in your marriage and if you still say that, then you are not happy, you can only say that you deserve it.
So, if there is no principled problem between you, don’t deny your original choice easily.
05: Xiaobei’s message
05: No matter men or women, you must learn to speak well in love and marriage.
Because, When a person always says something hurtful or hurtful, it will make the other party think that you don’t love him/her and will also make the other party feel heartbroken.
It is true that a woman pays a lot in marriage and occasionally has emotional fluctuations, but your fluctuations cannot be hostile.
We often say that husband and wife are a community, prosper and both prosper and both lose and both lose. .
If you have problems with the other party, then erect the spikes on your body. If you are hostile to the other party, you will often consume the relationship you have finally cultivated.
No one wants to hear someone who will spend the rest of your life with you, saying something negative or belittle yourself, thinking from the perspective of others, you will understand what you feel like when you hear such words .
As the saying goes, it is difficult for two people to meet each other in a hundred years to get along with each other. Therefore, don’t let yourself think without thinking, hurt the other person’s heart , destroy the fate between you.
In life, there will inevitably be some bumps and bumps. As long as both of you have a positive attitude and face it together, life will definitely get better and better, and the road will be smoother and smoother.
Otherwise, it will only get harder and harder, and even be disgusted by the other party.
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