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see a set of data: my country's marriage registration is 7.643 million pairs in 2021. This is the first time since 2003 that the number of married people has fallen below the 8 million mark.
According to the data of the "China Statistical Yearbook 2022", the number of first-time marriages in my country in 2021 was 11.578 million, a decrease of 708,000 from the previous year.
Many netizens said that it is actually not difficult to understand. After all, the times are developing, and marriage is no longer so important to the public today.
Especially in the face of various exponential pressures we are currently facing, not getting married may be easier to have the life and freedom you like.
1. Why don’t you get married?
There is a conversation about urging marriage on the Internet: Several people in the family were sitting at the dining table and eating together. The father asked the child, why not get married?
The child replied: "Because I have been watching you and my mother get along since I was a child, I really don't have the courage to run and face a marriage relationship."
The boy's uncle retorted, "There is no quarrel in marriage, just like your aunt and I, have you come here for so many years?
The boy thought about it and replied: 'If there is a big quarrel every three days and a small quarrel every five days, it is also a must-have option for marriage, then I don't have the courage to face marriage. "
In fact, why are many young people, even those who have had a certain amount of accumulation and social experience, unwilling to choose marriage?
is not because there is really no opportunity around them to understand and contact the opposite sex, but they subconsciously choose to give up.
Because in their original family, the impact of the marriage of their parents they have seen and experienced on themselves is a deeply rooted existence.
This has caused many people to be unwilling to face marriage, or even fall in love, which is not a necessary element in life for them.
is not a necessary element in life. They are more willing to manage their lives and make themselves better people, which makes them more meaningful.
2. Concept, to keep pace with the times
In any era, there will always be people facing marriage, and some people are unwilling or unable to choose marriage due to various factors.
But, in the past, the education we received told us: the symbol of a person's growth is to get married, start a family, get married and have children.
And for us now, everyone knows that marriage is no longer an indispensable component in life.
Especially When you reach a certain age, you have lost the urge and idea of facing love and choosing love.
does not deny the existence of marriage, but if you can't find that person, it's better to simply give up and not force yourself.
Because, in the many information elements we can contact and feel, they all tell us the disadvantages of forced marriage.
Those men and women who should have a great life choose marriage because of age, family, and various reasons that have nothing to do with love.
But in fact, a marriage without true heart is like a large machine lacking running-in gears, even if It can be used and it is easy to scrap.
3. The decline in marriage rate is the trend
In today's Internet era, various inexplicable oppositions between the two genders, as well as the public's pursuit of material things and various factors, will actually lead to a decrease in marriage rate.
Because, after all, people's energy is limited. When you devote yourself to life and run around, you naturally need to reduce your attention to other aspects.
. Love cannot be encountered for a lifetime. It requires both parties to constantly get along and get in touch with each other, and it requires the understanding and contact between the two people in all aspects. It is a very long process.
Then, without these investments, there will naturally be fewer people who can discuss marriage issues, and naturally the marriage rate will inevitably decline.
For the so-called experts on the Internet, they have not personally experienced the public's feelings, so their suggestions will not be adopted.
Because, for the public, what we care about is not those cold numbers, but the living lives behind it.
Everyone will have their own sadness. If these sadness and problems have no way to solve them, they will naturally have an impact on their lives.
It is these impacts, such as economy, concepts, etc., that determine that many people cannot face the problems of falling in love, getting married, and having children.
4. Not getting married is not an error
I once watched a video posted by a boy who had poor conditions at home but asked the woman to understand herself and then marry her.
There is a very high-like comment under that video: "Brother, you have to know that it is right not to get married. Getting married is for happiness, not for finding someone to help you suffer."
In fact, at any time, we are very clear about this matter, that is, in this era, what path you have to choose for your life and depends on yourself.
It is not a mistake not to get married, because most forced marriages will not end well. Those two red certificates do not explain anything.
You can tie someone you don’t love by your side, or you can ask others to give you the life you want, but that is destined not to last long.
Marriage is always just an option in life. If you are destined to be unhappy, then not choosing is also a good choice.
or above, I wish you a good dream and good night.
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