text/Xiazi, Jiang Zuo Mei Niang
Whether it is love or marriage, it is an agreement to go in two directions.
promises to protect each other and overcome difficulties together when encountering ups and downs.
promises to love one person loyally and always be with you when you encounter temptation and slander.
There is no permanent love in the world, but there can be lovers who work for love forever.
Xi Murong said in "Looking back":
"Five hundred times of looking back in the previous life can only be passed by in this life." Every lover and every couple can actually "be together."
is already the favor of fate, not to mention that there are many sad and beautiful men and women in the world who are clearly in love but cannot stay together.
In love, people are sure at the beginning, and people are the most changeable.
It is obvious that the two people who have agreed to go with you, but someone wants to get off the bus halfway, especially for women. It is really unbearable for men to leave you in the end.
So, in love, women can be a little stupid, but not so stupid that they lose their minds.
At any time, you need to have a clear understanding: What does this man love me? He loves your youthful and beautiful appearance, and he will probably leave when you are old and weak; he loves your gentleness and considerate, and he will probably leave when you are hysterical; he loves your respect and understanding, and he will probably leave when you impose interference...
The breakup and reunion in love has a strong personal privacy. Although it cannot be listed one by one, you cannot neglect these three "feelings" of a man leaving you.
01. When a man feels bound, he wants to escape
The love story of the male lead Jiang Liangliang and his girlfriend Meow Meow in the TV series "I Want to Be Good with You" is so depressing.
Jiang Liangliang once had several ex-girlfriends, but after being with his girlfriend Miaomiao, he paid great attention to his sense of proportion and devoted himself to maintaining their relationship.
But my girlfriend is very suspicious and has a strong desire to control herself. Every day when Jiang Liangliang comes back, she not only looks through her phone, but also makes confessions to him for no reason.
And every time, Jiang Liangliang adheres to the attitude of not having more things than anything more. He endured it, and when he couldn't bear it, he hid in the bathroom and smoked, but he would be caught by Meow Meow.
Once, Jiang Liangliang said that he was going on a business trip, but Miaomiao insisted that he was using the name of a business trip to mess with his female colleague. When it couldn't make any sense, Jiang Liang grabbed the door and left.
When my boyfriend came back in the middle of the night, Miaomiao's attitude was better, but before going to bed, he began to commit suicide, asking if he had gone out to find his ex-girlfriend? Unable to bear it, Jiang Liangliang chose to escape from the house again. This time, Meow Miao followed. In the traffic flow, Jiang Liang lost control and asked in pain why the woman became like this?
Miaomiao went into the traffic without saying a word. After being quickly pulled back by Jiang Liang, the two went home, but in the middle of the night, Miaomiao still woke up her sleeping boyfriend and asked him about the details of the business trip...
The most suffocating thing was that in the end, her boyfriend found that Miaomiao actually installed a camera in the room to monitor him.
It can be imagined that this man will definitely escape from losing control. Such feelings have become seriously unbalanced, and the collapse may only be in a moment.
Many women think that the other party is their closest lover, so they should let their arrangements and control everything. Little do they know that before becoming lovers, everyone is independent and should have their own space and boundaries. Once they violate it at will and bind the other party to death, the man will definitely leave.
Love is freedom, not a cage.
Remember this, men will not be willing to leave you.
02. Men are distracted by the fact that they lack freshness
Have you often heard such stories in life?
When in love, the woman was as beautiful as a flower and full of affection. After being successfully caught by the man, the two quickly entered the marriage. From then on, the man worked hard outside and the woman stayed at home and was silently in charge.
Gradually, a woman has no time to care for herself, and her world is getting narrower and narrower. She gives her family and husband all her heart, doing the same housework, caring about the same prices, unchanging outfits and nagging without any novelty...
And men, the outside world is changing with each passing day, and their vision and ambitions have also leapt to the top. Facing the increasingly backward wife, a conscientious man may not necessarily dislike it, but at least in his heart, the fresh and beautiful girl in love is gone forever.
Do you still remember the Xu Zheng in "Love Call Transfer"? He has no conflict with his wife, but he wants to divorce her because of a bowl of fried noodles.
Because he can't stand his wife always wearing a purple sweater, and he must squeeze toothpaste from bottom to top. He eats fried noodles every Thursday and always makes a sucking sound when eating noodles.
Yes, his wife is no longer fresh in his eyes, so he wants to leave.
Many women are unfair to their wives. Why do they work hard and do nothing in the eyes of men?
Perhaps at the beginning, Xu Zheng also enjoyed such a dull but happy married life. However, over time, it is inevitable that aesthetic fatigue will be extremely dangerous for the two people in the marriage.
is like talk show actor Siwen. She once joked that her husband Chen Lu was the brother who slept on her upper bunk, and then they divorced.
The freshness of a couple before is the most important weapon to maintain intimate relationships. After all, the years are long and life is dull. If the couple's life is still like boiled water, it will be difficult to withstand a little bit of wind and waves.
So, no matter how busy or how unfair it is, women should not forget to leave some unique space for themselves to improve themselves and dress themselves up. Creating a freshness for life is not to deliberately please each other, but to make each other's sincere past, and don't easily lose to the years.
03. If a man lacks the sense of distance, he will get tired of
What does it feel like to be together for twenty-four hours?
I have a best friend who is a college classmate with my boyfriend. After graduation, I both entered the same company and the same department. In her own words, the two of them have been together almost twenty-four hours a day since college.
several times, I couldn't help asking, "Aren't you tired of it?"
She said that after a long time, there will be two people who have nothing to say, especially after work, they go to and get off work together and have dinner together every day. The other party can understand what they want to say with a look, and sometimes they will be tired of it.
Their lives and work are highly bound, and they have no sense of distance at all. They may be sweet when they are in love, but once they enter a trivial life, it is actually quite boring.
Just imagine those lovers or couples who have their own hobbies and spaces can discuss and share together after they go home, but if the two of them do everything together, they probably won’t even have the desire to share.
From this point of view, it is still necessary for two people to maintain a sense of distance.
and Carina Lau couples who recently went to South Korea to receive the award have a tacit understanding of "everyone can play with each other" in their marriage.
Carina Lau likes lively, Tony Leung likes quiet, when Carina Lau calls a group of sisters to come to the house for a party, Tony Leung doesn't join in the fun, but she doesn't stop her.
When Carina Lau went hiking, she never pulled Tony Leung because she knew that not everything needed to be done by couples, and not all couples had to be together at all times.
Although their marriage is not a model, it is remarkable.
Many men are free and free by nature and do not like to be stuck in others. If they have to do the opposite, there is a high probability that men will get tired of getting tired and want to escape.
If every woman can realize this, she must know how to maintain a close relationship with men. Don’t think that being tied together all day long is happiness. Distance produces beauty, which is especially important in intimate relationships.
There is a " Hedgehog Rule " that says: "A husband and wife are like two hedgehogs. If the distance is too far, they will feel cold. If the distance is too close, they will stab each other."
agrees deeply, learn to create some distance for each other's love and give each other a chance to breathe. Love will not go further and further, but will grow and become more stable.
04. Mei Niang Say
Chai Jing said in the book "See ":
"Love is the mutual attitude of two souls, not just the collision of two organs."
Similarly, marriage is also a high resonance between two souls, not just the boring couple between two bodies.
Business of a relationship is more difficult than determining a relationship, because it not only tests the attitude of two people towards each other, but also tests their understanding of intimate relationships.
Some people describe it as a man is like a thread in a woman's hand.
is too tight and easy to break; too loose, it is easy to fly away. Only by restraining each other and advancing and retreating together can the right way.
is correct.
Please give up the idea of controlling and restraining a man's fantasy, because people can be bound, but their hearts are difficult to conquer.
Please abandon the thoughts of everything safely after getting married. Women are becoming more and more attractive, and men will become more and more affectionate about you.
Please put aside the obsession that you have to be inseparable every day. Only when the two have the space to breathe on their own can life shine in the fresh sunshine.
The only way for men to truly be inseparable from you is to break these three "feelings".
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